after he is fed, changed, swaddled, cuddled, and is pretty sleepy.. when left in the crib he wakes up few min later and cries like crazy.... then in order to calm him i often have to give him breast again, even for one min in order for him to fall asleep...
he doesnt like the paci, prefers his hands, which make him end up scratching his own face... so since we swaddle, he gets frustrated...
is it ok to just let them cry for a bit?
any advice?
Re: do u ever just let them cry???
This exactly. I am not a CIO mom, but I know that there are times when I can't grab him up right away. I hate hearing "it's good for them to cry sometimes." REALLY? Why? What's the "good" that it's doing? No one can seem to answer that. I have read evidence from doctors that proves otherwise. So no, I don't just let them cry.
I do not think that babies cry "for no reason." I think that it's just really hard to find out what that reason is sometimes.
Have you tried swaddling your LO with his hands free? My daughter hated having her hands swaddled from day 1, so we only swaddle her lower half. Maybe that is why your son is so frustrated.
I would try swaddling just his lower half and put those mittens on his hands so that he doesn't scratch his face.
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I've heard it's good to let them cry to "exercise their lungs" and other reasons, though I don't really understand that. But some times they do just cry even if all the basic needs are met. But it doesn't mean LO has to tough it out on her own. If she "needs to cry", I'd rather have her do it in my arms where I can at least try to soothe her.
I usually comfort her pretty quickly. I wouldn't let her cry it out for naps. Sometimes she wakes up early and will fuss or let out a couple of cries/whimpers. If she will go back to sleep, she will only fuss for a minute. I tell her I love her. If it goes longer, then I pick her up. I usually know what type of cry it is.
Have you tried different brands of paci's? LO hated the Nuk one from the hospital but loved the soothies.
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Do you feed him at the very end, after changing and swaddling?
Also, drowsy but awake doesn't work for every baby. Some babies need to be fast asleep before being put down (especially that young).
There may be times when you have no choice. My little guy goes from zero to full on out screaming when he wakes up at night to be fed. If I didn't get a bottle ready at the last feed, I have to let him cry while I get the bottle ready because I had no advance warning. It breaks my heart every time!
Please don't let him full on cry without you at least attempting to soothe! He's too little for that. Fussing - yes. Full on crying - no.
i know when my DD was between 1 and 3 weeks old, she would cry and cry for what seemed to be no reason. there were times i had to let her cry to keep my own sanity. i would put her in her crib, where i knew she was safe, and go downstairs and do something for a few minutes to distract myself. it was just so hard to hear her screaming, but i needed a few minutes so that i wouldn't sit and cry with her.
now, she does seem to cry when she is tired - whether i'm holding her or lie her down. so for nap and bedtime, i put her in her crib when she is drowsy. if she starts to fuss/cry, i let her go for about 5 minutes before i go in and try to calm her. i'll calm her down (without picking her up, if i can) and leave her again. sometimes i have to repeat this cycle 2 or 3 times, but she does fall asleep. if she's all out screaming/crying, i usually can't wait 5 minutes before i go in. but on a really bad day, i might let her scream/cry for the whole 5 minutes in hopes that she wears herself out. but that's on a really bad day.