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What went wrong
Betsystar
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on your wedding day?
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I was hot hot hot, the entire day. The air in the town car we rented didn't work very well. Then we took a million pictures outside. Halfway through the reception the air conditioner at the venue broke! I didn't let it ruin the day, but damm I was hot.
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DH and I got married July 10, 2010. It was also very hot...so hot in fact, that our cake collapsed!
Yep! It looked terrible...but I didn't care
We were married and what did the status of a bunch of flour, sugar, and water mean anyway 
It makes for a funny story! It was definitely memorable!
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Yikes! I could never go without a bra.. I would have to go out and buy one. No one wants to see 40F's in only a tank top! LOL
The day was great - kinda rainy, but no major complaints.
There are things I would have changed looking back but nothing stood out as being bad/wrong/a mess the day of.
Our DJ sent a different guy than who we met with and he was a tool. (Did not play the right songs we picked out for different parts) But it didn't ruin the reception or anything. People were dancing and having fun.
I didn't like my hair - not the stylists fault. She did what I told her, but I just wish I has chosen something different.
And there was something off about the groomsmen tuxes. The ties were weird and I wish the place where we rented them had offered better suggestions. I didn't know what I was doing when I picked them out.
The only minor hiccup we had was that the DJ started playing the kareoke version of the father/daughter dance. No one really knew what was going on until he switched it over halfway through the song. At the time I was upset because I had been looking forward to dancing with my dad to that song for years, but looking back it was such a small thing.
On the other hand, the day before the wedding was a list of horrors which ended with us being locked out of the church for the rehearsal and me forgetting my underwear for the wedding day and having to drive an hour home and back at ten at night to get them.
Wedding day was great except fr the rain and 3 people who rsvpd no but came anyway.
I slept in my bathtub the night of my rehearsal dinner. There were 8 people sleeping in my one bedroom apt so that was the only empty space. Not nearly as uncomfortable as I thought. Until the next morning when my mil was peeing and heard me snore and almost had a heart attack.
Our wedding wasn't traditional. We were married in a court house, in the Netherlands.
What went wrong? The lady who did our ceremony was supposed to do it in Dutch and English (so I could, you know, understand) and her english SUCKED! Like... really effing bad. She was so nervous, she kept giggling.. and had no idea what to say. She also forgot to tell us to exchange rings until after she was done.
I say it went "wrong", but it didn't bother us.. it put some humor into our day. It was kinda funny
It was funny because my husband had to help her translate.
Oh my gosh, what didn't?
Our photographer showed up late so we had to do pictures after the ceremony. This took way too long causing people to leave. I didn't get any pictures with my BM's
My stepmom got jealous of my mom/stepdad and threw a hissy fit. During my father-daughter dance my dad told me I needed to apologize to her for not dedicating a song to her. wtf? DH and I got in a huge fight the night before. My dress got insanely muddy because I forgot to bustle it. Food got cold, beer ran out. blah blah blah
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I sprained my ankle walking back down the aisle after the ceremony.
The conference room where I got ready w/ my bridesmaids and such was locked and we had to find someone to unlock it, which took almost an hour. Which meant were the last people to leave our reception, except my parents, who drove behind us.
The police were almost called because of a "suspicious man" wandering around the marina. It was actually one of my guests who took a long way to walk from the parking lot to the reception so he could enjoy the beautiful night.
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My mom's group was talking today about our weddings and what went wrong. Honestly...very little that anyone but me noticed. I loved planning my wedding. Loved it. I suppose the biggest thing that went wrong was our coordinator got confused and thought we were not doing a blessing before dinner since our minister was unable to attend the reception. My uncle was going to do it instead, so we played it off like it was supposed to be given after the salad course. Other minor things....a centerpiece toppled before everyone arrived....only I knew this because I knew the number of high vs. low centerpieces. DH kneeled when he shouldn't have during the ceremony, part of my bustle broke, but luckily it was a removable train.
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We had a really, really fantastic day. In the grand scheme, none of these things matter, but my minor quibbles:
1. It was SO hot outside. In fact, it broke and still holds the record for hottest June 7.
2. Our cake was not right at all. We got married at a fancy hotel and part of the deal was that they did our cake. We weren't, however, allowed to meet with the person that would make the cake. We just told the hotel person we were working with what we wanted and she conveyed the message. We brought in all of these pictures, paint samples of the colors we wanted, and on and on, but it just didn't look right.
3. I didn't like the way our pictures came out. They weren't bad, but I just wish I had chosen a photographer with a different style.
I think my guests would say nothing -but in honesty so many things went wrong ;op
My hairdresser took aver 2 hours to do my hair because she forgot to leave some out in the front for a side sweep and had to start over two times - my fault for going last out of 7 girls, she was tired. This eliminated all my 'getting ready' time, so I threw on make up, threw on my dress and ran outside for pictures (completely forgetting all my jewelry). My photographer did a great job with a short period of time, but it was a rush and blur.
I wore my blusher through the ceremony, there was a spot light shining on me which mate the tulle opaque and I couldn't read my vows (luckily I had them mostly memorized and got through it without too much stumbling).
Our limo driver booked a second apt an hour away (starting at the time we had them booked until) and ditched us early, which cut into our B&G portraits - so we didn't get as many shots as I would have liked.
The waitress for our table poured red wine down the side of my gown.
I had cut quilt squares in our wedding colors for people to sign and then I could turn into a quilt later - the coordinator forgot to put them out.
We created a special chicken entree with the chef - chicken breast smothered in this amazing cream sauce... so good at the tasting. Somehow the wires got crossed in the kitchen and just plain dry chicken breasts were served, no sauce... so bland (luckily there was tons of food and most people ordered the beef).
I think that is all - and I still had a BLAST!!! I focused on my DH and just enjoying all the things that went right. I LOVED wedding planning and I LOVED my wedding. We still have guests comment that it is one of the best weddings they've ever been to. The best thing is I can share these stories with all my brides and reassure them that even though something WILL go wrong on the wedding day, it can still be the most perfect day ever!
Ours wasn't too bad.
- It was raining that day, and we almost didn't get photos taken. Luckily, the photographer was great, and she was willing to come out last minute when the skies cleared. We had planned an outdoor photo shoot. H was roasting in his tux, but the pictures turned out great.
- the 4 year old flower girl, my niece, didn't actually toss any petals. I didn't care, and it made everyone laugh when my brother threw some out before I entered (his daughter was the flower girl.) Otherwise, she did an awesome job.
- the guy who married us did ok. He was a little long winded, but ultimately he was fine. It was a non religious ceremony, and he mentioned the word God out of habit.
I almost started crying when I was walking in, but H helped me to keep it together. I just looked into his eyes. He also kept me from fumbling the "hand off" - where my mom handed me over to him after walking me down the aisle.
We had non-traditional music for our ceremony, which was held in a loft. The music began skipping just before the bridesmaids walked down the aisle. We joked that it was my dad (who passed 3 years before) letting us know he was there.
Then, instead of cake, we had cheesecake and we were going to cut into one and it was frozen solid.
We told the DJ we like country music, so he decides to play Carrie Underwood's "Before He Cheats" (at a wedding?!?!?!) and my MIL, who had been cheated on by FIL (now divorced) decided to sing at the top of her lungs.
All these things were things that made our day special, not necessarily what went wrong.
My hairdresser was running almost 45 minutes late, which then made me run 45 minutes late. I also threw the bouquet into the chandelier and a waiter had to get a ladder to retrieve it.
It was also like lava outside at 100+ degrees. Smart move on our part having a midday wedding in July in TX.
DH's alcoholic uncle told my friend that he "wanted to go down on her like nobodies business".
It was a torrential rain storm out and some of our guests lost power and had to get ready in the bathroom at the hotel, the Rabbi was late because of the rain, and the cake didn't look the way I wanted it to.
As I was getting ready to walk up the stairs and into the church I fell DOWN the stairs. Thankfully, I wasn't injured but I did rip my dress. My mom is very organized and had brought thread (the color of my dress and the bridesmaids) and a needle. A friend of my mom happened to still be out in the hallway and she graciously sewed me back up! My mom is a good seamstress but she was shaking to badly to do it herself!
Then, as we were leaving the church to head to the reception we climbed in the back of my sister's car and for some odd reason someone had set a mirror back there and of course I sat on it, shattering it. When we arrived at the reception I had to shake glass from the back of my dress!
Ours went really well for the most part.
It was July 7 and hot! Bad planning on our part as July is always hot in the mid west.
My husband lost his voice that day, I really didn`t like my hair, and our cake looked like the leaning tower os Pisa.
Really it went well and we had a blast.
The rehersal dinner on the other hand, the air went out at the church, blowing a fuse and my Dad ripped his pants. We forgot the marriage license and he went home to get it and they tore as he got out of his truck.
We got married at a resort, just us and DHs parents were there. It was in Jamaica, so our 3:30 beach wedding got pushed back due to a storm that rolled through. DH and his parents were chilling with me in our room, so when they called us to come down to the ceremony I had about 15 minutes to get ready. The sand fleas came out and bit us like crazy (this gets important later in the story). Our cake was the wrong flavor. We sweated our asses off in the extreme humidity and my hair was ridiculous.
Fast forward to honeymoon. Still on the resort. My legs were all bitten up and I had an allergic reaction. My legs itched like a SOB and the nurse's station had to call in a doctor to pump a steroid shot in my ass and order me prednisone and to wear pants for the rest of the week. Later that day, I sent DH to swim while I slept off Benadryl. He came back 15 minutes later with a jellyfish sting. Baaaack to the nurse's station for us. Lol.
Surprisingly, I loved it. Lots of stories/memories and we had a blast, all things considered. The wedding was truly about us and what we wanted.
Nothing necessarily went wrong at my wedding, however every time I look at photos of that day I'm reminded of how much I didn't like our photographer. I thought he was great at the time, but now I realize he was terrible. Absolutely everything was posed and nothing was caught in the moment. I guess I didn't know any better 5 plus years ago but I regret it all the time now!
Oh and how could I forget one of the groomsmen stepped on my train with about an hour left and broke the bustle. My dress had a corset back and I used the long ties to hold my train up for the rest of the night. I remind him of this all the time
1. My husbands whole family minus like 6 people boycotted our wedding because I didn't invite the family dinosaur who I'd not ever met (so I didn't know she existed... and she was never put on the list of guests I got from his mom).
2. I got into a fight with another bride getting married that weekend because when it became apparent #1 was happening I cancelled my very expensive outside reception for something for more low key and decided to not go in on 1/3 of the tent rental that this bride had JUST arranged anyhow since I wasn't going to use it (in my defense I told her as soon as we figured out what was going on, which was easily 4-6 weeks before the wedding and honestly I still don't feel bad for not paying to rent something we never used)
3. I had to kick one bridesmaid out of the party because she just couldn't be bothered to find the time to get her dress.... then the next week it was another excuse and after a month of excuses I had had it. I asked another really close friend who said yes, but then had to back out because she found out she was pregnant and because of concerns for her health was not allowed to fly after so long. We wanted to kick my BIL out of the wedding for general worthlessness but MIL had a CONNIPTION so we ended up with 1 bridesmaid and 2 groomsmen just to appease her.
4. My parents said they would pay for the whole low key reception dinner we opted for when our guest list turned out to be like 20 people (fine by me... I wanted to elope) and they wound up only paying half and didn't tell us this until the bill came out. We had the money of course, but it was money we had put aside for our "honeymoon" trip after repeatedly being reassured they would pay for the whole dinner.
Other than that? It was completely perfect... lol
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nothing really went wrong on the day of the wedding. it was pretty kick ass.
Unbeknownst to me at the time, one of my bridesmaids was addicted to prescription painkillers and she drank a bunch of champagne on top of them and started throwing up during the cocktail/hors d'oeuvres part of our reception. She lied about it saying that she ate something bad, but I found out much later on about her drug problem. We aren't friends anymore for various reasons.
My husband also didn't wear his glasses for our wedding pictures and he's squinting in 99% of them.
My dad was being an a$$hole the night before and threw a firecracker into the bonfire we were having. It went off in his face, which resulted in a black eye the day of the wedding...thank God the makeup counter woman told my mom how to cover it.
We had rented 2 vans to get our bridal party to the church, pictures, reception, etc. They never showed up.
We got married outside. We figured June we would be safe...it almost snowed it was so cold.
Also, the pastor never showed to the rehearsal (but did to the dinner) and thought my SIL was me...she's about a foot shorter than me with blonde hair...not even close.
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The caterers were an half an hour late. It wasn't a big deal though, we just did the speeches before the meal instead of after.
Oh and one of the lights under the head table started the table cloth on fire, but it was quickly dealt with and it wasn't while we were sitting at the table.
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I don't know if this is something that went wrong or just plain wrong. My mother in law (who chose to wear the same color dress as my bridesmaids..strike one, with a hugea$$ hat, strike 2) pulled her "date" and his son into the family pictures...they were not invited or expected, and both him and his son we wearing tshorts and shorts. To a wedding. A church wedding, In November. In New Jersey. Oh and he got arrested 2 weeks after our wedding for dealing drugs. So we have a guy who no one had ever met beforehand and his son in our "family" pics in shorts, sneakers and grungy tshirts.
Oh and at the rehearsal dinner he complained that the red wine was warm..(it was served at room temp as red wine should be, he said (while eating a free meal MY parents paid for, that he could cook better than this..as he was eating the FREE FOOD..and it was at a very nice restaurant and his mother asked us to watch his son after the rehearsal dinner so they could have some alone time.
I do not even have the energy to go into everythng else she did...can you tell I am still bitter?