2nd Trimester
trojas
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Facebook - Not Announcing It
trojas
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So, although I'm on facebook, I have not made any sort of announcement nor do I plan to. Maybe (and that's a BIG maybe) I'll post some pictures when baby is born. I love being pregnant but I don't feel the need to make a public announcement about it. Nor do I plan to post a picture every week of my growing belly. Some women take it overboard.
Anyway, anyone else share the same thoughts?
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Re: Facebook - Not Announcing It
I was hesitant as well after seeing some people overshare etc. Made me not want to post at all! So I completely understand if you don't want to post anything. I did eventually post something, I think week 22 or so when we found out the gender, but I don't plan to post anything else pregnancy related until we've got a picture of LO like you're saying.
Exactly how I feel!
I am EXACTLY the same. My thinking is, if I care enough about you that you need to know I'm pregnant, I will tell you in person, and I'd hate it if you found out on Facebook. My mom was annoyed though when I asked her not to post it on Facebook
As for updates, I personally have blocked people for talking ad nauseum about their pregnancies and babies on Facebook. It just seems really self-indulgent. It can also be hard on people struggling with miscarriage and infertility to see the constant updates.
All that being said, I guess it makes sense for people with friends and family who are far away.
Well, I have to say my DH and I are at the other end of the spectrum. We waited until after 12 weeks and then posted the announcement. We have family members and friends we don't see often and its a great way to keep them updated. Now I don't post every little thing, but I did put ultrasound pictures up, I have put up one belly picture. My updates are usually about how I'm feeling right now.
I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I try not to go overboard on anything but there are a lot of people that want updates and its a nice way to do it.
We are like you guys, we did make an announcement and I make some mentions towards my pregnancy, but I have friends that post every status about being pregnant. I posted my 1st belly pic today, but it was more to show off my NY Giants Jersey!! DH and I have decided we don't plan on sharing our name on FB, but we will tell close family & friends. We have a lot of friends and family all over, so FB is a fun way for us to share with everyone!!
I mean, I get it, especially if you have family and friends who you don't see/speak to often. But some women really post too much.
exactly. ALL of my family doesn't live far...but many do. And they all love that I constantly post pictures and status's. If someone doesn't like my posts, then they can delete me from their friends. I can post whatever I want...as much as I want. It is my facebook.
I personally think it is really (really, really) odd to go an entire pregnancy without saying anything and then one day posting a baby picture.
To each is own...that's fine. All the people in my life that need to know, know. There are people on facebook I'm not really 'friends' with and I don't want to let them in on my pregnancy or keep them updated for that matter. I'm a little more private I guess.
My cousin and his wife post nothing but pictures of their son. I swear she has to have 1,000+ pictures of him on her page. I barely ever get to see them (they live in Michigan and I live in Delaware), so I enjoy seeing the pictures but I have to say, I think its a bit excessive. And she barely every posts a status but when she does 99% are about their son.
So I do understand about women that overdo it, but I think those that are FTM are just so excited about everything, they can't help it. I know I won't be one of them!
I never said anything on facebook when I was pregnant with my son. A couple of people mentioned it or asked me when my due date was and I responded so that may have tipped off people that saw it. I did post a status update when my son was born (especially since we were team green and a lot of people were wondering). I have put a few pictures up of him, but I have limited who can view them.
I don't plan to announce this pregnancy on facebook either, but I will probably announce when he/she is born.
I figure the people that I want to know I am pregnant will find out from me or one of our mutual friends and everyone else doesn't really matter. I like to make an announcement after birth because it's the easiest way to update everyone since it would take me forever to send out e-mails. I send a mass e-mail to family and another e-mail to just a few good friends, but anyone else can find out on facebook or from someone else.
IVF #1 - BFP (6dt)
Unassisted Pregnancy #2 - lost at 15w6d due to T21, severe heart defects, and fetal hydrops
I haven't done any type of announcements yet either...but I'm thinking about doing it when I find out the gender and get a nice u/s pic.
I definitely don't want to do like others have done and do a weekly announcement. It is so annoying.
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BFP#3: 10/26/11 EDD: 7/2/12-- Daniel born 7/14/12. My rainbow baby! BFP #4: 2.22/15 EDD: 11/4/15 C/P 2/28/15 BFP #5: 4/5/15 EDD 12/11/15 (Ectopic Pregnancy)
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same here.
I shared on FB.
Mainly because it's the most useful tool I have to share my pregnancy with close Family & close Friends whom I rarely get to see since my DH & I live out of state from everyone... I'm not worried about random ppl or acquaintances seeing my pics because #1 my profile's private & #2 I don't share my fb with anyone I'm not close to, I think that's weird.
**Edit! I meant to quote someone who said they can't keep it OFF of facebook and posted immediately! LOL!
Same here. I live in Florida, have family in Alabama and Utah, and close friends that I don't get to see scattered throughout the country/world. I announced my pregnancy on FB after all close family and friends had been told in person (those that it was possible to tell in person) because I really enjoy sharing this with the people I love.
I haven't posted any pics or anything, just because it's not that big of a deal to me. There is one photo that my mom took and tagged of me holding my first US picture, and that's it! I occasionally post about pregnancy, but most of the time I get messages from friends ASKING about how it's going!
I finally said something on FB last week I think...not a big planned announcement with photo or anything, but I did mention it. All of our close friends and family already knew, so this was more as sort of an update to all those 'peripheral friends'- old uni and HS friends, etc, that you don't really talk to but are still interested in what is going with their lives. When we find out the sex I'll probably say something, and maybe post a belly pic once the date gets closer, but that'll probably be it until the baby is born. I wouldn't post an u/s pic on FB, because that's not something I want the world to see. We also live quite far from all our family and friends, but if I want to show anyone the u/s pic specifically I'll email it. I'm just not interested in sharing all my private family business with old classmates I rarely talk to.
If I had a bare-bones profile like my DH does, with only about 40 friends (and he still complains that's too many) I might feel differently, but I like to see what people from my past are up to too much!
This!!!!
Child #1 June 2012
Child #2 Feb 2014
Child #3 Feb 16
BFP 3/9/17
I agree...everything in moderation. Honestly, I'd rather read someone's pregnancy updates everyday than have to endure someone's constant b*tching & moaning about how their life sucks & stuff. (I have a few friends who do WAY too much griping! Ugghh!)
This is my 2nd baby & I decided to announce earlier with this one than my first. I announced the pregnancy at 8 weeks & posted the first sonogram picture. I don't talk about my pregnancy constantly, but I did post when I found out it was a girl. And I posted something about being 20 weeks & halfway there. No big deal.
Agreed! I love seeing pictures of my relatives & friends babies & growing kids, it brightens my day
Me too! I think it's weird that seeing stuff like that on your friends facebooks would bother you. Most of my family lives out of state too, so it's their way of watching my daughter grow and to keep up on our pregnancy. They appreciate it very much!
I'm almost 25 weeks and haven't publicly announced it of Facebook.
Two reasons - I like telling people in person, and there's still the occasional person who I haven't seen in a while who doesn't know, and I get the fun of announcing it again
If I don't see or call someone in this entire 9-month time frame to tell them, they obviously aren't close enough that they need to know.
And I just don't like sharing stuff on Facebook that's personal. Posting the occasional funny picture of my dog is about as far as I go. I have a couple co-workers who I don't like/trust who are my FB "friends" and I just don't like putting stuff out there for them to see.
However, both sides of my family have a private facebook group just for family members, and I have posted it there.
The only downside is that two particularly Facebook-obsessed friends (the kind that use foursquare and post status updates 12 times a day) knew that I was pregnant and after not seeing me for a while and not seeing a pregnancy-related status update, emailed my mom and asked her if I had a miscarriage. I feel a little bad that they thought that, but still, don't feel the need to announce it.
This is pretty much us as well. I announced it around 10 or 12 weeks I think and I put up a belly picture every few weeks. I don't go overboard either and don't complain on there about anything. I really don't see anything wrong with it unless you are posting a minute by minute update and complaining all the time.
This is my situation too.
Plus, I love sharing this time in my life with people. It's exciting and I like to share that with family and friends.
That's okay, you can come sit on the "overboard" corner with me ;-)
I agree. I do have a life outside of being pregnant so I see no need to post daily about how I feel, what I ate, when my next doctor's appointment is, or how many kicks I've felt today. I know my own personality and since I wouldn't care to see numerous, detailed updates on my own feed, I wouldn't subject others to it, either.
To each their own, though.