I don't understand why people find it necessary to comment on how big you look pregnant. It happens all the time. I was just at the gym and a woman was going on and on. I'm only 30 weeks pregnant and people think I'm due any day or having twins. It's getting super annoying. I'm a fairly small person, I'm not swelling anywhere but my belly is somewhat narrow and sticks out far. My baby is measuring a bit bigger than he should at this point but I don't think that's it. I'm confused. Is it the way he's positioned? My belly is measuring exactly where it should each time I go to the doctor. So I guess my question is, why do I look so big to people and why do people think just because you are pregnant they can comment on your body? Especially strangers.
Re: No, I'm not due any day now and no, I'm not having twins!
I don't know but im getting this too. Im measuring exactly 34 weeks. I wanta smack the strangers. I know im short so baby mostly goes out. I have tall children my son is in the 98th percile. But other than that people are just plain rude. I don't mind if I get a wow your big comment from a friend but the lady checking out my items at target? Don't think im gonna make it to the month im suppose to give birth in? Well unless your my doctor or my mother keep it to yourself.
I have noticed that the people that make the most comments are people who have never been pregnant or have not been pregnant for a long time. Don't let it get to you some people don't understand how annoying their comments can be.
I have two aunts who have twins on either side of my family. Both never knew they were having twins until they were in the delivery room. So of coure both sides of my family always say "Are you sure there are not two in there. You know so and so didn't know."
I think people just like to weigh in with their opion, warranted or not.
Today alone I've been told:
- It looks like you're finally showing
-Wow, are you having triplets?
- You're all belly
-You look tired and swollen (that person is lucky they have all their teeth still)
Can I just work from home for the next 12 weeks?
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People just say the stupidest stuff sometimes. When I was 6 months I had someone do the same thing, asking if I was having twins and shocked I wasn't due any day. Then the other week, I am now 9 months Prego, I had a lady tell me that I looked 6 months pregnant. Um, just keep your comments to yourself and say, "you look great," no matter what they think! Just embrace the bump, it is a beautiful thing!
But next time, ask them when they are due. That will shut them up!
Yep! I'm getting it too! My Dr. says I'm measuring right on, too. I know mine will be a big and long baby because my first was so it hasn't worried me much.
I can handle it from men just because I know they don't get it, but when I have women here at work, who have had kids before,commenting on how big I am, I just don't have any patience. I started complaining to people about it and now it has started to simmer down because I think the word is getting around that they are making me feel like crap! Strangers are another story, but I figure I won't see them again so I'll just brush them off.
Just try to focus on the awesome people who tell you look great and brush off the stupid people who need to shut their traps!
Good luck!
You have described my experience exactly! I started getting this at 30 weeks also. I have a really short torso so I think that's why but it's still RUDE!
For SuzyQ and all March 15 loss moms
This is the EXACT same situation with me. I'm 30 weeks along as well, but I am carrying big. Baby measure 4 more weeks than what I actually am. And I haven't gotten big anywhere else, just my belly. My very BIG belly. I get the same comments...'"wow, you are about to pop" or "are you sure there aren't 2 in there?". Ahhh....no and no!
Don't worry about it. The best advice my OB gave is this: ignore what everyone tells you. For some reason when women are pregnant people feel the need to give their opinion or unwanted advice- don't take it!
Your post is awesome & you're totally right about comments from women vs men. I was surprised to get a comment on how 'small' I am from another preggo. I was going to say she looked great but she shot that down almost instantly... Personally I think women take their insecurities out on another & it's just lame. Men on the other hand just always seem to be putting their foot in their mouth. My DH even had a foot in mouth moment when we had lunch with a friend of mine (his bf wife) - he bluntly stated how thankful he was to not be a woman, instantly he blushed & tried to counteract the statement but there was no coming back... i couldn't help but laugh at his embarrasment
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I can totally sympathize. I'm 35 & last measured in the 30th percentile, which I believe was 31 wks..But everytime someone makes a comment on how small I am, I feel like they are subtly implying this same thing - despite the fact Dr. has been happy thus far...
Ignorant stranger: You look like you're going to pop.
Me: Well, I have a month to go, so thanks for rubbing it in...jerkface.
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