So driving home yesterday from a family bbq yesterday my DH comes out of no where and asks "So when do you want to have another one?". I just about spit out the water that I was drinking at the time. We have always planned on having 2 children (except during the colicky 1st 3 months of our DS's life when I would have swore I was never having another child), but we always talked about waiting at least 2-3 years before trying for another. It caught me off guard that he was asking that question first and not me. We talked about it for a little while and he said that he doesn't feel close to his older brother at all (there is 8 years difference between them) and wants J to have a sibling that he can be close to growing up. I completely understand (my sister and I are 10 years apart) so we decided that we would talk about it again after J turns 1.
So have any of your DH's surprised you with their readiness to have another baby?
Re: MY DH asked THAT question
My DH and I have always talked about having our first two kids pretty close together and then having a break, and then having two more. I was just suprised that he went along with it I guess. He is really easy going though and if I want something he pretty much just goes with it unless he's completely against it.
I'm actually waiting until tomorrow morning to take a pregnancy test, I am 4 days late right now so we'll see. If I am pregnant my due date will be March 8th.
Oh yes...DH has been pestering me for at least 2 months now about when we can start trying for #2. I am nowhere near ready yet.
Just my opinion, but closeness in age does not always equal a close relationship. My brother and I are 2.5 years apart and he never wanted anything to do with me. We have zero common interests and rarely ever played together when we were little.
BFP #2 - MC Aug 2012 - D&C w/ complications
I would like to try TTC when DS is about 2. I will turn 30 two months before he turns two so maybe after my birthday we will start trying. I love birthdays and I fully intend on having a huge birthday bash...
My husband keeps talking about Will's "baby brother or sister" and how much he misses the baby stage..I am like HELLO he is still a baby!!!! I just want to enjoy him as much as possible right now!
DH asked when we could have another as I was in the hospital recovering from my C-section...I could have throat punched him
In all seriousness though we know we definitely want more. I would like to lose some weight first and we have everyone on both sides of our family coming out to Scotland to visit next summer...I do not want to be pregnant then because I will be playing tour guide and a pregnant tour guide is not something I or anyone else would enjoy.
We will see what happens...
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DH has been pushing for #2 for quite awhile. Even when I was still pregnant he said he wanted to start TTC #2 after the 6 week check up. I had a c/s so that got delayed a bit. Now that DS is 6 months old he's pushing again. We're kinda in the "whatever happens" boat right now.
DH isn't close at all with his brother (they are 4 years apart). And my sister is 8 years older and we don't speak. My brother is 11 years older and we get along great--but it's pretty odd. I know keeping our children close in age won't ensure that they'll be close. But I hope it will help. Either way I'd like to be done having babies by the time I'm 30. Both DH and I have older parents and we feel cheated in lots of ways because of this. So when DH started pushing for #2 I wasn't too shocked. He's actually handled the baby stage much better than I have.
Aww! Good luck! Keep us posted
I would have punched him too! I don't think I am ready now but I do see myself being ready alot sooner then I ever thought I would. I am 29 and I have always said I want to be finished by the time I am 33. If we have a second DS I might want to try for a third (maybe!), so I don't want to wait too long.
DH was never really a baby or even kid person until DS was born. We had always agreed that two kids being the ideal family for us, but now, DH is totally wanting more... He's so far upped it from 2 to 3, and recently from 3 to 4... I'm fine with 2-3, but 4 is so not happening. DH has been asking if we should consider TTC #2, but I think we both agreed to let the topic rest for a bit longer since DS is not yet 7 months... But I'm sure DH will be back.
Good luck!! Keep us posted
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BFP #2 on 4/12/11, J born on 12/14/11
Thats cute!
My DH was always set on two until DS was born. I however always wanted 4 and now some days I'd like to stop at 1. Now he's promising he'll get a vasectomy if I'll agree to 3 and consider 4. :S
DH seems to want it to be up to me too. I'm glad I'm not the only one in this boat. It's such a big life changing decision, and when I ask him when he's all like "I don't care". I don't understand how he can't have a huge opinion on this, and I don't want to feel like I'm forcing anything.
BFP #2 - MC Aug 2012 - D&C w/ complications
DH sprung that one on me when DS was about 2 months old. I was ready to kill him at the time, but I've softened up to the idea now and we are not really trying, but not really preventing right now.
I will be 38 this month so we don't want to wait too much longer for #2.