I wrote on here a few weeks ago because no one had yet offered to have a shower for me. When I was home for Thanksgiving my mom said that she would like to throw the shower, but wasn't sure what the etiquette was on that. I told her she could talk to my best friend and since I threw her shower I was sure she would offer to help my mom. Well my mom saw her and mentioned the shower and my friend said nothing of helping my mom. My mom is more then willing to throw it, which I am very thankful for. But I also think she was hoping to get some help from my friends. I am just annoyed and hurt that my friends didn't step up, especially when I threw them showers in the past!
Thanks for letting me vent! I know this isn't a huge deal. And I am very blessed that my mom is throwing a shower for me!
Re: Shower vent
If your mom really wants some extra help, maybe she could just ask your friend point blank. Or even you could. I know this isn't the way things are supposed to be done, but none of my friends would ever be offended if I just said, "Hey, my mom is throwing my shower, but is there any way you could help her with some ideas?" or whatever the case may be. I also wouldn't be bothered if one of my friends asked me in this way.
I don't really understand the bad etiquette of the mom hosting the shower. Someone asked me if my mom was throwing mine and I said "oh my aunt is...apparently it's bad etiquette for the mother of the honoree to throw it" and they were all confused and had never heard that.
Still crappy your friend didn't even offer to help, but have your mom do it and enjoy yourself!
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It's a girl!
Thanks for letting me vent about it!