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DH vent- is this fight worthy?
DH's brother mentioned that he could get Yankee tickets from his job, so DH told him to get some. He got them on my due date. I know you don't usually have the baby on your due date, but it just seem like a day you'd keep clear. I'm upset BIL didn't bother to ask for a different date, he has 2 kids so it's not like he's oblivious, but I'm even more upset DH doesn't see a problem with this. He says if I'm having the baby he won't go. It just seems really inconsiderate on both their parts. WDYT?
Teterboro 5K 7/16/11 23:22
Tenafly 5K 6/5/11 26:48 1st in age group and stroller division
Teterboro 5K 7/17/10 24:42
Lincoln Tunnel 5K 4/25/10 28:18 4 1/2 weeks pp
Teterboro Airport 5K 7/18/09 22:35 3rd place age group 4 1/2 weeks pregnant
Long Branch 1/2 5/3/09 1:51:07
Lincoln Tunnel 5K 4/26/09 22:22
NJEA 5K 11/7/08 22:30 2nd place age group
Westchester 1/2 10/12/08 1:50:16
Teterboro Airport 5K 7/19/08 23:43
Long Branch 1/2 5/4/08 1:54:18
Giant Stadium 5K 4/26/08 error in timing
Hackensack 5K 10/14/07 23:55 1st place in age groupThis discussion has been closed.
Re: DH vent- is this fight worthy?
Are you getting one of the tickets too? If so, I don't see a major problem with this. He realizes he may not get to go to the game if you are in labor that day, and it doesn't sound like he's really that upset about missing the game. I don't see the point of either of you sitting around on your due date just waiting for labor to start, when it could happen up to 2 weeks late. Go, enjoy the game, and distract yourself from waiting to have a baby.
If the tickets are just for your DH and not for you, then it's a little more iffy. If you want to go and are going to be stuck at home, I'd be annoyed. If you don't care about going, it depends on how long it would take your H to get home from the ballpark if you went into labor while he was gone.
I'd have to agree with this. Pick and choose your battles. He won't go if you're in labor or if the baby is here. I'm sure he didn't do it on purpose. Maybe that's all they were able to get?
1) it depends on who they're playing. if it's the red sox, no way in heck!!! the traffic that day would be unbearable.
I guess that's the only reason that it would freak me out letting him go. The roads get so crammed they practically shut down around the games. I'd be worried I'd go into labor and he wouldn't be around to help me.
I don't think it's worth a fight. My due date has already come and gone, and I'd still be fine to attend a game myself. As long as DH knows he has to cancel any plans the second I go into labor or the second I tell him to, the only kind of plans I don't want him making are out-of-town travel plans.
If you're still upset, rather than fight over something slightly thoughtless that your BIL did, demand your husband bake you a cake or take you out to dinner or something to appease you.
This. Its really NBD.
I'm on your husband's side as well. I just don't see the big deal with him going if you aren't in labor- you could easily go into labor a week before through a week after, so it seems silly to save that date. I'd only be miffed if there was a scheduled c-section or induction, because, obviously, you'd be having the baby that day.
First, labors can take hours and hours, so even if you happened to go into labor while your husband is at the game, he'd certainly have time to make it home.
I think that you are being a bit unreasonable.
I'm in the NBD camp.
I've worked at a number of places that have access to sports tickets, and it's usually rare that you get to pick specific dates. You get what you get, smile, and say thank you sort of thing, KWIM?
If you're in labor, your DH has already said he won't go, so no big deal. If you've just had the baby, I'm sure he'll skip the game. And if you're still pregnant, why not let him enjoy the game, so long as he's a reasonable (under 90 mins) distance away?
honestly i wouldnt stress it. i think u will look like an ass if you dont have the baby that day after you made a big deal. but i do see my youd be pissed, and dont blame you.
in pregnancy i just tell my fiance to do what he wants to do. at this point im not interested in chasing him or expecting him to be with me all the time. i have bigger things to worry about and at the end of the day he will lose if he chooses not to be with us.
I would be upset too. It's the principle of the fact. And honestly, a lot of these ladies must not go to MLB games, haha.... traffic is awful and even if it's only 45 min away, it could take him triple the time to get to you. I also agree with the PP who made the Red Sox comment, if that's who they're playing then noooo wayyyy.
I agree that it doesn't make sense waiting around to go into labor but still, I think it's a respect thing on the part of a male partner to be there during this time. My fianc? would never even ask.... Even if the Red Sox were playing the Yankees.
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I agree. If the chances are slim you'll have LO on your EDD (which they are), then why treat that day any differently? Assuming he's not driving far and wont go if you're in labor, then let him go and have fun and maybe plan something fun for you to do too.
I agree with this. I think this is a really stupid thing to pick a fight about.
I would not be upset by BIL, I mean how does he not know that you OK'd it, or that it is any of his business to suggest otherwise!
As for DH I would simply say no. My DH has already stopped booking anything within a week on either side of my due date.
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I agree with this. The exception would be if it were a long road trip. If it's not, then I don't see a problem -- a due date is just another day unless, of course, you are having the baby, or just had the baby. If it were my husband, I would say go but have a game plan (ha, no pun intended) as to how you can contact him and feel reassured he will be there for you if you need him.
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Personally, I wouldn't care about the game. Everything changes after the baby comes, no need to start living like hermits BEFORE baby gets there. Even if you go into labor, you are likely looking a HOURS of early labor before you even head to the hospital. He'd have plenty of time to get back.
Plan something fun for yourself that night...girls movie night, or whatever. Now if DH wanted to go to the game while I was in labor, or with a newborn...no way.
Does no one else see the issue with her going into labor while he's at the game? Have none of you tried to leave a game before? IT'S CRAZY HECTIC!! She could have the baby before he gets home!
Personally I think it's a moronic idea and I'd be PISSED!
I'd be a little annoyed but that's it. DH had plans all through the month I was due and everyone knew that there was a chance that he might not be there. If he went somewhere, he took his own car so he could leave whenever, he didn't drink for the same reason(he's not a big drinker but still), and he kept his phone on him and kept in contact with me. You might already have the baby by that day.
Uh...yeah. I wouldn't plan anything on or even close to my due date. Not only for the sole fact that's when baby is estimated to be here, but also because if I were still pregnant, something like that wouldn't be any fun.
I'm with you...I'd be pissed.
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I've been to lots of games, including ones at Yankee Stadium. If you leave when everyone else does, it's crazy, sure. But if you leave a little early or late it's not an issue. Plus the stadium is on the subway, so it's actually a lot easier to get in and out as long as you don't mind crowds.