I've been considering switching doctors since week 16 - and finally got the process started today at 22.5 weeks by faxing in a records transfer request. I sort of feel like one of those people who breaks up by text, or leaves your ex's possessions at the front desk to let them know it's over...
I hope they do the records transfer fast and let me move on...it's not them, it's me
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The practice isn't bad, I just want a more natural birth friendly hospital than the one they deliver at. BUT the practice I'm switching to is actually far closer to my house so I could easily chicken out and say that's my reason. I'm due in early March so I could still have winter weather to deal with when I go into labor...I think that's totally reasonable.
If they press me hard enough I could just say "....um I'm 28 years old, low risk, it's my first child, and you tried to sell me on the benefits of an elective c-section - you had to know you were rolling the dice with that one!"
I could think of some analogies to dating with that but none of them are quite appropriate thanks for the support ladies!
Yea I'm not worried, the worst they could do is ask me why I'm leaving, or drag their feet transferring records. I can handle both.
I actually WOULD tell them the real reason in this instance, only because it might make them think about their practices in the future. A lot of lessinformed women might be scared into a csection unnecessarily by that kind of talk. That being said I hate confrontation so I totally get why you might not want to speak up.
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Good luck!
I am so glad to know that I am not alone. I did the same thing, but at 19 weeks. My former OB/GYN had horrible bedside manner and the final straw was when she rolled her eyes at my Deaf husband when he asked her to look at him when she spoke to aid with lip reading. We found a new OB who is wonderful and sensitive to our needs as a couple and as first-timers. I never thought I would like a male OB, but he's just awesome. He has a relationship with me and my husband and it's the little things like how he tells me exactly what he's doing "down there" during exams and helps me up off the table (I'm big enough now that sitting straight up is tough) that makes him the right choice for us.
More power to you and remember that you are paying for a service and deserve the level of care that you want for you and your baby.
I switched and my old OB doesn't even know it I'm sure. (they see several more patients than just me obviously and I doubt they're keeping "tabs" on everyone's pregnancy, but rather leaving scheduling prenatal appts in the responsibility of the patient)
I simply requested my records from the front desk, and picked them up when they were ready. Also I switched only because I wanted to go to one that is close to my work so I could go to appts on my lunch break instead of having to leave work early or come in late every time I had an appt. (the old OB was close to my home/about 30 mins away)
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Oh I just did the same thing! ?At 14 weeks I made the decision to change - I'm expecting twins & feared I'd have they early, etc and the hospital I was going to deliver at didn't have a NICU, so if there were issues they would send the babies to another hospital while I was still stuck recovering at the 1st hospital.. without the babies. ?This was completely not an option for me - so I had to switch.
I was never in love with my OB/GYN, so it didn't break my heart to leave them to begin with, but when I called to tell them I was?transferring?(and I was honest about why...I needed a NICU!) they were pretty rude, so I'm VERY glad I made the switch. I think Moms have instincts like no one else in the world...and when you feel its right..its right.
?I've only had on appt with my new dr, but I can firmly say I know I made the right choice! ?They were so kind and welcoming & made me feel at home...very unlike my old office!
?Good luck to you & your new dr!?
Good Luck Momma... many of us for our many different reasons have been in the same boat as you. Your baby is more important than a doctors opinion of you. Besides they are technically your employee you are paying them,
I left my OB/Gyn for the same reasons as you. I wanted a natural unmedicated birth. The doc looked at me and said that "that's fine, you can have a natural birth just don't wear make-up it will make it natural" I about fell off the table. WHAT?!? who says that he was not kidding either. he wouldnt discuss the options with me just you will have a c-section or you wont. This was not my regular GYN it was a partner but wanted no chance he could be the one making the decisions when I am labor. I switched to a midwife and am so happy.
So true.
You call and request a transfer of records. Sometimes there's a fee.
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When I first got pregnant, my regular doctor offered to set up an appointment for me. I told her that it had to be a woman (my preference since I only want hubby there, no other man). She scheduled me with my current OBGYN. I had heard good about her but my former housemate said she was cold and screamed at her during her delivery. I was skeptical because that was the only bad report I had, but went in fully ready to "break up" with my doctor.
Thankfully, she and her staff are awesome! I was lucky enough not to have to break with her. However, I would have done so in a heartbeat had I not been comfortable.
To those of you who are uncomfortable and contemplating going to someone else, go for it! This is a very special time for you, but also a trying time. Go with the doctor who makes you feel most comfortable.
Good Job! Usually if you feel like it isnt working out you SHOULD switch. I did when i was 15 weeks.(Now im at 19 ) I had some bad experiences with apts and office staff. I did my switch the same way you did too! I called the other office and set up and apt and then had them send over the records request. I felt bad until I went to the new doctor and relized how much better it was for me! Good Luck to You!
I have considered the same, but thought I was to far long to go thru... I went for my 14 wk checkup and told my ob i had been having pain in lower part of my stomach for the last 2 days. She told me it was just growing pains, by the time i left the dr. it got worse, but i just let it go, because every pregnancy is diff. this was on a thursday, by saturday morn around 5:30 I was on my way to the er for bleeding. The drs. said everything was fine, but couldn't figure out why the ob didn't do a ultrasound. i go back in 2wks for my next checkup.
should i consider or not????
Fortunately, I haven't had to break up with my OB (I love her and her staff!), but I went into my search determined to find one that I would stick with because, let's face it, transferring can be a huge pain and we all want to stick with one person throughout the duration of the pregnancy.
Because my husband is in the military and they don't see pregnant women in the clinic on post, I had to jump through a few extra hoops to find a doctor (honestly, this advice could work for anyone so don't read past just because you're not in my situation).
I had to go to the clinic for a pregnancy test to confirm my at home test to get a referral. When the nurse called to give my results, I asked her if she were pregnant who she would choose as her OB. She gave me the name of a practice in the area and recommended all three physicians in the practice. I got online and looked up reviews of that practice, local practices in the area, and asked some friends and other women in the area where to go and where to avoid.
The place that the nurse recommended kept coming up as a great place, so I researched it a little more and chose to make an appointment. I LOVE that office, my provider, and all of the staff. The office is very clean and welcoming, they do their own ultrasounds, the doctor sits in there with me until ALL of my questions are answered and asks several times if I have more.
So, for those of you that are considering switching, ask your friends, family, and research online for recommendations and DON'T settle. If you go somewhere and don't get a good feeling about the place, don't stay. This is your health, as well as your child's. Be picky.
wow, that's shady.
In your situation, I'd just tell them why I was switching. But I'm a teacher, and I think everyone needs to be graded and given feedback. I totally understand not wanting to confront them!
Good luck! Hope your next choice goes better!
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Hi. This post was over a year old. Like from November 2011.