My "Thank you" vent
EastCoastBride
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Went to a baby shower a couple months ago. It was co-ed and just knowing the couple AND the hosts- it was definitely more of a party than it was a shower. So I wasn't surprised that there wasn't a gift opening. I was having a good time, getting to see people I hardly ever see - it was all good.
Probably about 6 weeks later, the baby is finally born. Still haven't gotten a thank you.
THEN we get the birth announcement. A photocard from shutterfly and preprinted on it is a message to the effect of "Thank you for your support and generosity".
I read it a couple times and I realized - "THIS is our thank you".
Seriously? There was no written message or signature. Just a 100% pre-printed card.
And while I initially didn't care that they didn't open the gifts, when I got this as our thank you, I was actually now a bit annoyed. I didn't even get a genuine thank you from them at any point.
These are people who I really thought would know better.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Re: My "Thank you" vent
Wow! I don't mind when people take a while to get TYs out... but I would hate to get just something generic and pre-printed.
This is made more annoying b/c they opened the gifts at their leisure. So they could've opened a gift, written a note, then gone to the next gift.
If they had at least opened the gifts in front of us and had given a heartfelt "thank you" at that time, I really wouldn't care. But as showers are about the gifts, I really do think that people need to make a real effort to let their guests know that they do appreciate the gift. A generic "thank you" simply doesn't convey genuine gratitude.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
i agree. i can understand how you feel.
Honestly- I just think they are being lazy about it. And it's disappointing.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I received a similar "thank you" last week for a shower that was a little over three months ago. Even DH asked why it took them so long if all they were planning on doing was sending a generic message.
I got a similar wedding thank you in the mail last week. Not only was it nearly 1 year to the day after they were married (I'm not exaggerating, they were married August 30th and I got it August 28th) but it was a printed photo card with "Thank You" on the front and a blank peel and stick label like the kind you buy at Staples for school supplies with the message "S&J; thank you for your gift it was greatly appreciated. M&A.
Even lazier; I saw my moms thank you card from them since she was just as appauled by hers and wanted to show me....it was the EXACT same card, same message and all. All I could think was if you were going to be so lazy, why not just type out the message on the back and avoid the dumb looking lable. Or if it took a year to get the photo cards from your photographer for some unforseen reason, you had a year to write thoughtful messages on your stupid lables before sticking them on.
So, you purposefully gave a gift without a card? Your friend is probably driving herself, her husband, and her parents crazy trying to find it and figure out who the gift is from. How very sweet of you.
I so agree with Liz on this. We got a gift from someone and it really made me feel bad that we had NO idea who gave it to us. I don't think it was purposely done...but who knows (there are obviously people out there that do this).
As for the preprinted (picture or not) that is just plain laziness. I would probably call them and ask if they enjoyed using the gift I gave them. Make them squirm...KWIM? I'm mean like that sometimes. lol
I'm sure time is short because of the new baby, but I understand your frustration.
I got a thank you card recently thanking me for the clothes I bought the child. UM, I bought a blanket and bibs. The bibs, to me, don't count as clothing. The mom got a lot of gifts and someone was keeping track of them, but still....... I know there's a chance the person keeping track of the gifts wrote it wrong, but who knows.
Even if they wanted to wait on the TYs so they could sent a printed card with a photo of the baby with it, they could have (and probably should have) handwritten a thank you note on the back of the card - problem solved.
My cousins SUCK at thank you notes for things I've bought them and their kids, they either never come at all or they're so late I forget I didn't get one until it arrives. I'm hyper vigilant about getting TY's out as soon as I can.