How to word on registry that I don't want clothes.
ne14pez
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So, our little girl is already becoming very blessed in the clothing department. I have found lots of clothing for cheap at moms to moms sales and received some really cute items for Christmas for her. We really need baby related items, and I am afraid that our family is going to go crazy on buying clothes for our little girl and not get the items she really needs. Not to sound ungrateful at all, I am so thankful we are even being given a shower, its just that we can find clothes for cheap, but we will have a more difficult time finding the things she needs. And I am a first time mom, so I don't have any clue what is good or not. So my question is, how tacky is it to say something like "Since we have found so many good deals on clothing for our little one, we would greatly appreciate the items she will need most!" Or something along those lines. I know some people will buy her clothes anyway, but we really need the pack and play (we are using it as a bassinet), the stroller, the car seat, etc. Let me know your thoughts! Thanks!
DX PCOS in 2000 TTC since April 2010 DX Hypothyroidism 6/2010 Referred to RE 9/2010.
BFP in June 2011, DD born in 2012
Joined the baby train again 8/2013. First month, out due to re-diganosis of Hashimotos.
Sept 2013, 2.5 letrozole and trigger, low progestrone and using supplements = BFN.
Oct 2013 2.5 Letrozole, trigger, and IUI = low progestrone (8.9, using supplements) and BFP 11/6 Beta 26.9, Beta 2 @ 30, Beta 3 @ 25.3, Beta 4 @ 25.2 CP 5w1d
Nov 2013: ? waiting on AF
Re: How to word on registry that I don't want clothes.
This. Yes it's tacky to mention it. If you don't want clothes, then don't register for any, but you really can't stop people from purchasing clothing for you if they want to buy it. You can just return it later if you don't want it.
We didn't want clothes either. Unfortunately, there really isn't a polite way to let people know. I just didn't register for any clothes. If anyone asked me what I wanted I would respond, "Well, we already have so much clothes! So, I guess, anything else."
If you get a ton you can return them for store credit and put it towards the stuff you really need. Most people I know don't want clothes...and most guests I know love to buy them (especially if they are women over 50!)
DX PCOS in 2000 TTC since April 2010 DX Hypothyroidism 6/2010 Referred to RE 9/2010.
BFP in June 2011, DD born in 2012
Joined the baby train again 8/2013. First month, out due to re-diganosis of Hashimotos.
Sept 2013, 2.5 letrozole and trigger, low progestrone and using supplements = BFN.
Oct 2013 2.5 Letrozole, trigger, and IUI = low progestrone (8.9, using supplements) and BFP 11/6 Beta 26.9, Beta 2 @ 30, Beta 3 @ 25.3, Beta 4 @ 25.2 CP 5w1d
Nov 2013: ? waiting on AF
This.
Sorry but I've got to be blunt- suck it up and deal with the fact you'll get baby clothes. Even if you put on your registry that you don't want clothes (which I would side eye a bit) many people will ignore it. Heck many people will ignore your registry entirely.
Just thank them for taking the time to get you a gift and return what you don't want/like/need.
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Ha. I'm in the same boat (first female grandchild on my husband's side and first girl since ME on my side). People are all about buying the girlie girl outfits!
Oh most certainly, and they are all adorable for sure. If nothing else she will be styling in all her duds! I feel better now knowing that it probably would come off as tacky or rude if I put anything on there. Glad I asked before I did. I'm just more practical and figured I should get the opinion before I made any changes.
DX PCOS in 2000 TTC since April 2010 DX Hypothyroidism 6/2010 Referred to RE 9/2010.
BFP in June 2011, DD born in 2012
Joined the baby train again 8/2013. First month, out due to re-diganosis of Hashimotos.
Sept 2013, 2.5 letrozole and trigger, low progestrone and using supplements = BFN.
Oct 2013 2.5 Letrozole, trigger, and IUI = low progestrone (8.9, using supplements) and BFP 11/6 Beta 26.9, Beta 2 @ 30, Beta 3 @ 25.3, Beta 4 @ 25.2 CP 5w1d
Nov 2013: ? waiting on AF
This is exactly why I haven't bought any clothes for our little one - baby boy clothes aren't quite as cute, but we've already been given tons as gifts. I'm a little bummed that I probably won't need to pick out any of my own son's clothes at first, but I'm so lucky to have generous family/friends and there will be many, many more years of me doing the shopping.
I agree with PP, there's no way to get the word out that you don't want clothes. Maybe if someone asks you what you need, you could mention that you don't need clothes but would love something off your registry. Hopefully you can return some things!
They are gifts, be happy people are spending any money on your child. It's no one else's responsibility to provide you with 'other baby items'. It's your child, you buy the items you need and accept the gifts that people are giving you and be thankful.
If you don't need the clothes then donate them.
I agree, there's nothing you can do.....or can you???? Just tell everyone that you just got another ultrasound and now they are not 100% sure that it will even be a girl!!! LOL!!! Like that idea? I thought you might:)
Your post is exactly one of the reasons why we are not finding out what we are having (the main reason is that we struggled with infertility for so long and knew EVERYTHING about my body along the way, so we want some mystery now). We do not want to be bombarded with clothes either, so I understand where you are coming from, as I think everyone does. However, if it happens, there really is nothing you can do about it other than try to figure out where they got them and return them. Good luck!