June 2011 Moms
MrsI
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CPW: Candy/Sweets
MrsI
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Do you allow LO to have sweets/candy? I was shocked to see on another board that some LO's still have never had sweets and was curious if I was in the minority or them 
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Re: CPW: Candy/Sweets
DD falls into the 'couple times a month' category, and it always happens at the grandparents' houses, never my own :P DD ate an entire ice-cream sandwich one day at the ILs. She has never had candy though.
Bell had cake at her birthday (and smash). Also we?ve been to a few parties where she had a bite of something but never gets her own.
Though I'm almost positive my mother gives her sweets on occasion but she knows never to actually admit to that.
That said I will let her have some halloween candy this year.
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I put "a few times a month" because that's what I'd prefer. He's had cake or ice cream at a party, a bite of a cookie, etc. It's all fine in moderation IMO.
But DC gives him sweets several times a week which is too much I think.
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So far, she's only had any sweets on special occasions like her birthday or if we're at someone else's party. I'm a bit of a health nut and I purposely keep sweets out of the house because I know the limits of my self-control.
At the last get together we went to, there a chocolate mousse cake. DD had literally 3 bites and was running around like a lunatic. I really don't need that on a regular basis. lol.
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DD has something sweet almost every night. She also begs for it some nights, I know it's not for everyone but I don't think we are doing any harm. She is in the 5 for weight so I'm not really concerned about that right now. Our sweets consist of yogurt raisins chocolate and vanilla chocolate covered blueberries, a few mini mms and occasionally something else we might have like a cookie or pudding. So it's not like we give her a whole candy bar either. And she LOVES her fruits and veggies so she eats very balanced meals.
I said a few times a month but it's not that often that she gets real sweets (dessert-type things)... it's more than just her birthday though. I can think of a handful of occasions where she has had sweets: a little cake on her birthday, a little cake at her grandfather's birthday, a piece of cider donut when we were out apple picking, and maybe one other time.
She has never had candy and won't for a while yet, I don't think.
That being said, she does have healthy sweet things like yogurt with fruit mixed in, plain fruit, etc. We also let her have graham crackers and dates that have some sugar added, which I guess could be considered sweets (but I don't think of them as "dessert").
I assume you're meaning candy, cupcakes, chocolates, cookies, cake, ice cream, etc. In that case, rarely. If it's a birthday, a holiday, grandma's house on a rare occasion, etc, then yes, I'll let her have something (without icing). However, we don't give her things like that at home.
I do, however, let her have the occasional animal cracker, fruit snacks, or yogurt raisin when I can't get her to eat anything else. I find these to be far less "evil" than straight cookies, cupcakes, etc.
He never has candy candy, but he has a cookie, piece of cake, or pie regularly. I love baking so at least once a week we have a good dessert in the house and he gets some. On a daily basis his sweets are usually a few animal crackers or a couple graham cracker squares.
no candy but sweets like MIL's homemade Cambodian desserts made with fruits and sweet rice, yes.
Once in a while froyo and vegan/organic chocolates when I am eating them.
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I've been side eyeing your sanctimommy self since the circ post. Please remember that your opinions are just that. YOURS. If you don't circ or feed sweets, awesome for you. It doesn't mean that those who make a different choice are wrong.
/hormone fueled rant. The way you stated your opinion rubbed me wrong...
Hmm.. I was just answering the question asked by the OP. Asking if I feed my child sweets. My answer was saying Nope, I feed my child (Sam) an organic, whole foods diet. The OP was asking, so I stated my opinion. And our kids are too young for sweets, IMO.
And in regards to the circ post - you're right, my opinion is just that. My opinion. I feel really strongly about circ, and while I may not have chosen the best words to state that, it doesn't mean that I was intentionally trying to make other mothers feel poorly. I am a very literal and up front person, and I tend to state my opinion in a very upfront manner. In some aspects of my life, this is a blessing and in some (like here) it seems to be an invitation for hormone fuelled responses such as yours.
My "Sanctimommy self" thanks you for the call out though. It was exactly what I needed tonight!
I had no issue with you stating the choice you've made for Sam. But saying "OUR children are far too young for sweets" is, at least to me, implying that those who think it's okay in moderation are wrong. I think that does make other mothers feel poorly.
As does stating that you judge families who have made a personal decision regarding their sons.
The only part of my rant that was [jokingly] fueled by hormones was calling you sanctimommy and for that, I'm sorry. It was flat out rude. It would have been better for me to say that the way you state your strong opinions seems offensive to me.
She said that yes, but you are ignoring the things she said before. She preceded the statement with "I personally think." Nothing about that statement says that she thinks her opinion is dogma. She thinks that children this age are too young, and you disagree, so you think that she is wrong. Fine. Should lovelove feel badly because many of the other posters disagree with her?
Obviously, we all have to make choices for our children based on what we think is best for not only our individual child but children in general. If someone feels badly about her choices because someone states mild disagreement (note she didn't say, "you are terrible mothers" "don't you know there is an obesity epidemic," or any of the other potentially hurtful super-judgy statements that could have been said in this thread), then maybe she needs to think about the choice until she is secure about her decision.
I am perfectly willing to accept that maybe I am the only one who felt that way. I'll also admit my knee jerk reaction and first reply were definitely colored by my feelings on another of her strong opinions. As I've already apologized for calling her sanctimonious, I'll stand by what I've already stated. The way her opinions are stated bothers me.
That's all. I have no ill will for lovelove, I remember her awesome birth story and I respect she's obviously doing what she believes is best as a mom, just like the rest of us.
ihearttab - You're right, I tend to have a very blunt way of wording things. And after thinking about this for a few days, I've come to realize that perhaps I can come across as sanctimonious in some of my posts. (This is not my intention!) I have a very natural and holistic approach to parenting, and a lot of my choices and views are not popular ones on The Bump. For the most part, I chime in on neutral subjects and stay out of the controversial ones. (With the exception of the circ' post, of course.)
I believe in keeping babies intact and whole. I believe in feeding them only nourishing and whole foods. I use cloth diapers, he wears organic clothing, and we do not vaccinate. I am sorry if that makes you uncomfortable, or seems sanctimonious or "holier than thou" to you - but truly that is just my personal stance on parenting and my choice on how I raise my babies. I can assure you that I only have the best of intentions in mind. My feelings about circumcision (and the way I worded them) seem to have really affected you in a lingering and negative way. I've already apologized for for the offensive manner in which I stated my opinion, and will try to be more aware of the impression my chosen words are leaving in the future.
All the best to you.