July 2012 Moms
michaela080
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Together since 5/08 ~ Married 6/19/10 ~ TTC #1 since 8/10
BFP#1 3/26/11 ~ EDD 12/2/11 ~ Ectopic Twins left tube 7w3d
BFP#2 11/2/11 ~ EDD 7/14/12 ~ Robert Edgar born 7/18/12
BFP#3 9/28/13 ~ EDD 5/20/14 ~ Benjamin Clarence born 5/15/14
What's the most annoying question people ask you?
michaela080
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People keep asking me "Are you excited?" What is the appropriate answer to this besides yes? Plus I feel like I should sound super excited as I say this, but since so many people ask it, I don't really sound excited anymore.
Together since 5/08 ~ Married 6/19/10 ~ TTC #1 since 8/10
BFP#1 3/26/11 ~ EDD 12/2/11 ~ Ectopic Twins left tube 7w3d
BFP#2 11/2/11 ~ EDD 7/14/12 ~ Robert Edgar born 7/18/12
BFP#3 9/28/13 ~ EDD 5/20/14 ~ Benjamin Clarence born 5/15/14
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Re: What's the most annoying question people ask you?
Are you going to abort your baby if your NT results are abnormal?
Kidding. Too soon?
"Oh, July - aren't you worried it's going to be so hot?" July is hot?? What???? My planning sucks!
"Is it a boy or a girl?" (when I was 6 or 7 weeks pregnant)
"Is your husband excited?" No, he's miserable actually, I tricked him into this.
Omg! I almost just PMP over that last one! Luv it!!
Why aren't you showing yet??
Is husband excited, what about the rest of your family??
How did everyone take the news
While someone's kids are acting up, they ask us....Are you ready for this?
Well, I guess we'd better be, right?!! I just want to play stupid and say....OMG, are kids really like that?? I thought it was going to be all rainbows and butterflies!!
This made me laugh out loud! I agree with all of these in addition to: "Was it planned?" or "Were you trying?"
My MIL keeps asking me that - yesterday she asked if I'd ever heard of something called "folic acid..."
"Have you gained any weight yet?"
Since when is it ok to ask a lady about her weight??
"I'll love you forever,
I'll like you for always.
As long as I'm living,
my baby you'll be."
Agreed with the previous posts about excitement, my husband, the gender.
Also, I know I am lucky to have not suffered any m/s, but I am done answering "How are you feeling? Nauseous?" and when I respond "No, not at all...some aversions but not sick." I get a "well maybe it hasn't hit yet." Um, I am 13 weeks, don't think I am going to get it...
I am also done with "What are you plans for work?" 1- it's really not your business and 2- when I tell you I am going to go back to work when the baby is 4.5 months, don't try to convince me to stay home or have my mom watch the baby. Thank you.
Married since June 2010
TTC #1 since 04/2011
3 abnormal PAPs and 2 colpo/biopsy since 09/2009
LEEP 05/2011
ASCUS PAP 08/2011 which means no PAP for 6 months!! YAY!!
BFP 11/6/11!! EDD: 7/15/12
1st u/s 11/21/11: TWINS!
16 wks 1/30/12: BOY and GIRL!
Schedualed c-section for 7/2/12 38wks 1day
Went into labor 6/25/12 37wks 1day. Delivered two healthy babies
It's not a question, but I get it a lot and it annoys me so much.
"If this one is a boy, then your family will be complete." No. DH and I wanted 2 so whatever comes out of there will complete my family, I don't care if it's a monkey.
"How are you feeling?"
Some people are trying to show concern, others are just nosy. I've gotten the hot in July question too. That's why central air was invented.
1. Were you trying? (my question back -why does this matter to you?)
2. Do you know what it is? (let's see, I just told you I was 8 weeks pregnant - are you stupid my NURSE friend? -now i'm 13.5 weeks, but still)
3. (not a question) - OMG you're due in JULY??? woooow, going to be REALLY hot going into the summer. **I LIVE IN MIAMI - IT'S 85 DEGREES IN THE MIDDLE OF DECEMBER - REALLY????
I haven't had too many annoying ones, I'm lucky. But I guess the one I've been getting is "Oooh, July....you know it will be really hot right?" Nooooo...I've never been awake during the summer months .. no idea it got up to 80-90 sometimes...
Not that we planned based on the season, but I'm thankful that I'm not going to be 9 months prego in the freezing cold when I could slip and fall any moment. I'll take sunny skies and sundresses any day
BFP#1: 11/20/11, EDD 7/25/12, Emily Iris arrived 7/29/12 at 7 lb., 3.5 oz.
BFP#2: 8/25/13, EDD 5/4/14, MMC confirmed on 9/23/13, D&C on 9/26/13
BFP#3: 2/3/14, EDD 10/15/14, fraternal TWINS confirmed 2/21/14, two BOYS confirmed on 4/15/14!
Are they natural?
How do you answer that one? They're not extra-terrestrial if that's what you're asking
I don't really feel like telling the world that I took Clomid. I've started to say that they run in my family distantly. It's sort of true because my husband's grandfather was a twin (except the father's history has nothing to do with conceiving twins), and it stops that line of questioning.
I get are you excited a lot and I hate it.
I also have been asked if its planned.
How does DD feel about all of this? Well honestly, she is two so I don't really think she gets it at all.
Is this your last one? I have no clue. We haven't thought that far ahead.
I keep getting, "When do you get to find out what it is?!"
Uuhhh, it's a baby, and if you're talking about the sex, we don't want to "find out." Yes, I know that's shocking to you, but we'll learn the sex when the baby is born.
Add me to the "were you trying" group. Also:
"Twins?! Wow, what are you going to do??" We thought we'd pick the cutest and send the other one back, duh...
"Was it IVF?" (From complete strangers!) No, it wasn't, but WTH does it matter if it was??
"Oh if it's a boy and a girl, you're done!" Thanks, I didn't know you were in charge of the usage of my uterus.
The worst for me was a coworker who asked me just about every time I saw him what I was going to do about work if I didn't stop getting sick. First off, can I just give this some time to see if it passes like most women? Second, yes I was puking constantly at work for close to three months, but don't you think I'm freaking out on my own enough without you pestering me about what's going to happen every other day???
Those are fairly tame compared to some of the things the rest of you ladies deal with!
Married 6/25/10**TTC #1 July 2011**BFP 11/1/11**EDD 7/11/12**U/S shows TWINS!!! 11/30/11
Fraternal girls born at 35+4. Slow down baby girls!!
When asked "do you know what you're having?" I say (with my biggest, most dazzling smile) "a baby!" If you say it with super sincerity they often don't go further.
I think the other ones I get most frequently are:
are you excited?
Was it planned?
Are you going to find out the sex?
I think asking if we're going to find out the sex is the only somewhat legit question in the bunch. I seriously side-eye people who ask if it's planned. Like, for reals? My immediate impulse is to ask "Were you?"
It has to be were you trying.
We actually had my husbands Grandma's home nurse ask us if it was a surprise and without waiting for my answer she told me we should consider a better birth control because obviously what we were using failed.
Today someone said to me "oh I bet you saw (coworker) with her new baby girl and it made you want one!"
Yes. my husband & I base our family planning decisions on what a chick I work with does. Also, we had never considered the thought of having children until we saw her with one.
yeesh.
Lots of -do twins run in your family?
Was it natural or was it science? (Seriously, this was so personal that very few members of my family know about our IF journey, so I'll be dam*ed if I tell a coworker about it)
Also, any question that puts a negative spin on the pregnancy:
how are you going to handle two? you poor thing!
Are you sleeping a lot now? followed by lots of laughter.