2nd Trimester
JNoelleE
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Why do people feel the need to tell you very obvious things?
JNoelleE
member
I can't tell you how many times I've already heard "Get all the sleep you can get now! Cause once that baby comes...."
or, "Once that baby comes you will see all hours of the night!"
Really?? You mean, once I have this baby I won't get to continue sleeping for 9 hours though the night, without any interruptions? I'll have to wake up and feed my baby? With my boobs? My husband can't breastfeed for me? You mean to tell me my baby will start crying, and I will have to hold him/her until I'm able to calm him/her down? I will have to change diapers throughout the night- instead of sleeping? Wow, talk about a wake up call!
Seriously... Didn't they hear it all the time when they were pregnant? Was it not unnecessary and annoying?
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Re: Why do people feel the need to tell you very obvious things?
I hate when people tell me how I'm going to feel about something. Like I'm going try a natural delivery... "oh yeah, you'll be begging for an epidural in no time." Well, not that you asked, but epidurals have a bad history in my family and I'm terrified of being numbed. If I do get pain meds, it certainly won't be an epidural.
or how I want 3 kids..."you think that now but after you have her, you won't want any more". oh, okay. Thanks for informing me?
I second that! Sleep now? What sleep are you referring to?
Probably because unless you have kids you don't really know what its going to be like. I thought I knew and I got cranky about stupid things like that with DS, but seriously...you have no.fvcking.clue. unless you are going through it. You can imagine, but you don't know. Just sayin...
I disagree. I have babysat my niece and my best friends baby so many times, since they were brand new. And not just for 2-3 hours. My sister is a nurse so Ive watched my niece from 7am to 7pm til her husband gets home, dealt with her crying, not napping, pooping and spitting up everywhere, when I hardly got any sleep the night before because I'm pregnant and woke up a billion times to pee and didn't fall asleep til at least 3am. I've babysat my best friends baby overnight, while also being pregnant, having to feed her at least every 2hours and got zero sleep. Just because I haven't actually birthed my own children yet, doesn't mean I'm completely blind to what it takes from you.
-And saying very obvious things are pointless anyways. Everyone knows you don't get to sleep, if ever, once you have a baby. We know that if we are breastfeeding, it will be us who have to get up and feed our crying baby. We know. There is no reason to be that annoying person who has had kids and feels the need to tell others that they have no idea what they are getting themselves into. We, or at least I, definitely have an 'idea.'
Maybe it's just me... but when I was pregnant with DD #1, people would say that to me all the time. It didn't bother me, I would just smile and say "I'll try" and go about my day. I know that that pregnancy was riddled with complication and I had NO idea what a good nights' rest was anyways. But it wasn't worth getting all worked up about when it was more than likely just good meaning/well intentioned "words of wisdom" -- And the fact of the matter is, when she was born, she slept through the night, and I actually was able to clock about 7 hours a night. So, no one really knows, and it's just a matter of shrugging it off.
Even now, with this 2nd pregnancy, people see me holding DD #1's hand... and it still comes out of their mouths! lol. I guess I'd rather hear the redundant, than deal with indifference. I don't think people are trying to be negative intentionally... and I'm going to try my hardest to enjoy this pregnancy as much as possible!
I hate "Having a baby changes everything", and comments about our lifestyle: "Well you'll be able to camp, but you won't be backpacking anymore".
Though I realize having a child does change your life drastically, we really don't plan on making that many changes to our lifestyle once the baby gets here. As far as being active is concerned, nomads traveled much further then 3-5 miles in a night with babies strapped on, and I'm pretty sure they make jogging strollers for jogging so running won't be impacted.
FTR, I'm not one of those people that goes around saying that to people. I did lol at your post though. That's not even in the realm of the same. Doing it a night here and there is much different than doing it every single night. Knowing that you are going to be handing that child back to their mother is a much different thing than dealing with that child all.the.time. Who knows, maybe you'll get lucky and get one of those sleeps-through-the-night-from-day-one babies. You are cute though.
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When I read what you say...I think of this
I remember how annoying that was during my first pregnancy.
I think people just LOVE an opportunity to be a know-it-all.
FWIW, speaking as a 2nd time mom, a lot of the things that people warned me about did NOT come true. Every baby is different. Every marriage is different.