Sister is TTC (Monday rant)
tinne004
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When I saw my sister last year, we were joking about babies and she said, "You better not get knocked up before me, I'm the eldest after all." I think she was partly serious because I was the first to get married, buy a house, etc. and a lot of family attention went with that. I think she wants to get pregnant first so she gets some of that attention finally. I told her that sounded fair and I would probably wait a while to have kids anyway.
My sister is nearing her 30th birthday, and she and her partner were TTC via sperm donor. Everything was rolling along smoothly until they found out the donor they chose didn't have enough swimmers, so now they have to do the whole process over again.
Fast forward to this year, and after much discussion DH and I decide we can't wait any longer. We started trying in June, and to our surprise we got a BFP our first time! I immediately thought of my sister. She lives two states away, and I won't see her until mid-August (I will be 12 wks along) at a big family reunion. I was going to do a big announcement at the reunion, but I don't want to rub it in my sister's face that I got pregnant first.
I was thinking of two choices- either call her in a few weeks after my ultrasound and try to have a heart to heart over the phone, or wait until I see her next month and gently break the news in person. I don't know if she will be genuinely upset that I couldn't wait any more, or if she will be happy for me despite being a little bummed out that she couldn't be the one bringing the first child/grandchild into the family.
If you read this far then thanks for your time. I just needed to vent about something I know needs to be done, just afraid to do it.
Re: Sister is TTC (Monday rant)
The Baloney Bug, A Blog
It's a girl!
BFP #2 (5/18/13) due 1/26/14. Grow baby grow!
Its a surprise! Team green!
Thanks ladies, looks like the vote is unanimous! After thinking about it more I agree with you all about calling her first. I just hope that I can effectively convey my feelings over the phone, basically that I waited as long as I could out of respect for her and I'm wasn't trying to steal the "first baby" title from her. We aren't very close emotionally so I hope she understands.
Also I talked to my parents and they basically said I shouldn't feel guilty for wanting to start my own family. True, but I still feel a little bad, I can't help it. Here's hoping for the best!