Still hiding my pregnancy...
ARIES326
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I'm going onto 15 weeks but starting to show. I know all the tricks. I got some skinny legs so wear jeggings, leggings and fitted jeans with a nice VS push up padded bra and tunic tops. the result of my exaggerated bust, is anything baggy you wear sorta looks drapey over your emerging belly. And layers! Long tunic tops with cropped tops over them. I wear a lot of VS loungewear/ yogawear.
The other day a co-worker was walking around anouncing she was 6wks pregnant. I congratulated her and thought wickedly to myself, "ME FIRST!!!" I'll be stealing her thunder when I finally do announce it. Hehehe! Not that I want to. I really like not talking about pregnancy related stuff or answering questions. Truth is nobody really wants to hear it unless they're pregnant, too (which is why I'm here). My experience is most people are just being polite or nosey once they know and some even act like you were raped by an alien around you. Yeah, I've experienced pregnancy discrimination from women peers and co-workers in the past! I don't look forward to people looking at my belly secretly judging how I'm coming along or not. I'm hoping to hold out another two weeks at least... I'm really starting to show. Anyway, for any of you hiders out there, how are you faring? Are you dying to tell people or like me, rather enjoying the secrecy of it all. I almost want to lie to everyone and say, "I didn't know I was pregnant!" Just to see their expressions. I know my gig is almost up.
Re: Still hiding my pregnancy...
I'm still hiding my pregnancy for work. I'm hoping to last 3 more weeks. I have my own office so i hardly see people and do what i can to limit my interractions. I would love to show off the bump...but the main reason is i don't want to be discriminated because i will be going on mat leave in a few months.
I've been hiding it from work still. But I'm lucky enough that I'm not showing yet. I'm usually cold at work though, so I'll be able to cover up in jackets for awhile when I do start to pop
how...how old are you?
HAHA this ....
I didn't tell my coworkers about my first until 17 weeks. It was easy to hide with scrubs. This time I'm a SAHM and have no co-workers, but I'm much bigger thanks to loose abs. It was pretty obvious by 12 weeks.
I'm probably older than you. I mainly want to make sure this baby is okay before revealing myself. I had a loss previously and if it happens again, it would save me a lot of grief and pity. Yeah, I'm enjoying keeping my secret. No need to *hit on my parade. I don't exactly see pregnancy as something to brag about or hype up. For me it's more of a personal happiness. Everyone is different.
it was more the way you wrote your OP...
"ME FIRST!"
"i'll be stealing her thunder when i finally do announce it"
"some even act like you were raped by an alien"
"i almost want to lie to everyone and say, 'i didn't know i was pregnant!' just to see their expressions"
things like that...
yes, sometimes it just isn't all about you ~ and this appears to be what you are trying to achieve looking for those "WOW really you are so small" comments ~ barf.
This is mostly what I read...
I am in week 18 now and still hiding my pregnancy at work. I don't have much to hide though. I am slim, but with a long torso, so I am not showing much at all. and I am also doing the legging/tunic thing as well.
I am afraid to tell my boss because I started my job about the same time I became pregnant, and my first 3 months were on a trial basis. I am transitioning to "permanent" status in the next few weeks.
The downside to hiding it for so long is that when I finally do come out with the news-- it will be like, what, you are half way done?
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I came out at work at 15 weeks (right after my dr appt) I was hiding it pretty well i guess no one knew, but then again big ole sweatshirts help!
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But when I would take the sweatshirt off umm my big boobs looked HUGE and my belly was getting harder to hide (I had a belly before so I knew how to hide it)
I think its perfectly fine and respectable to not say anything until you are ready. As someone who had a m/c I get annoyed/angry (and a bit jealous)at the women who announce at work/facebook they are KU at 6 weeks/8 weeks.
It hurts me a bit to think they are so confident it will all work out- even my 1st time (m/c) I knew what could happen. And this tme I was SUPER scared to even tell family till 11 weeks!
Wait! You forgot the part about how she's " got some skinny legs"
****Exactly This****
Why do women on the bump feel the need to be critical and mean to other woman. This woman is sharing her story... if i didnt have anything positive to say, i just wouldnt write anything at all!!! im jealous that you could hide it for so long and that you have skinny legs...
Good Luck
Im 25, married with a 2 and a half year old son and I'm 18weeks pregnant!!!
I really didn't start to show until 19-20 weeks and only a little. I'm almost 24 weeks and most people at my job still don't know. I've started telling people and they can't believe it. I wear peasant-y tops or empire waisted shirts so they either didn't notice my bump or thought I was was gaining a bunch of weight. haha.
Now that I am telling people I get tons of Oh, How are you? as if I'm dying, or lots of personal questions. I'm a private person so I don't like those.
I shared on FB after our first u/s at 8 weeks. It wasn't that I was confident that nothing would happen. I was just as aware as anyone else that miscarriage could happen. We shared at that point because we had shared with most of our close friends and family while we were visiting them over Christmas anyway (we wanted to do it in person) and we preferred to spread the news ourselves as opposed to having others spread it for us. It frustrates me when people judge my motives for doing things when and how I do them, solely based on how they choose to do things themselves. I am so sorry for your loss. No one should have to go through that.
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