Parenting
a DH question
Moms, what's your husband involvement level in raising your baby? Do you split tasks? Is there something else you would want him to do?
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Moms, what's your husband involvement level in raising your baby? Do you split tasks? Is there something else you would want him to do?
Re: a DH question
We split tasks. He really is a great daddy. One night I am in charge of bath and pjs and the next he is. He reads to them and tucks them in. Will help in the morning with the craziness.
He cooks dinner most nights because he likes to.
HE ROCKS!!
We try to equal parent- with both of us working we believe this is the right thing to do for us and for our kiddos.
lol
(Thought I'd add one to the post count while we're at it).
This is also a XP from the Dad's board. I don't think she realized that board isn't as active as others.
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/70257629.aspx
He's amazing - absolutely 50/50 with everthing. He changes diapers, plays with him, baths him, puts him to bed (every other night, we trade off), gets up with him if needed, etc.
Same goes for housework, except for cooking. We're still working on him getting the cooking part down.
Are there any other cool dudes on the Dad's board? Why don't they want to hang out with us?
We have equal involvement in raising our daughter. All "tasks" are pretty well evenly split (I get her ready for dc in the morning. He drops her off. I pick her up in the afternoon. He does bath time. etc...) We spend an equal amount of time with her both as a family and one-on-one. Well, I might spend a little more time with her one-on-one with her due to his 2nd/part time/seasonal job, but he definitely spends a good amount of alone time with her.
I can't think of anything else I want him to do that he doesn't do now. As she grows and her needs change, we adjust as a family, and we each take on new "tasks" or responsibilites as need be.
ETA: Oh.
Dammit. I'm wasting precious time trying to find a pony fighting gif when i could be posting. Challenge accepted!... with the recognition that I will probably either lose or get fired.
My previous research has paid off:
You can't see it?! It's a my little pony saying "Make me unsee it."
Hope that clears things up, you don't have to respond to this.
There are a few. LD and I tried to recruit them over here a couple 5 Things Thursdays ago, some lurked and liked it but no one has posted.
A couple guys over there take it very seriously and don't seem to have a sense of humor- which is fine. They are straight shooters and have good advice.
But honestly, we don't have any assholes or drama really. There was a good thread about a chick who was giving her husband like 7 blowies a week and she didn't give one one time and he got all pouty. Or something. Sookie had some good comments in it.
EDIT: Here it is.
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/68090557.aspx
I see how this works.
Her husband must be really unhappy if he complains about not getting a bj for one night. Who's unhappy about getting seven blowies a week? I say she let it go in his eye next time.
I do most of the baby "duty"- changing diapers, feeding, etc. I SAH and I just do that kind of stuff without even thinking. I am totally comfortable leaving him with DS and do nearly every weekend for at least a little while.
He is very hands on with play and stuff, though.
I would say that hubby and I are 50/50 as much as time allows. I have a little more time with her only because I get off of work much earlier than he does and have a shorter commute. He does everything I do, in pretty much even amounts.
I think the only thing that's not quite even-steven is that he does get SOME more time out and about without the baby while I stay home with her, but that's mostly because I am not proactive about it. He is not averse to it at all.
One thing he does more is change her when we're out and about, but mostly I think this is because he likes the chance to complain to management of places that don't have changing tables in the mens bathrooms. Well, and also she is adorable and I think he likes the attention.