Is nothing sacred anymore??
MIL just called me to tell me that her sister (the midwife) called her and that my SIL also spoke to her and that all three of them have decided that I need to have sex so this baby can come out. I very nicely explained to her that DH and I spoke about this and that we both (for our own personal reasons) don't feel comfortable with having sex right now and that I have been having some pain during internals, etc, so that though I appreciate her suggestions, sex is not really an option for us at this time.
Her answer? "well, thats what I did with my kids and it worked, and we think you should just do it"
I called DH immediately. I have a great relationship with MIL, but I am seriously exhausted of the sex comments. I would like to think that, though its obvious DH and I have had sex in the past (duh!), some things are still sacred between a married couple, and that I would like to leave it as such.
Whyyyyyyy!??!?!?!
Re: Is nothing sacred anymore??
I'll be honest, first thing that comes to mind is oh, sex can help it along? lol. But I agree, we haven't had it for several weeks now because it's just too uncomfortable and awkward and it does nothing for me. Thankfully I hadn't had any sex comments from people, but I'd be mortified truthfully. I'd tell them thanks for your concern, but when the baby's time is here it'll happen.
Besides, just because it helped them doesn't mean it'll help you. I'm so glad I'm separated now from those people who kept telling me this and that about pregnancy, delivering, labor, etc...all day it'd be their stories that will omg definitely apply to me! Shut up people.
At least she didn't ask you if you were doing nipple stimulation...
Seriously, though, people should just butt out.
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Whoa - that's really awkward. You should tell her that you would but your H is so big, and because he likes it rough, it just hurts too much. Make sure you do this in person though so you can tell us what shade of crimson she turns
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This. Discussing sex with my MIL?! Uh, no.
Best response ever! LOL
I agree with PPs - I would've said something like "Thanks for the tip" and left it at that. No need to tell others what goes on behind your bedroom doors. If MIL asked, I'd simply reply "Do you really want to know about your son's sex habits?"
I don't think I would have even answered her or perhaps a polite thanks for the advice, end of subject.
I don't discuss my sex life with anyone other than DH because well.... it's really nobody else's business what DH and I do in the bedroom.
This!
I'm close with my MIL too...but that is crossing a LINE, seriously.
hahaha this is an awesome response. And ew, that's not a conversation I would EVER want to have with my MIL!
yes! SO awkward! At least my MIL is in london and can only whatsapp me - i'd be mortified to have this conversation on the phone.
And if possible, make sure you get MIL on video when you do this, you could easily get a million views on youtube.
THIS! HA!