Everyone is talking about ordering their crib, painting the nursery, etc. I'm starting to feel like the only person that not in any way prepared for this baby!
I'm not having a baby shower. My mom was thinking of planning one (or a meet the baby) but my grandma talked her out of it. This means it's up to me to get everything.
The only purchase I've made for this baby is a few outfits that I got at a consignment shop. Beyond that, she's got nothin'
I'm stressed out and overwhelmed
Re: Feeling like the lone unprepared idiot.
Pshhh ... I've ordered nothing and have about 4 small outfits we picked up at sales here and there. I figure that being due in February will give me plenty of time to search around for products that have good customer reviews AND are in our price range (I HATE being rushed into buying things and like to do research and be confident with my purchase). I told DH today that I want to wait until black friday and cyber monday to even think about ordering a crib and cloth diapers because we might find some great deals on great items. If not, we still have 3 months to go. Other than that, the baby space in our room (nook area off to the side) has barely been cleared out.
The only BIG thing I have done was finish the top of a quilt I am making for baby . For some reason, it was painfully urgent for me to do the quilt.
You are not alone. I'm right there with you!
We are not making any major purchases until after my shower (December 1st). There will be a lot of people invited, so chances are we will get a lot of the things we need as gifts. After that, we will evaluate what we still need and go from there. Plus, that gives us more time to save up some money to make the big purchases (crib, glider, stroller, etc. which are on my registry but I don't expect anyone to buy them).
Anyway, I know you're not having a shower, but I don't think you're really far behind or anything. There are lots of us on here who haven't done much yet in the way of preparing. It might help your stress level to just make a list of all the things you need to do and start out small. Even doing one small thing is better than nothing, and I find that crossing off items on a list brings about a sense of satisfaction
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I have bought the baby 3 outfits, and some clearance bottles, before he was conceived.
I am not having a shower, since this is number 2, (I think work may throw me one, but that will most likely be small things like clothes) But I did register at Target, so I can get a complete your registry discount. I am also waiting until the have the bigger things we need (swing, bouncer, rnp...) on clearance for pattern changes. Plus I figured we won't need a high chair for a while, so I am not worrying about that.
We have begun to empty the nursery out, it was our office, but again, in no hurry, since we need to buy a new smaller desk, and we haven't yet.
I'm a procrastinator as it is though so I'm pretty chill about deadlines most of the time. But I can understand where most people are coming from being a little nervous. But just know you are not alone in not having much done. I'm sure many of us don't still. We'll all get there!!
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"Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?...But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Matthew 6:26-27&33-34
Due to an impeding move (where to is TBD, but staying local), we have ONE blanket that I bought on a whim. Our condo sale closes Nov 30 so sometime around then we should have a better idea of where we will be when baby comes (if we can't find a house we like, we'll rent and hunt again in the spring market). Not only do we have nowhere to store baby items, I don't think it's practical to pay to move them. So we wait ,and it's stressful, but I'm confident it will all work out in the end! You're not alone in this--I indulge my impulses with Pinterest and a private wish list on Amazon.
The wise STMs on here have great advice about what essentials are truly needed when baby is born. I love PP's idea about decorating in January--it will indeed help fill the time after the holiday celebrations die down. Hang in there!