2nd Trimester
How to talk with hubby about natural birth (Bradley)?
Has anyone stumbled on good articles or other resources comparing various approaches to childbirth?
The more I read about the Bradley method, the more I like it. But I know my husband needs to be 100 percent on board, too. When I asked him if he thought I could give birth naturally, his response was - "I think you could, but I don't know why you would."
I am concerned about the drugs they give during delivery, and know there are reasons to avoid them (if you can) - and just thought some of you ladies might know some resources that might help inform my very-rational, by-the-facts hubby.
Thank you, ladies!!
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Re: How to talk with hubby about natural birth (Bradley)?
It is your body so I think you have a strong say in how you would like to give birth.
My understanding of the Bradley method is that it basically requires husbands to train to be birth coaches, which is certainly more demanding than the alternative.
OP, my husband is facts-and-science driven too, and I would not want to get into a battle of information/studies with mine if I were totally set on one conclusion. For every study you could find that is pro-natural CB, there is another disagreeing that it's best. Though starting that battle would probably leave you both better-informed!
It says in the book that the 'Husband' can be anyone, but then goes on to talk in a later chapter about how the reason the father should be present is that he has a vested interest in the child arriving healthy, the mother probably (hopefully) trusts him and is comfortable with him, and a few other things I don't remember right now.
So it would seem weird to me to do Bradley with anyone but my husband unless he was out of the picture in which case I would use my mom, a doula, girlfriend, etc.
First Child born
5/5/14 and 6/5/14
11/14
Chemical Pregnancy
9/5/15
Second after severe bleeding for 18 weeks due to subchorionic hematoma
Expecting Number 3 due 10/31/2020
First Child born
5/5/14 and 6/5/14
11/14
Chemical Pregnancy
9/5/15
Second after severe bleeding for 18 weeks due to subchorionic hematoma
Expecting Number 3 due 10/31/2020
We did Bradley with our first. My DH was sort-of into it and is very science/fact driven, but the classes show you lots of sides and are very informative (and great for those dads that like to track contractions and have some control in the process) so it actually helped to just start the classes. My DH was an advocate and very excited once we were most of the way through the classes. Don't get me wrong...we still had some odd-balls in our class who didn't care about science, but we also had some very fun, normal couples and became friends with them.
As for the highlighted sentence above, it's actually more like for every study that shows babies/moms do better without pain meds, there is one that says there is no difference between those who do and don't get the meds. I've never seen a study that says pain meds and pitocin is "better" just that it sometimes isn't any different. So with that being said, if the experience of a natural birth is important to you, that isn't a science argument, it's a feeling you might just have to discuss with your DH so he understands your viewpoint.
Good luck - I bet he comes around.
...baby #3 is here...
This!!