do you and DH have sex?
I just do not understand why people look at me and my DH so crazy because we do not have a lot of sex. In all honesty we have had sex 4 confirmed times and 1 time in question in 2012. Other ladies hear that and they look at me like I am not telling the truth. Like that is something to brag about. Sex has never been a huge interest for me in any relationship I have had. It never has and i am sure at this point never will.
Is it true. Are all these ladies around me having sex 2x a week?
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ETA: Stupid bump mobile. It took out my hyphen! Lol. 4 TO 5 times a week!! Not 45! My goodness.
1-2 per week pre-pregnancy. In the last 17 weeks, we have only done it once. I'm high risk so we are being careful.
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OMG when i started reading this i thought 45 times? do they have jobs or leave their bedroom ever LOL thanks for the laugh
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Lol, I think my jaw dropped there for a moment when I read that!
If you and your DH are fine with the amount of sex you are having, try not to let other people make you feel bad.
DH has a much higher drive than I do. If it were up to him, we'd have sex every day. I'd totally be fine with once a week. I try to compromise and we average about 2-3 times a week. It's been hard for me lately because I'm so exhausted when we go to bed.
I agree with everyone else that as long as you both are on the same page, I don't think the amount of times you do it compared to others should matter.
As for us, we typically have sex 3-4 times a week. We go through phases though. There have been times were we do it 5 times a week then others where it is once a week. I think it depends on our work schedules and mood that week.
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about 3 times / wk pre-pregnancy
about 2 times / wk during this pregnancy. I am exhausted from working and having a toddler.
As long as both of you are comfortable with doing it as little as you are, then everything is Aok!
As long as both people are happy...why should I care how many times, or how long, or when it happens!
I will share that my other pregnancies seemed to kick my drive into overdrive...but not so this time. I struggling to want any sexual contact. Thankful I have a loving patient hubbs who knows Thar pregnancy only last for a short while and we will be back to our old selves ;
We used to have a lot of sex, but after DD was born my labido tanked. Recently it's been about once a week, but were SO tired and there never seems to be a good time. When we went on our honeymoon and actually spent some time together without a toddler, we had sex all week!
We've also decided to not have sex the rest of the pregnancy, due to me being high risk now. My OB never said we had to stop but we just both agreed that we don't want to take *any* chances. I'd really like to get to the point where we have sex 3x a week after this LO, it's just so hard when your exhausted all the time!
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Pre-pregnancy it was maybe 2 times per week (when we were not TTC) if Hubs was not out of town for work.
Since being pregnant, I think it has been 3 or 4 times. Nausea and my evening "personal space bubble" are not conducive to lovin'.
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We have sex maybe once a week - but it has always been like that because we both work full-time and we have a very crazy schedule. i feel like i havent been as "sexy: lately but i feel like im just getting bigger and bigger so i'm very self-conscious. i will say, on our honeymoon (when i got pregnant) we had sex 12 times in 6 days - that was a RECORD for us! no really surprised i got prego!
just make sure your hubby knows you love him
I'm on the low end too (and always have been), for those of you out there feeling like crap for having no sex drive I've always been super-sensitive down there (sex has always been uncomfortable) .. and it's just never been a big part of our relationship (which he says is just fine, but it still bothers me).
We haven't had sex since getting pregnant as I'm now concerned DH is going to "bump" my cervix if we try, and I worry about spotting. I was always at my most excitable when I was ovulating though, which hasn't happened in 4 mos., so what do you expect?! I DO keep trying to muster the courage to surprise him in bed one night though, but it hasn't happened yet!
I think DH is just so deliriously happy that we're having a baby, that he hardly cares about the lack of sex. Nobody would even have any clue that we weren't going at it like rabbits judging by the way he dotes on me now. I do still make an effort to show him I care in bed, but in a way that's not so uncomfortable for me
Great thread, I feel like it's putting a lot of people's insecurities to rest!
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This made me giggle.
And OP I could do without sex as well. I dont know why but it is just not as appealing to me as it used to be. But DH has a high sex drive so I try to keep that in mind and make sure I take care of him as well. He is a very physical person. So for us 3-4, and that's on a good week! LOL
I had to come back to add, that I get the impression DH finds me even sexier now that I'm carrying his baby even though I feel the LEAST sexy of my whole life, and I'm guessing he's not the only guy to ever feel that way towards his pregnant partner. Good ol' Murphy's Law, huh?!
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