2nd Trimester
There has to be SOMETHING I can do!?
Okay, so my libido is ZERO since I've been expecting (to be fair, it wasn't as if I could exactly match DH's appetite before, but this is ridiculous!) I mean even if I TRY I can't get in the mood!
It isn't so much about body image issues, or fear or anything, there is just no physical reaction what-so-ever. Not to mention the few times that we have done the deed the cramps afterward are unbearable, which I think contributes to my hesitation.
Please tell me I'm not the only one? And that there is hope that one day I'll have sex again? LOL. This is depressing!
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Re: There has to be SOMETHING I can do!?
Mine's perked up again recently, but for the longest time I couldn't stomach the thought because my nausea has been constant since I got pregnant. DH's approach to seduction is to (read on if you're not squeamish!) grab the back of my head and smile, which doesn't exactly help!
Maybe try something or somewhere new. Make like a couple of college kids and go for a drive somewhere secluded. The back of a movie theatre. A tent in the back yard. A fitting room.
Sometimes when I'm really not feeling it but DH is, I manage to put myself in the mood by becoming a sex goddess. Without wanting to be too graphic, I do one or two certain 'tricks' that I know drive him crazy and suddenly I feel it too.
I also have ZERO interest in sex. And its not cause I'm preggo, I just have NO desire. I think there's hope...I hope there's hope- lol.
Ditto this. For the most part, I always want it more than DH because by the time we are able to relax at night, he is ridiculously exhausted, so sometimes I know I just have to do all the work if I want some lovin
Throughout the pregnancy, I have had some off weeks where I just wasn't horny at all, but I still went with the flow because he's my husband and I love him and it's important to me that he still feels that.
LOL, this would just piss me off.
I agree with this! I just don't want to.....and I was ALWAYS the frisky, aggressive one. Hubby is understanding about it though - and he seems maybe to be relaxing about wanting it too as he isn't trying either...I don't want to lose that connection though so I hope it comes back strong - even if it's after baby, after some time!
It's up and down for me.. I was having really bad cramps afterwards (to the point of throwing up), but someone told me that sperm can be volatile to the cervix and cause severe cramping when you're pregnant, so we started using condoms... and voila! it's no longer severe, i'll get a twinge or two, but compared to what it was i'll take it.
I will say that when I am in the mood, it takes longer for DH to get me hot and bothered, maybe you can try talking to your hubby and seeing if he can slow it down?
I'm only 20 weeks and we had an incident with him on top where he put his weight on me, sorry if it's tmi, but it killed my bump! (I'm only telling you this so you can be careful!) I had major cramping for a couple of days afterward and it killed my insides... I told DH that I know how those keychains that you squeeze and stuff comes out of their butt feels!
Good luck!
Bring a vibrator to bed. Get some ky for her simulating gel.
GL
EXACTLY! I feel so bad, but the more he tries, the less I want it....I feel HORRIBLY guilty lol, but it just isn't fun and exciting right now.
Bahahaha, quick and to the point, eh?
Ahh, we have the opposite problem. He lasts so long I can't stand it! I might be more inclined to just "take one for the team" and give it up for the sake of making him happy if only I knew it wouldn't take FOREVER!
I don't want to have sex, mainly because I'm so lazy right now! Last night, however, our daughter had a sleep over at a friend's and I ended up starting up the action!
What kind of cramps? Like body cramps? Maybe you need to find a good position. A lot of the time I'm not really into it and going along for his sake. But I usually end up enjoying myself in the process.