DS is screaming at the top of his lungs constantly. Not crying, but if he doens't like something, you take something away from him, he wants to be taken out of his crib or while he's playing. To be clear, he's not crying, it's like a squawk box sound.
I understand the discipline issue is a personal one, but are you guys saying "no" to your LO's or are you diverting their attention or saying something positive when you are trying to change a behavior? I'm at a loss.
Re: Saying "No" to your LO?
DS does this and I often just say Shh and give him attention (pick his up) when he stops.
I reserve no to biting, touching covered outlets, pulling hair, and standing up in the tub
We do use No. But after reading the other responses, maybe we are saying it too much. Think I need to rethink my strategy. It's just that she's into EVERYTHING. And I try to redirect - but that just doesn't work at all.
So - usually, we use "no" for touching the few things that are still out that she isn't supposed to play with (dog bowls, a couple of cords we couldn't hide, Mom's coffee cup in the morning...) and then I also have started using "no" for throwing food on the ground. But it's more like, "Stella, No. You can't throw food on the ground. (looks at me, grins, throws it again) If you don't want it, just leave it on your tray. (throws it again) Stella...please don't throw that down. (laughs, throws it again) No. Please leave the food on your tray. If you throw it, it means you are done (looks at me, holds the food out, throws it again)... ok. I guess your done. (Mom removes tray)....
UGH
This is us too. I think the most common variant is "you need to stop that".
This is us too. If Hen is hurting me, its "No, be gentle." If he doing something that's dangerous, its "No, danger!" Everything else, I stick to positive and diversion.
We are trying to avoid the word "no" at all costs. Mostly because I don't want her learning it and saying it back to me when's she is two.
Generally I try to redirect her, "let's come down from there","you can have this toy", or "ouchies, biting hurts mommy, we don't bite". It worked with DD1, and helped us stay positive.
That's a good point about having "no" used against you in a few years.
Part of me thinks his squawking is really his way of communicating at this point. Either way, it has to stop.