DS is not ready for PT, he has his own potty, has sat on it and even peed a few times (which we have praised, celebrated and rewarded) but he's just not really interested.
DD on the other hand is doing great. We are using rewards, mostly stickers, M&M's and we bought princess pullups and panties which are a reward for her to put on. The trouble is that DS wants whatever she has. He throws a fit when she gets a sticker or M&M and he doesn't and tears off all his clothes so he can have a princess pull up too when she gets one on. I've tried to use it as a "bribe" and told him he can have one too if he goes on the potty, but he kicks it away, runs, tantrums. I want to create a positive PT experience, but he's making it tough.
How would you handle this? Do I continue to ignore the fits and praise DD...I feel bad, like I'm playing favorites and I feel like this can't be good for his self-esteem, but I don't want to reward him for nothing. I've tried distracting him with something else fun (that isn't currently being used as a PT reward) but that doesn't really work all the time.
Re: PT'ing twins - one ready, one not
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? I don't think she's pushing him- shes PTing the one that IS ready and feeling guilty b/c the one that isn't ready is feeling left out.
I'm curious what other MoMs have to say about this b/c while we're a long way always from PTing, I can see where things get hard if they're at different stages. Sorry this is of no help to you, OP
I had the same thing happen. DD2 was ready and was using the bathroom consistantly, while DD1 had no interest. I am a pushover, so I gave them both treats, but would try to be sneaky and give DD2 a treat without the other knowing!
DD1 decided she wanted to try about two months later and she is now potty trained (with occasional accidents). They know now that if they don't go, they don't get a treat, even if their sister does. They seem to understand and they usually don't get upset if they don't get one.
I was trying to think of what I would do in this situation because it is a tough one. I don't like the idea of just giving him a reward for what she has accomplished, that isn't how rewards work. But when i read this I thought it sounded perfect. I obviously haven't tried it. But it sounds like a great idea to me.
Can you cut back the rewards for DD to only the pull-ups? Does she need the others? I'm thinking if she gets stickers, maybe change that for something like a star written on a chart when she goes. So the "rewards" follow a little more logically from the action of going and are less stand alone rewards...
But I don't really know, since we're attempting to PT with verbal praise being the only "reward" (so far, at least).
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