TTC since 03/2011
BFP#1 spontaneous conception! 4/28/12 natural MC on 5/9/12
IUI#1 with clomid and trigger on 9/12/12
BFP#2 on 9/26/12 EDD 6/5/13
Beta #1 143 14dpo Beta #2 343 16dpo Beta #3 920 18dpo
Please, Please, Please stick baby!
Baby Mackenzie born 5/28/2013!
Re: Another DD?
Ha!
I was just about to post a rather nice reply, too.
FB creeps me out. If it wasn't my only contact with 90% of my friends, I'd delete my page in a heartbeat.
Oooo - look I still have part of the post since I had my reply open in a separate window:
Well, how do we know (in your own words) that you're not a man or a creep? This has been a really touchy subject on here, and a number of us are a bit protective.
Here's my reply to you that I didn't get a chance to post because you DD'ed (and I think it was rather rational, even if skeptical):
People make fake FB pages all the time. I've actually stopped posting in my other BMB FB group as much because it's my real name, photo, etc...and because FB keeps making it less private.
And seriously - it's really creepy that your first post was asking to join an FB group. No offense (if you're for real), but I wouldn't want to be a part of a FB group that allowed first-time posters to join. We "know" you even less than we "know" those who have been posting on here since September. Hence the snarky replies. We're actually a pretty low-drama group.
TTC since 03/2011
BFP#1 spontaneous conception! 4/28/12 natural MC on 5/9/12
IUI#1 with clomid and trigger on 9/12/12
BFP#2 on 9/26/12 EDD 6/5/13
Beta #1 143 14dpo Beta #2 343 16dpo Beta #3 920 18dpo
Please, Please, Please stick baby!
Baby Mackenzie born 5/28/2013!
It's late...it gets slow and the snark comes out.
But again, you yourself asked how you would know if people weren't men or creeps. Aren't we allowed the same skepticism?
Hang around awhile. We're nice people. There are other boards to try out if you don't like us....but (in case you consider it because of your due date) I would avoid July 2013. They have drama quite often.
im truly not trying to make fun of you. I can't believe someone who says they are in law enforcement and in the same breathe says Facebook is legit and only real people are on there.... I'm sure I'm not the only one... But hey it's only my view, who knows?
TTC since 03/2011
BFP#1 spontaneous conception! 4/28/12 natural MC on 5/9/12
IUI#1 with clomid and trigger on 9/12/12
BFP#2 on 9/26/12 EDD 6/5/13
Beta #1 143 14dpo Beta #2 343 16dpo Beta #3 920 18dpo
Please, Please, Please stick baby!
Baby Mackenzie born 5/28/2013!
I also find that part strange, but I'm in a good mood tonight and am giving her the benefit of the doubt.
i just let your evening cheer rub off on me too! I reminded myself how the person in front of me at Starbucks paid for my drink and I passed it on... Christmas cheer! I love that!
TTC since 03/2011
BFP#1 spontaneous conception! 4/28/12 natural MC on 5/9/12
IUI#1 with clomid and trigger on 9/12/12
BFP#2 on 9/26/12 EDD 6/5/13
Beta #1 143 14dpo Beta #2 343 16dpo Beta #3 920 18dpo
Please, Please, Please stick baby!
Baby Mackenzie born 5/28/2013!
Also (in case you're still lurking), there were many ladies on here who had to come back and say they miscarried, and others who have been scared that they might miscarry. I'm completely ignorant of what a subchorionic hematoma is or how it would affect pregnancy, and I'm glad that you made it through the scary part.
The FB thing is really touchy for many on here, so you happened to choose a really bad topic for your first post.
the ladies on here are actual very supporting of each other. But especially at the early stages we really value our privacy... When the first thing you ask is to join the Facebook group it throws up red flags... However I'm in the giving and happy mood, like the previous poster said, and lets start over! Welcome to the group... Later on we might do a fb but not for awhile, like third trimester. Hang around till then....
TTC since 03/2011
BFP#1 spontaneous conception! 4/28/12 natural MC on 5/9/12
IUI#1 with clomid and trigger on 9/12/12
BFP#2 on 9/26/12 EDD 6/5/13
Beta #1 143 14dpo Beta #2 343 16dpo Beta #3 920 18dpo
Please, Please, Please stick baby!
Baby Mackenzie born 5/28/2013!
if you think you were verbally attacked here (which you weren't) don't go by first trimester... They will eat you alive...
TTC since 03/2011
BFP#1 spontaneous conception! 4/28/12 natural MC on 5/9/12
IUI#1 with clomid and trigger on 9/12/12
BFP#2 on 9/26/12 EDD 6/5/13
Beta #1 143 14dpo Beta #2 343 16dpo Beta #3 920 18dpo
Please, Please, Please stick baby!
Baby Mackenzie born 5/28/2013!
Ok...last response because I have to go to bed.
FB is always changing things. I don't trust it at all. Who knows what they'll change with privacy settings in the future, and how do you know if everyone on there is legit? You really don't.
I'm glad you've had a good experience on your BMB FB group, but we had SERIOUS drama on mine that led to a serious split and serious mistrust, and involved some members wanting to seek legal action against another member. (They didn't and it turned out there wasn't a need, but we had weeks and weeks of crazy drama.) So...yeah. FB groups are great!
Good night and GL.
OMG. Now you called out my snark.
I was 99% nice to you except for re-posting part of your post that you deleted...but deleting posts is a really bad thing around here and you called that on yourself. And really, how do I know you're not a man or a creep or someone just trying to stir up drama? I've given you the benefit of the doubt in all of my posts.
There have basically been two of us responding, so therefore you included ME in your "you ladies" - thanks for letting me know I wasted my time being nice and trying explain why you got the replies you did. Any snark you read into my comments was of your own interpretation.
I posted comments of support, but I guess you've got your panties in such a wad that you're intent on reading meanness and snark into every reply.
Well, since you so kindly deleted your other post, I can't refer back to that one to see that anyone other than sheacox and I (the only two who posted multiple comments on THIS post) would be included in your accusation on THIS post of people being disrespectful. Clearly, by the lack of replies from others who posted in the original thread, they have all either all gone to bed or are sitting back watching the drama unfold and have no idea that you chose to chastise them in a thread that they didn't even particpate in.
It's late. We're pregnant. We're hormonal. Group hug, and let's all get some sleep. I promise - we really aren't mean. FB is just a really touchy subject.
TTC since 03/2011
BFP#1 spontaneous conception! 4/28/12 natural MC on 5/9/12
IUI#1 with clomid and trigger on 9/12/12
BFP#2 on 9/26/12 EDD 6/5/13
Beta #1 143 14dpo Beta #2 343 16dpo Beta #3 920 18dpo
Please, Please, Please stick baby!
Baby Mackenzie born 5/28/2013!
I did see that part. For future reference, you can edit a post after you post it. As long as no one has quoted you, all evidence is gone...as far as I know, at least.
She was being sarcastic, not mean.
DDs ("Dirty Deletes" or something like that) are looked down on on every board on here. People take the time to write out replies, and it's disrespectful to delete it. There may have been a lot of snark, but I had a legit answer for you and was annoyed that I wasted my time writing out a reply.
This really is a valid point.
And I'm really going to bed now.
Ladybugpjb has been extremely kind, understanding, gentle, and supportive of you! Much more then most people would have been.... That's why she took offense to you generalizing your response. Not because you said 'ladies'.... Now she is tired and going to bed!
Go to bed mama!!!
TTC since 03/2011
BFP#1 spontaneous conception! 4/28/12 natural MC on 5/9/12
IUI#1 with clomid and trigger on 9/12/12
BFP#2 on 9/26/12 EDD 6/5/13
Beta #1 143 14dpo Beta #2 343 16dpo Beta #3 920 18dpo
Please, Please, Please stick baby!
Baby Mackenzie born 5/28/2013!
It's a bit shocking getting some snark when you first join and haven't figured how the boards work yet. I can relate - I totally screwed up on one board when I first joined and innocently did the dastardly DD on another. Really great start, huh? I definitely learned my lesson lol. I too had no idea how much backlash was going to come my way because of it. Now you know
Anyways - welcome to the board and congratulations on your pregnancy. I agree with the PP. It's late, we're hormonal, but we really aren't that mean. Key word - hormonal ^_^ Night!
CJ 05/29/2013
CJ 05/29/2013
Facebook stalking absolutley should be one of them. Promise. I'm working on my degree in cyber security(and work in the field).
CJ 05/29/2013
CJ 05/29/2013
I have to agree with PPs, making your first post ever on the TB asking about a Facebook group is suspect... But regardless, there is no reason you can't start over here and get to know the women on this board. They are pretty f-ing awesome.
And just a note to the rest of the board... I am going to throw a massive temper tantrum if one more person suggests a facebook group anytime in the next few weeks.
M/C 7/8/12
Perfect baby boy born 7/8/13
BFP 8/20/14 EDD 4/27/15 It's a GIRL!!
After you finish your degree you should look for jobs with ICE at usajobs.gov. We are always hiring at least in my area forensic computer people.
CJ 05/29/2013
usajobs is such a pain in the rear. I used to work for the state version of ICE. Sadly I think money/benefits is better doing it as a private contractor. I almost went with DEA but they wanted me to move so I declined.
CJ 05/29/2013
Oh, good Lord! My bedtime prayer was "Please let that post be over!"
Sigh...
Other Ladybug poster (sorry, can't remember the rest of your SN), I'd suggest lying low a few days, reading other posts, checking out other boards, and then slowly come back on here (by replying to other posts first) if you want to join us. Even the ladies who have given you snarky replies are pretty nice.
Bahahahahaha I PPH you BLT...
M/C 7/8/12
Perfect baby boy born 7/8/13
BFP 8/20/14 EDD 4/27/15 It's a GIRL!!
I knew there had to be a picture out there somewhere. I seriously LOLed. And I haven't "heard" PPH in forever, thank you for that.
CJ 05/29/2013
We aren't nasty...
You can start over here, but please just let this thread die. All the women here are very protective about their privacy, you can't blame them for that.
I'm with BLT... I missed the DD post (but obviously get the gist of it now) but just going off of all the comments on here, I'm really sketched out.
Because there have been some seriously creepy people on here, stealing identities and pictures, passing them off as their own on other sites, pretending to be people they're not... as you said before how do you know we aren't all men or creeps?
And yes. yes please. Although I do know from several law enforcement officers that are family and friends... that that would be frowned upon by their superiors....
Saying things like the whole picture deal and going super in detail about your "career" is creepy, like you're trying to prove too much, pushing your story too much... l.y.i.n.g.
ETA: *Not to say you actually are, but the way you're acting and your comments really sound like that OP.
BFP #1: 6.26.12 EDD: 2.11.13 missed m/c: 7.31.12 @ 12 weeks
BFP #2: 10.1.12 EDD: 6.11.13 Born 6.13.13
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