I was over at a friend's house today, and she says to me, "Wow, this is the first time I've seen you actually looking pregnant!" And I said jokingly, "What, so up until now I've just looked fat?" She shrugged her shoulders and said, "Well yeah, I mean it was hard to tell during those first 6 months of pregnancy whether you were pregnant or had just eaten too many donuts!"
Now, fair enough, for the first 4 months or so I definitely looked like I had eaten one (or 10) too many donuts, but as far as I can tell, I think I've "looked" pregnant for at least the last few weeks or so, particularly if you know what I usually look like.... She sees me at least once a week so she definitely has something to compare me to. Here's a picture of me at about 19 weeks.
I know it's not the perfect bump or anything, and I've definitely gained weight in places other than my belly, but do I really not look pregnant? I think I'm feeling a bit self-conscious about my weight gain and feel like my friend sort of (unintentionally I'm sure) hit a sore spot....
Re: My friend just called me fat. (PIP)
Then came a miscarriage March '11
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Once you are officially pregnant you are apparently fair game for all the weight comments and they don't seem to care if they are crossing the line lol
I had one woman at work giving me sideways glances all day for weeks and asking all of my friends if I was preggers, was I married and allsorts.. drove me crazy. I could see her out of the corner of my eye all day staring at me from across the aisle. Thankfully they finally moved her before I said something rude lol.
Another lady I work with was called into the office and reprimanded for congratulating someone on her pregnancy..she was being nice.. unfortunately the lady wasn't pregnant. Ooops
You look adorable ... I think pregnant women are easy to spot from people packing a bit extra. It's not a weight thing or a looks thing so much as an attitude and certain things baby mamas do. The protective hand in public /crowded places is a giveaway and the subconscious belly rubbing is too... lets face it not many of us like to rub our excess poundage lol we try and ignore that stuff.
You look pregnant and all baby.
I'm sorry she hit a sore spot. Like you said, I'm sure she didn't mean to but it just came out the wrong way leaving you thinking, "Well, gee. Thanks a lot!"
OT but your little girl's adorable.
That's all baby - no question about it. I do think people think they're being nice with the weight comments (I don't know why they think it's nice, but they do.) A month ago, I had a friend tell me "You don't look any different than you did before you were pregnant." Really? I've always had a stomach this size? Not so much a compliment.
I'm with you on this. And I also think you look GREAT!
A few weeks ago I had a pregnant co-worker tell me that I didn't look pregnant. How could I not take it personally? Just because she's due in January and she carries her baby like a basketball and I'm more 'all over'.... Just NOT nice.
I've learned quickly that there are some people who make me feel good/better, and others who (whether they mean to or not) don't. Stay clear of those don'ters and be PROUD of how YOU are showing. This is YOUR miracle growing inside you. ENJOY!
here's how i tell the difference if someone is prego for me. and so far its worked a lot! only time it doesnt work is when the person in question was already over weight before getting the big news.
prego - tummy is pushed more out than over (which is more obvious when wearing hip huggers)
fat - tummy basically just hangs over the edges of your pants
prego - the area below your belly button is pushed out farther than the top
fat - its just blubber that giggles no matter how little you move.
you might want to let your friend know that that upset you a bit. she may not have realized that at this point in time emotions are like a dang roller coaster and whether she meant it as a joke or not, its important to think about what you say before you say it. and looking like you may have eaten too much? as long as your doctor is happy with your diet then it shouldnt matter. after all you will have time after baby is born to lose that weight.
Can't wait to meet Molly!
I hear the same thing almost every week...from my father-in-law. I know he doesn't mean anything by it, but it got old after the first time. I've voiced my displeasure about it to my DH.
As far as your friend goes, I wouldn't read too much into it. Sounds like a off the cuff remark. You and your bump look fabulous!