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Anyone get pregnant in a apartment situation?
Hi. I'm about four weeks along and we live in a one bedroom apartment (for now). Do you think we're crazy for being pregnant? I'm just so used to my SIL and setting up her house and nursery and I feel like it's expected that we should have the same thing. I don't know maybe I'm just ranting.... 
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Re: Anyone get pregnant in a apartment situation?
Our LO is 2 weeks old and we have a 1 bdrm. We actually closed off our dining room area w/ 2 temporary pressurized walls so DS now has his own room. We don't have a lot of living space but it works for us for now and know someday we'll have a larger place. You don't need much in the beginning.....I almost feel bad for DS when he's awake because he looks bored but that's what newborns do.
GL!
I don't think you are crazy at all. Just because you don't have the house of your dreams doesn't mean you shouldn't have a baby.
My baby girl is going to share a room with my ds who is 4. I get comments constantly about how we need a bigger house. Yes it's going to be tight and we will have to make some changes. But I'm not going to live outside of my means for an extra bedroom.
DS was in our room until 4 or 5 months, so a second bedroom was not necessary. We also loved the Fisher Price RNP. I do not think you are crazy at all. Good luck and congrats!
Thanks ladies, I really appreciate the kind words. It's good to know there are other people out there in our situation. It's sometimes difficult to hang out with my SIL and her best friend because they are both pregnant, the best friend is due very soon, and they always talk about their nursery and all this stuff they are getting ready for their babies. Of course I would love to decorate a nursery too, but sometimes we get the hand we're dealt and I just feel so blessed we were able to concieve again after our loss earlier this year.
Anyway, thanks for letting me rant. You ladies are the best!!
DS is 4 months old and we live in a 1br apartment. We have no intention of moving any time soon. We have his crib in our bedroom and the situation works well for us.
We have a one-thing-in one-thing-out policy so that we don't have an overloaded living space.
If you are hesitant, stay where you are until the space no longer suits your needs. That's our plan anyway. We currently estimate that we'll move when DS is about a year and a half and we are hoping to be expecting a second child.
This is going to sound harsher than I mean it to--
Of course many people have gotten pregnant in an apartment. Many people have raised families in one bedroom apartments. You are above the median in America if you are thinking about it. And, you are in the top 10% of the world. Babies don't need much--you'll be fine.
We are also in a medium one bedroom and we don't plan on moving until we feel like we HAVE to/can really afford it.
We are still decorating our bedroom a little differently to feel like we are still making some special changes for baby. It is going from a stark black/white color scheme to painting the walls yellow, adding some grays and then pink or blue, depending on gender. We won't feel like we are living in a nursery, but it also feels like we are doing some baby decorating
I also got lots of ideas from OhDeeDoh on Apartment Therapy.
I agree completely with just making sure you are very organized! We are being very careful about not getting too many baby products [no walker, bouncer or big baby tub] and choosing compact/portable versions of items for our registry. I think it takes a little bit more planning but its completely workable.
We lived in a one bedroom condo until DD was about 18 months old. It was tight, but we made it work. DD slept in our room. It did get a little harder as she got older, was walking, etc. But I think it's totally doable with an infant.
When I was in labor, my L&D nurse actually told me they lived in a one bedroom with their 1.5 yr old and they were just starting to think about moving to something bigger at that point. That made me feel better.
We were in a 1 bd when we conceived and I definitely don't think its crazy. We moved but we wanted more space for a lot of reasons and my old apartment wasn't a great deal - long commute to the city & kinda overpriced for the amount of space we got.
Anyway, a lot of families keep baby in the same room as mom for the first few months of life and your LO won't suffer or even notice that s/he doesn't have its own room. We're setting up a nursery right now but we're going to keep baby in our room for the first 5 or 6 months. Even if you want to move LO into the living room after that, it's not crazy. This is how many families live. Do what works for your family - in terms of privacy, finances, and parenting style, etc. If you can only afford a 1 bd for now, stick with it. As some one taking leave without pay, I think waiting a bit to move is totally reasonable.
I know this post is a month old, but the question and your responses are really helping me out a lot. We live in a 2 bedroom apt. and can't get a decent mortgage due to some of DH's financial issues. We planned to get pregnant in 2011 and buy a home sometime in 2013, when certain issues would be taken off credit reports and other things would be paid off. Then my teenage stepson, whose mother has always told DH he would never ever get custody (difficult enough getting visitation), was kicked out and "forced" to live with us in November. DH now has full custody (though they are STILL taking out child support!) and I have lost my nursery. Not thrilled with my LO (a girl) having to share a room with a 14-year-old boy whom I do not fully trust at this point.
I am looking to possibly rent a larger home, but DH is against this, so I am backed into a corner with a troubled teenager while 28 weeks pregnant in 800 square feet of living space. I don't know if it's hormones, but I am so depressed about this whole thing! Thanks for making me feel better, though. Now I know I am not the only one in this situation.