So last night DH and I were planning to "do it". I really wanted to but my body had different plans, I had the worst bubble of gas in my chest and I coudln't stop burbing....How attractive right! Well we were starting to mess around and I had to sit up because I just didn't feel very good and I said "this sucks I'm so gassy!" his response was "ohhh k and flinged the blankets over himself with a nice little eye roll included." Well that immediatly made me feel SO horrible about myself, I started bawling and laid down with my back facing him, at first he thought I was just being grumpy and then he noticed I was bawling...I couldn't control it and I'm still getting teary thinking about how it made me feel. I mean im 36 weeks pregnant I don't feel at all sexy I'm trying to play the sexy role the best as possible while dealing with my great bodily functions....ugh sorry ladies I just needed to vent I was so upset! I know he feels terrible and he really didn't know what to say for the next hour while I cried about it, and this morning leaving for work he came into the room and said good bye like normal and I could tell he was still feeling bad. Hoping that this weekend I will be able to talk to him about it without breaking down!
Re: DH, sex, hurt feelings, VENT
Aww don't feel too bad. Good luck with the talk. I hope he's understanding.
I'm glad DH and I haven't tried to have any kind of relations during this pregnancy. It's been a long 9 months, but I'm really looking forward to being back to myself first.
Agreed with the above. I am so sorry that you starting feeling that way, pregnancy is so confusing from moment to moment. And obviously feeling gassy, is not the best way to be feeling when you are trying to set the mood. Not to mention that it isn't the most comfortable to try and work it anyway. For this reason alone, it was easier for me and DH to put a hold on it during this pregnancy because I just can't handle my emotions, haven't felt like myself and cannot get in the mood no matter how hard I try. And now I just really would prefer him to not touch me at all. Looking forward to these hormones leveling out a bit.
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Aww that sucks...I'm sure he'll come around and understand. It's not easy.
I was feeling guilty and bad for DH on Valentines Day so even though I had no desire, we did the deed....it was quite an ordeal...I couldn't breathe so we had to prop pillows up behind my back so I was kinda sitting up and so I could breathe. It was not comfortable at all. I will be so glad when that is easier to do again!!!
Hang in there!
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Any man expecting sex a month before their wife is about to giving birth is INSANE. I have no sympathy for him and I am sorry he made you feel bad. You sacrifice your body for 9 months+ he can wait 4 weeks.
I have been feeling bad for DH, so maybe once a week I'll initiate. Although, I am in no desire to want to be touched at all and hard to breathe, hard to find a good position, and hurts so bad. DH deserves better action, so I cannot wait to get my body back to show him how much he is appreciated.
You should NOT feel bad, to me it sounds like he's being a bit of a drama queen about it. DH still wants to do it all.the.time. but if I say look dude, I'm freakin' gassy, or constipated, or my belly is just SORE, or my back hurts, or whatever, he will back off right away. And not because some of those things are unsexy but because he wouldn't want to do it if I wouldn't enjoy it. There are other things that can be done (but only if YOU are feeling well) and if he is really desperate he can take of things himself. I've done it a couple of times I didn't want to but it was pretty obvious to DH that it was not the same.
Do it if you want, only if you want. Do not feel bad.