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Um... no, MIL

My MIL is texting me different names she likes for the baby. I finally sent a text saying "We already picked names!" She knows we already picked names...apparently she doesn't like them. 
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  • I got a bad response from my mom from one of the names we were considering so I decided I'm not sharing names anymore. They can find out what they are once the ink is dry on the birth certificates.
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  • That would piss me off.  On mothers day we told MIL and FIL the name we chose.  They exchanged a look and said "Oh well.  We will just call him Victor because that is FILs middle name."  I told them you will call him what we name him.  
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  • imageATMmom324:
    That would piss me off.  On mothers day we told MIL and FIL the name we chose.  They exchanged a look and said "Oh well.  We will just call him Victor because that is FILs middle name."  I told them you will call him what we name him.  

    Wow what balls your inlaws have!  I'd be stunned and stammering if someone pulled that on me, and in my mind I'd be beating them with a shoehorn (yes a shoehorn). 

    Ummm pretty sure you'll call the baby the name they were given!  holy smokes. 

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  • This is what my MIL did last time. And why we are keeping names a secret this time! Smile
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  • We told my mom and dad our names... our girl name is Aubree and my mom scoffed at it and my dad said "Audrey?"

    I expected a worse reaction, to be honest haha

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  • And this is why we are keeping our name choices a secret :)
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  • I know people can be overbearing when it comes to wanting you to find out the sex , names, and every other little detail...can get really annoying!  My theory is to just play along when asked and politely say you don't have one specific one you like yet .AND to not share with anybody until after the birth of your baby and you have one that is set in stone.  Otherwise, there are ALOT of people that can be pretty cruel and oblivious to hurting your feelings, so avoid the hassle and stress of another thing and keep that between you and your immediate family.  
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  • Uhhh, passive aggressive much??? My gem of a MIL used to send me links to job offerings on monster.com all of the time despite the fact that I make 1/3 more than she. Bish.... Apparently, she didn't approve. 
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    We told the name this time once it was decided and set. Last time we made the mistake of telling our mothers our "top choices" and I did not at all like hearing their input. This time we just shared the name and told them that was that. 

    So far no one has said anything discouraging. Though had they I probably would have kindly asked them to STFU.  

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    imageroxyttandme:
    Uhhh, passive aggressive much??? My gem of a MIL used to send me links to job offerings on monster.com all of the time despite the fact that I make 1/3 more than she. Bish.... Apparently, she didn't approve. 

    HA!

    My mom sends my MIL job links. My MIL is a SAHW and my mom is super jealous so she sends her job links to "help her out". I find it hilarious (though I do feel bad for my MIL). My mom is legit crazy though so..

  • imageATMmom324:
    That would piss me off.  On mothers day we told MIL and FIL the name we chose.  They exchanged a look and said "Oh well.  We will just call him Victor because that is FILs middle name."  I told them you will call him what we name him.  

     

    We choose only to tell immediate family who we knew would love our name (Ryker). We said it was final and it really bothered me after DH family claimed to love it and then when they came to visit us, they started spouting off new names. I said we were pretty set on Ryker and they asked what his nickname would be. MIL said "Ry ry is pretty cute!" and I told her no child of mine would have the nickname ry ry.  Why does he have to have a nickname anyways, it's a fairly short name!

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  • My MIL kept calling the baby by one of our other name choices, because she didnt like our 100% baby girl name. Well, it's a boy, but I will still call any future girls the name I want. 
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  • Neither set of parents liked dd1 name. The ILs had little to say about our possible girl's name this time. My mother, came right out and said she needed "to buy us a baby name book" b/c apparently we have bad taste in names.

    Awesome.

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    I know exactlyyy how you feel!!! My MIL has non stop pushed ONE boys name on me... "... is a good name!! a really good name" when we found out it was a boy, she is shoving that name so far up my *** it's not even funny lol.. aghh, and we picked out a name already and I told her all she said was ".. is still the best name".. thank you for letting me vent hahaha
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    This is why we are not telling hubbys family our choices till we know what we are having, my family have all liked except for my grandma who is old fashioned and never heard of the name we are going to use and thought kid would get picked on after a lot of examples of the name from my sister she has decided she will get used to it and will grow on her lol
    oh well not going to please everyone at the end of the day as long as we are happy with our choices people will learn to be as well
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  • I picked my names a bit ago and when I told my mother she scoffed and said that the boys name would get baby picked on since its going to be a white baby (to her the name sounds too black.. whatever that means) and then proceeded to give me alternate middle names for the girls name since the simple one I picked wasn't pretty enough... I had to firmly tell her that I didn't tell her how to name her kids and she now can't tell me how to name mine and the names are final... why? Because I said so. :p

     

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  • my MIL has so far just given us one list with names she likes! but I am sure we will get more. she did the same thing to my SIL. she wanted them to name their kids something that sounded like anus!! REALLY!!
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    Yeah...I made the mistake of telling my family the name we chose because I got tired of being pestered about it. They all hate it, and they keep trying to talk me out of it. To top it off, my mom said, "well, til the baby gets here and she's been officially named, I'm calling her Madeline" and my brother threatened to make fun of her name if that's what we chose. How obnoxious. From here on out, I'll stick to my guns and not tell anyone names til after the baby is born.
  • imagerachaelrnr:
    And this is why we are keeping our name choices a secret :)

    This exactly. 

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    imageATMmom324:
    That would piss me off.  On mothers day we told MIL and FIL the name we chose.  They exchanged a look and said "Oh well.  We will just call him Victor because that is FILs middle name."  I told them you will call him what we name him.  

     

    Wow.  Next time she says something, you should respond with, "That is fine.  Instead of grandma, we are going to have the baby call you Turnip because I like the way it sounds." 

    Good solution! Yes

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  • imageJenelle101:
    My MIL is texting me different names she likes for the baby. I finally sent a text saying "We already picked names!" She knows we already picked names...apparently she doesn't like them. 

    Haha, I did the same thing but to my mom. Once she knew the gender she had all these suggestions.  So I just said, "we picked the name but we aren't revealing it until the birth".

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  • My MIL does the same thing. She hounded me for names and when I did not give them up (I gave vague answers) she started harassing my daughters, but only when I was not there. Then she would loudly proclaim how horrible the names were and why to anyone who would listen and would start harassing my husband why the names I chose where awful and he should not accept them. THat I "would just have to get used to" whatever "they" (meaning her) decided. I say "would" because she did this on more than one occasion.

    I told my DH that when the topic of the baby comes up it needs to be changed immediately. She is obsessed with finding out the gender and keeps asking the girls, like they know. She has also confronted friends of mine about it- like get-up-in-your-face confront (this was at a school concert). Apparently she thinks I am "trying to keep her grandchild" from her. She is a total psycho.

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    imageSmileyGirl18:

    imageATMmom324:
    That would piss me off.  On mothers day we told MIL and FIL the name we chose.  They exchanged a look and said "Oh well.  We will just call him Victor because that is FILs middle name."  I told them you will call him what we name him.  

     

    Wow.  Next time she says something, you should respond with, "That is fine.  Instead of grandma, we are going to have the baby call you Turnip because I like the way it sounds." 

     

    I literally laughed my butt off on this comment! 

     

    That's how my mom was. My husband and I really like his grandmother's name and my mom told me she did not like it, and to think of what I would be doing to the baby. Are you kidding me?! 

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    imageATMmom324:
    That would piss me off.  On mothers day we told MIL and FIL the name we chose.  They exchanged a look and said "Oh well.  We will just call him Victor because that is FILs middle name."  I told them you will call him what we name him.  

    Wow what balls your inlaws have!  I'd be stunned and stammering if someone pulled that on me, and in my mind I'd be beating them with a shoehorn (yes a shoehorn). 

    Ummm pretty sure you'll call the baby the name they were given!  holy smokes. 

    My aunt did this to my sister. She said, oh I like her middle name so much better, I'll call her that." I responded, no that's not her name. Then she gave me a dirty look and went on with her supper.

    But she is also a little nuts so I just let it go. My sister was pretty upset though.



     
  • imageSmileyGirl18:

    imageATMmom324:
    That would piss me off.  On mothers day we told MIL and FIL the name we chose.  They exchanged a look and said "Oh well.  We will just call him Victor because that is FILs middle name."  I told them you will call him what we name him.  

     

    Wow.  Next time she says something, you should respond with, "That is fine.  Instead of grandma, we are going to have the baby call you Turnip because I like the way it sounds." 

     Reading this was the best part of my afternoon! :)

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  • My MIL doesn't like any of our names.  But thankfully my DH doesn't care.
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  • My mother has been pretty judgmental about the names we've tossed around.  Sorry.  It sucks.
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    My GMIL had a conniption fit that we weren't going to name our boy John (DH's name, FIL, and GFIL's name). She went on and on about it until I finally said, "It's not your choice, it's ours. You made the decision to name your son John. I'm making the decision to NOT name him John. End of story." She was pissed, but she shut up.
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    Wow.  Next time she says something, you should respond with, "That is fine.  Instead of grandma, we are going to have the baby call you Turnip because I like the way it sounds." 

     

    LOVE THIS! We're going with some old family names and are using the Polish spelling and pronunciation for our girl. We already know my husband's family is not going to love the names, and we've also picked out the nicknames we'll make people use, too. I already correct people when they shorten my daughter's name to "Izzy"...

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  • I feel your pain. My husband is a fourth. So if it's a boy they fully expect us to carry the name on. Problem is, my husband and I both hate it so he told them sorry but no. Then they called me and said "If it's a boy name him that anyway. He'll like it later." and they've pestered me about it since. We don't even know it it's a boy or girl yet! (I'm 14 weeks) So I feel you. It's obnoxious. 
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  • imageSmileyGirl18:

    imageATMmom324:
    That would piss me off.  On mothers day we told MIL and FIL the name we chose.  They exchanged a look and said "Oh well.  We will just call him Victor because that is FILs middle name."  I told them you will call him what we name him.  

     

    Wow.  Next time she says something, you should respond with, "That is fine.  Instead of grandma, we are going to have the baby call you Turnip because I like the way it sounds." 

     

    LMFAO!!!

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  • So since my daughter surprised us all my mother ended up naming her...it was weird. She says lets call her Daisy(my great grandmothers name) my husband had missed the birth and I was in shock that she was even a girl - she was supposed to be a boy LOL...I said yeah maybe - the next day my mother shows up with birth announcements with Daisy Lynn - Lynn is her middle name! I didnt mind Daisy cause I did really like the idea of honoring my grandmother but I couldn't believe she picked her middle name. At any rate I was weak and gave in.

    Second time around we found out it was a boy and my mil says "Oh yay another David" - my husband is David JR now the hubs had never ever mentioned wanting to continue the tradition but after his mom said that it was all he wanted *eyeroll* So my son got stuck with David Eugene lol

    Third time around I said this is it we are naming this baby! We didnt tell anyone till after he was born. We will do the same with this one. 

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