April 2013 Moms
RavenlovesZeek
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Anyone having issues not being able to prepare?
RavenlovesZeek
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Me and my husband are moving to L.A. so I've put off doing much. I am repressing the nesting instinct and doing pretty much nothing but looking up everything about the baby and pregnancy. I'm running out of things to look up, and not being able to prepare for the baby is starting to drive me up the wall. Does anyone else relate? Or have any advice? Thanks
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Re: Anyone having issues not being able to prepare?
I am also putting off preparing. I am living in a really rural part of Cambodia (necessary for my work) and I will be moving to Phnom Penh (the capital) in January and then going to Bangkok, Thailand in mid-March where I will stay until I deliver. I think we will end up back in Phnom Penh after I deliver, but we won't have a place arranged to live in advance. It sucks because we have to keep our purchases to a minimum and I can't prepare a nursery. I know the nursery is more for the parents than for the child, but it still sucks.
When are you moving?
I had similar feelings last time b/c DH made me wait til after the shower to buy anything. Also we didn't have a nursery anyway, which made me sad. In hindsight it was not a big deal though.
You can start setting money aside for baby expenses if you want. Whenever you have an extra $20 that you'd want to spend on baby, put it on a walmart/BRU/target gift card to use later. That way when you are ready, you have all the money set aside.
You can also start an online registry to start planning out what you want/need...
But really there are very few things that newborns actually need, so it is not the end of the world if you're not "prepared."
I'm in the same boat. My husband is in the Army and we are leaving for Germany shortly after the baby is born; therefore, there is no point of trying to create a fairytale nursery. We will me fixing/up and selling the house the same time the baby is coming, which will def. equate to chaos I am sure.
I had a friend who was in a very similar situation and she did her research on each item she wanted (especially bigger things) and then bought a box of cheap envelopes and would put a little picture of the item on the envelope and then she'd save money and whenever she got enough saved for one of the items she'd put the money in and seal the envelope and put it in a special basket. I dunno if this would help you at all, but she said it helped her feel like she was checking things off of her list when she couldn't physically get things, plus once they moved into their house she was able to go on a full our shopping spree and get everything she'd been dreaming of all at once.
good luck!!
This exactly.
I actually haven't felt the desire to start nesting yet, so the nursery-to-be is just a room full of junk for the time being. I'm too tired and icky feeling to actually do anything.
I'm in a similar situation.
We're in the midst of buying a new house but the selling bank hasn't cleared the title yet so we're in an indefinite holding pattern. To say that it's frustrating to want to get things settles is an understatement.
We are moving out of our house in a few weeks into temporary housing while our home is remodeled. We won't be able to move back in until new baby is about 1 or 2 months old, so no advance shopping for us either.
You can still research the gear you want/need and make a registry, and put all the money you need for those purchases aside. You can also search on pinterest or google for nursery photos you like for ideas how you would like to decorate once baby is here - even go to Home Depot or whatever to pick out the paint color if that's part of your plan.
Our nursery was our old guest room, so we didn't set her room up until I was 9 months pg last time. There's really no rush.
Yes yes yes! DH gets out of the Army in May and we will be moving away from this crappy town we both hate before LO is even a month old. So we're going to buy a PnP (or hopefully, get one as a shower gift) with a bassinet and baby will just sleep in our room until after the move. There's no way we're buying a bunch of nursery furniture and toys and junk that we'll just need to move right away (and we all know newborns don't use toys, even though they are adorable). So we're only buying basics.
I love the envelope idea! I might need to start that, or something like it.
What I've been doing (and this is tough too, as I did it pretty thoroughly last year before I moved here) is trying to go through my stuff and give away/throw away what I don't need anymore. It's good to do before moving, and feels kind of like nesting to me. Since I just did it though, I'm not having much luck. A couple pairs of shoes and clothes I thought I would wear but didn't, and a couple things I got newer versions of as gifts is all I've been able to manage. But I'm trying.
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I think all the PPs made great points, so I just want to add, Welcome to LA! it's a great place to be!!
I'm moving in maybe 2 weeks (i hope) and we are going to have to stay with friends until we can afford our own place. It really does suck not being able to build a nursery.
Thanks! I've missed it!
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