What does your DH DO?
maybebaby3456
member
When LO is throwing a fit? Our LO is 5 weeks and she is a great baby, really only cries hard when hungry. DH gives her her nighttime bottle and has been doing great with her, changing her when she needs it, gets her dressed in the am occasionally etc. Well tonight I put her in her swing @ 5 and went to the pharmacy while DH watched her (she was sleeping when I put her in there) and when I got back at 540 she was screaming bloody murder. He handed me off to her and I rocked, shushed and patted her back and she settled down a little but not completely because she was hungry...anyways DH said she had been like that for 10 min and I could tell he was really frustrated. He said "I cant EVER get her to calm down when shes crying, even a little bit"
I feel so bad for him! He said he tried all of the things that normally calms her down and nothing worked and that it is just him. Does she only calm down for me because she knows I have the goods (milk)? Or because DH is working all day and Ive been with her 24/7? Obviously she is too little to "like or dislike" anyone but I feel like my DH thinks our daughter doesnt "like" him. Any tips or advice or anyone in the same boat? Can your DH calm your LO?
Re: What does your DH DO?
Sometimes the littles just want mama.
There have been times when DH or my mom has been holding DS and he gets fussy and nothing will calm him down, until I take him. Then he is happy as a clam.
2/06 - surprise pregnancy - twins
3/06 - m/c 1st baby at 6 weeks
5/06 -2nd baby had no heartbeat at 14 wks.
D&E - Bled out. Blood transfusions. Week in ICU - Cheated Death!
Diagnosis: Blood clotting and bleeding disorder, immune issues, & cervical stenosis
5/10 - 1st IVF cycle - BFN
FET - 10/12/10 - BFN
1/11 - IVF with PGD - BFN
IVF - May - BFN
6/11 New RE - fingers crossed!
9/11 - IVF - 4 transferred
10/13 - BFP!!
It's a boy! Clint Michael, Due in June!!!
The same exact thing happens at our house. DH works so hard to calm and soothe LO when he's freaking out, but LO only wants the milk machine. I think it's a combination of the milk smell, the milk feel (he knows how my arms feel, how my breasts feel, how my voice sounds and how that means milk is coming), and the fact that I spend half the day nursing him so he's more used to me.
We make up for it by making sure DH gets lots of holding time when LO is awake and happy, and he burps and changes him so LO might start to associate him with other kinds of relief. He sings to him a lot and plays with him during tummy time. It doesn't help when LO is starving and only wants milk, but it does help when he's being generally fussy.
My husband uses some of the 5 S's (happiest baby on the block) to calm him down. He swaddles him, holds him on his side, and walks around with him while gentle jiggling him. It works every time. Here's a pic to show you what I am talking about. He's got the magic touch because I try to do the same and fail!
my DH does really well with my son.. and he's come a really really far way.. (considering orginally he didn't want kids because they had to start as babies..to I'm not holding them til he's 1...he's come a really long way) DH does feed him & has started doing wet diapers (still working on the poopy ones) but when DS is mad or upset or fighting sleep he does pretty good at first & than he gets frustrated & starts to worry & upset that DS isn't calming down immediately (he's an instant gratification kinda guy) & than usually hands him to me & tell me "I can't calm him down". And usually its a simple solution...in my case I think with DH & DS it starts out as a simple problem I'm sleepy or hungry but than DH doesn't know how to make him happy immediately & he gets frustrated & tense & my son feels his tension & gets upset even more...I think babies can feel/sense that kinda stuff
He can but since I'm the primary care giver (I'm a stay at home mom) he gets flustered when our son starts crying. I took his cell phone and made him a list of everything I do to help calm our son down in his note pad. This way when hes flustered he can go down and check things off. I even put get Sarah on the list so if he gets to the bottom and he's stumped he doesnt feel embarassed about asking for help
I call my DH the baby whisperer, he is great with our son. I wasn't expecting so much out of him since he works full time and I stay home, but he does diaper changes, pumped feedings, tummy time and majically gets him to sleep when I can't.
I tend to have to walk/bounce/sway and pull out all the stops. DH just lays him on his chest, talks to him, and plays video games and he goes right to sleep. Not fair!