3rd Trimester
Dr. gave me a hard time about 8-lb TOTAL weight gain
I am 28 weeks and have only gained 8 pounds so far. (I lost a few in the first trimester.) So today I go for my monthly check up and my doctor notices that I gained 5 pounds in the past month. She then says, "Let's not do that every time" and reminds me to stay away from the Easter candy this month. WTF?! I thought she would congratulate me on the gain! I was not overweight to begin with. I'm basically going to ignore her...
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Re: Dr. gave me a hard time about 8-lb TOTAL weight gain
Wow I had a doctor like that with my first pregnancy, when I went back after losing all the weight he looked at me in shock. Like he really thought I was planning on keeping it all.
Now I have gained 14lb in the past two months for a total of 35lbs. My doctor told me oh well it happens. I like his way of thinking
Congratulations on finally putting some weight on!
I honestly hadnt even thought about Easter candy, ugh.
She sounds like an idiot tbh...U and baby enjoy your easter candy all you want
Wait...you weren't overweight...lost in 1st trimester and have gained only 5 lbs in 28 weeks of pregnancy ? I'd be running to another doctor because if you aren't overweight and only gaining 5 lbs there should be concern as to why.
I have seen 3 different OBs from the same clinic and each time I would ask about my weight because I was concerned. I'm at 36 weeks and have gained 6.6 pounds total since I found out I was preggo at 4 weeks. Baby is doing great. According to the growth ultrasound last week, she is at about 4 pounds. Turns out I probably lost weight (for some odd reason, no morning sickness here), but baby has gained it. And this I believe, because I was looking at pics in the beginning of my pregnancy and my face was so round compared to now.
Did she give you an estimate of how much weight you should gain throughout your whole pregnancy? I too was cheering every time I gained weight.
Congratulations on gaining 5 lbs in that month. I hope you continue to gain at least a pound a week and go full-term. Your doctor either made an idiotic comment, or is an idiot. I think you should ask her about it -- say "at my last visit, you said X, which made me feel really bad because I was proud of my weight gain. I did a lot of research and I feel like that weight gain is a good thing. Can you explain to me why you approached it like that?" Put the doctor on the hot seat. The doctor seems like they are in control when you look at it from the patient's perspective, but viewed from the doctor's perspective -- they are a professional services provider running a business and trying to attract and keep clients. She should have better patient skills than that, and should be reminded that flippant comments can really make an impact on expectant mothers. And maybe she is a brilliant medical scientist but socially inept, and it would help her be a better doctor if someone explained to her that her patient skills suck.
If you ended up getting a new doctor, I would definitely point this out as the reason so that the doctor & practice know why, so they can do a better job in the future.
If you were of normal weight to begin with, it's important to gain sufficient weight during the pregnancy to support your health, the health of the baby, and breastfeeding (should you choose to do this.) Not gaining enough weight can predispose you to preterm labor.......tell your Doc to shove it and enjoy the candy.
I hope your future appointments go better with whoever you choose as your doctor!
At my 28 week appointment I had only gained a total of 8 lbs this whole pregnancy and I am pretty petite to begin with. I had HORRIBLE m/s forever, and still get sick a few times a week
I lost weight initially, but gained that back + the 8 lbs.
My midwives are not concerned at all right now. The baby's heartbeat is always great and I am measuring right on track...my belly is getting huge! They are also not concerned because I am continuing to gain weight by every appointment rather than losing or holding steady.
If I were you I would sit down and talk to your doctor about why that comment was made, especially with how little you have gained total. In the last trimester your baby is doing a ton of growing (adding weight, fat, etc) so it completely makes sense to be putting on more. Good luck!
I've gained 15 total during this pregnancy plus the 4 pounds I gained back after morning sicknes... I've been steadily gaining 2 pounds per month since the third month and then this last month at my 28 week appt I had gained 5!!!! I freaked out a little about it and said something to the effect of.. I can't gain that much every month! (realize I was overweight to start with but I was down 100 pounds from what I was a few years ago and that weight was VERY hard to take off.. so gaining it back is hard for me)
The doc told me that I was right on track and its very normal to see a 5 to 6 pound jump at this point in the pregnancy and that they aren't the least bit worried about the weight that I've gained... Your doc was probably just being ridiculous... 5 pounds is normal... 5 pounds is normal... (keep repeating it.. lol thats what I do.)
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Anyways, I think my doctor just made the mistake of looking at this one past month and commenting on that without looking carefully at the full picture. I do not plan to switch doctors over this. Now if she continues to make comments about my weight gain, I would consider it.
I would brush that off. Gaining about one pound per week is totally normal and you haven't gained hardly anything so far! As long as baby is measuring on track and mama is healthy... weight gain is what it is!
FWIW I've only gained 15 lbs so far (starting from a very average BMI)... I never get weighed at my midwife appointments and they've only asked about my weight maybe twice. It's not that important.
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I would have a conversation with her and express your concerns with her comment. I'd rather make sure that you are on the same page about expectations.
The RN in my Dr's office made a couple of comments that I was gaining too much but my Dr did not have the slightest issue with it. My Dr said that as long as the baby was coming along, not too big, and no other health side effects were showing, the only thing I had to be aware of is that I'll likely have more to lose and some find it harder to do that.
Good luck!