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Mom coming after delivery
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My grandma came to stay with my mom for the week after I was born, and my mom wants to do the same for me.
Did anyone else have their mother come for a stay to help out, or if not, would that have been something you would have wanted? I'm wondering when I want her there.
She will be a huge help- cooking, cleaning, helping with the baby, but I don't know if I want her there the day we come home from the hospital. What would you recommend?
Expecting #2 In June 2014
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Re: Mom coming after delivery
I personally wouldn't have wanted anyone staying at my house, but I also have the luxury of having my mom only 15 minutes away, so she came a lot to help out. If your mom has to travel to come, you might want to consider having her stay, because I definitely needed help the week after LO was born.
Use your best judgement, but realize once the time comes might be a better time to make your final decision. GL!
My parents came & stayed with us after our LO was born- dad for 1 week, mom for 2.5 weeks. I had a scheduled c-section, so it was awesome having them there. My dad was busy fixing/updating things around the house (we bought the house a year ago), while my mom helped with chores and the baby. I would recommend having some help lined up, if that is what you want.
My mom lives only a half hour away, but I wish she would have been able to stay with us. That way I would have been able to concentrate on baby and not worry about housework.
Hubby got a bulged disc in his back 3 days after we got home, so that may have something to do with it lol. It was left allll up to me. Sucked the big one.
My mom is here now, but she didn't come until one week PP.
She plans on spending 2 weeks. I was concerned it would be too much now I know it will be too much. We still have a week to go and while I am totally appreciating the help, I am ready to have her go home. However, my mom can easily drive me up the wall.
My mom stayed about a week.
She cooked, grocery shopped, did a big Target trip. She also helped with E.
We had a rough patch the first night, but things worked out, and we were sorry to see her go (she made us a bunch of yummy food.)
*The rough patch was mainly due to my lack of sleep, and discomfort from unplanned c-section.
Do you have a spouse or SO that lives with you? Even with twins, DH and I didn't want people there helping out the day we came home. We were in the hospital from Thursday-Monday and got home Monday evening. My parents and MIL came to visit during that week that we came home, but they came, stayed briefly, and left. DH and I wanted that time to be able to bond with the boys as a family. We were able to balance the needs of the boys as well as laundry and food on our own.
When DH geared up to go back to work a week later, my mom started helping out more. I know grandparents get excited and sometimes having them there can be a bit overwhelming. I would talk to your DH about it and see what he thinks about having some "family time" before the rest of the extended family moves in.