3rd Trimester
When do you plan to stop going out?
So it's Christmas season, and friends from overseas are visiting, meeting, gathering and everyone's busy shopping and all...
I'm going into Week 39 and as a FTM I have no idea if I should continue going out and risk having my water break in public or should I just stay put at home for Week 39 and 40? Very tempted to continue meeting friends while I'm on maternity leave but a little worried that I might panic and scar them for life if my water breaks in front of them. Haha.
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Re: When do you plan to stop going out?
Eek. Don't stay at home now. You'll be sick of your home by week 2 of having a newborn and be begging to get outside.
Something like 10 or 12% of women have their labor start with their water breaking. So it's not that likely.
Last time my water broke in the early morning while I was in bed.
If it happens again and I'm out at something it'll be uncomfortable for me but why would it scar my friends? They'll be so freak'n excited that they were there when it happened.
I was going out until the night before I went into labor. I went out to a friend's restaurant, came home around midnight, went to sleep, woke up at 9 am and my water broke--not a big gush, but more of a trickle.
TBH, I think you'll go stir crazy if you stop getting out just because you're worried about going into labor. You could still be looking at a couple weeks of pregnancy. And for most women there is no big gush so even if your water did break while you were out it's unlikely it would cause an embarrassing scene.
Babies dont have a timer. Its not like its going to go DING baby is ready. So go out enjoy yourself. That baby will come out when they are ready to come out.
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I was walking up and down and all around the mall last night in hopes of getting something going. NO SUCH LUCK. There is no reason to hide away in your house. I would go completely mad if I did.
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The chances of your water breaking as the first sign of labor, and it being a big dramatic gush, are so small. Usually it starts with mild contractions and you'll have plenty of time to get home and do whatever you need to.
With DS1 at 40+ weeks I was no longer working but I went shopping, out to eat with DH, even went to a professional networking event where a friend of mine was speaking! I see no reason not to enjoy yourself up to the last minute.
While this is not likely to happen to me since I'm scheduled early for Monday morning, I did hear an awesome piece of advice on this. ALWAYS carry a water bottle in your hand when you're out shopping or lunching...then if your water DOES break, you can drop the water bottle and just say "oops! I totally dropped my bottle!" and then leave. And no one will know your water broke.
Good luck! And take advantage of these last weeks if you're feeling good enough to be out and about. There's plenty of time at home in your future with baby.
Amen. The only thing that's going to keep me from playing is really nasty winter weather, but that wold be true no matter my condition. If you're concerned about your water breaking, then stick a maxipad in your purse. It doesn't happen like on TV & in the movies in the overwhelming majority of women, after all.
I have way too many things to get done to just sit at home waiting for this little guy!
With my last prenatal yoga classes a girl was there at exactly 40 weeks. She went into labour that night after class.
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DH just suggested a few days ago that I don't go out alone... I've still been going places in town (library with DS, grocery store, etc) But he'd rather I not go out to where the mall is- needing to take the highway- by myself. He brought up that if I start getting bad contractions, it would be hard to drive myself home from there...
I for sure would go with your friends! And as others have been saying, go while you feel you can!
Never. I have to work and take care of my son.
Even when the baby is here I won't stay home. You'll have doctor appointments and you'll want to get out of the house to run errands, visit people.
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With my first, I was one of the "ones" whose water broke out of the blue in a gigantic gush without contractions. I was at home, and it was early (35 weeks), so it wasn't embarassing. It was so early that DD's head wasn't engaged in my pelvis and this, according to my OB, is why it was a huge gush and not a trickle. It was all very surprising.
Even with that experience, with my second pregnancy I was out and about until the day I went into the hospital. If your water breaks - it breaks. Oh well. Even if your water breaks, labor doesn't hit you like a ton of bricks most of the time. Labor and delivery for FTMs is a gradual process. My second L&D was only 3 hours, but it still wasn't a crazy "OMG, these contractions are going to kill me" from the moment it started.
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Just go out. It may well be your last chance for a while!
FWIW only 10% of women have their water break at the beginning of labor.
It never occurred to me to stop going out.
People think about this?
Huh.
Never... If I could go out "during" I would