3rd Trimester
blueeyedgirl27
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Had my first rude pg-related comment yesterday..
blueeyedgirl27
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First of all, I'm moving over from 2nd tri, so hi ladies!
I was working yesterday (I take care of senior citizens) at an independent living facility and I took her down to dinner. Well when I passed by a table of ladies they asked me when I was due. When I told them (Jan 2) one lady said, "That's a horrible time to plan a due date. Or was it even planned?" I wanted to say to her "no Ma'am, he forgot to pull out" but I just smiled sweetly and told her that yes, we planned this baby and it didn't matter to us what time of year he's born as long as he's healthy, and walked away. I know she probably didn't mean anything by it but it was still irritating.
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Re: Had my first rude pg-related comment yesterday..
That's so rude when people ask if it was planned or not.....like it's any of their business. I've only had a couple of rude comments, and they happen to be from the same woman at work.
She told me a couple of weeks ago, like right before I was 32 weeks, "Wow, you've really ballooned up this past week". Ummm, no, no I did not balloon up over that week, in fact I had a horrible stomach bug and was sick and lost weight. I really wanted to say "Well, I'm almost 8 months pregnant and my waist is still smaller than yours" (which it actually is), but I refrained.
Then one day she was walking down the hall and when she looked up and saw me started laughing. I guess because I was waddling, but still rude. Its not as if I want to walk like that, but I'm in such horrible pain some days, any movement at all is pure agony. I just thought to myself, would you laugh at someone who had some degenerative disease that prevented them from walking normally? I should hope not, so why is it ok just because I'm pregnant?
I'm a librarian and I work with the public so I get to hear all sorts of lovely things. I had this conversation last week:
rude man : "Wow you look ready to pop"
me: "Well, I hope not, I still have 8 weeks left"
rude man: " Yeah, you are going to be humongous"
Thank you sir, just what every pregnant woman likes to hear.
I went to the in office nurse at my job to get something for my headache. So I told her it can only be tylenol because I'm pregnant.She then said "maybe it's stress you only look 18, was it planned? Do you want the baby?" I was so shocked I said "Actually I'm 27, happily married and very happy to be pregnant" Grabbed my pills and left. I was pissed. Who asks if you want your baby? Even if I was 18 and it wasn't planned what makes you think I wouldn't want my baby?
DD 12/20/99, DS 12/14/12, M/C 9/2014, M/C 1/2015
I get this every.stinkin'.day! SO annoying!!
'Til He returns, or calls me home,
Here in the power of Christ I stand.
I also had a guy at the grocery store mention how small I was thinking I was only 5 months along (ok freak I look like I'm about to pop I know) Then he proceeded to say that I must not have gained much weight. OK thanks, but why comment on a woman's weight gain? and third when I told him that this was #3 he went into this weird comedian character and tried to speak in a hispanic accent and said that my birth canal was no longer that, but a slip n' slide. WTH?! Really?!
I practically RAN out of the aisle and out of the store in a hurry! Really? Who says these things to a random stranger, let alone a pregnant lady?!
'Til He returns, or calls me home,
Here in the power of Christ I stand.
I get big when I'm pregnant, it's just what my body does. Still it doesn't make me feel better about the comments. My mom is ALWAYS asking me my weight gain, she is mad I won't tell her my actual weight. At DS's bday party my dad walks in and stops, stares at me and goes "Holy Sh.. are you sure there isn't two in there?" Now I know it's been a month, at least, since I've seen him, but come on. I didn't reply I just kept doing whatever it was I was doing. Good thing he and my mom aren't married any more I'd hate all the huge comments at once. I know my dad didn't mean to offend me, he isn't that way, but still he should have thought before he spoke.
My neighbor has an in home nurse because of a stroke a couple years ago, 2 or 3 weeks ago she asked when I was due. When I told her she got really loud and was like "dang! OMG! Are you serious! you are so big! Just remember if you have that baby early, cuz it's so big, I'm right next door and can call 911. hahaha"
really lady. Even if I had a 5 minute labor, I'm sure I can handle dialing 3 numbers.
OMG!!! How rude!! I would have ninja kicked her in the boob!! WTF who says something like that?!
This. I work in a hospital, so I deal with the public and new faces everyday. And I swear every single person who looks at me asks when I am due...and when I reply that I still have ten weeks to go, all I hear is "you'll never make it" or "but you're already so huge!"....Maybe its hormones, but it makes me want to rip someone's head off! lol