The parternity leave question made think of this. Is anyone's DH already a SAHD or their dh planning on becoming a SAHD once LO arrives?
DH is essentially a SAHD and I think it brings it's own unique issues that are different from SAHM's. On the Aug 2010 board, there is one other bumpie whose Dh is a SAHD and we seem to have similiar vents. It's nice knowing who is in similar situations!
Re: SAHD's?
My BFF's DH is a SAHD. They have a 2 year old daughter and a 6 month old daughter. It does have its own drawbacks. One thing he doesn't like is all of the "play groups" are geared towards SAHMs. He really doesn't get out of the house much with the girls during the week for that reason.
Dh feels this way as well!
The other issue that has been hard for us is that determine each of our roles. When I come home from work, he is like the kid is yours which is similiar to a SAHM, mom gives baby to dad, but he still expects me to cook dinner and do the house work. Ha! How am I supposed to cook dinner and watch the baby at the same time and he watches TV. Needless to say we did a lot of babywearing when DD was younger! And we have had many discussions about what we can do for each other so we aren't stressed out.
My DH is a stay at SAHD and also finds that most playgroups are moms. Now that DD is 2 they venture out a lot more and do fun things together. It is hard but they have met some other mom/dads at parks, mall play centers etc.
I also get the "your home from work, here's DD, what's for dinner" Say huh? It's been hard to find a balance but it's an on going process.