Two Under 2
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Did you plan 2 under 2?
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My son is 5 months old. DH and I are starting the "talk" for number 2. Assuming we get pregnant when we want to, we are trying to decide if we want them to be 1.5 years apart, or wait another year for 2.5 years. So, if you planned 2 under 2, what helped you decide to go for it? We have a few reasons to go for it. 1) Age. DH is 35 and wants to be done before he's 40. 2) Number of kids. We definitely want two, but there is the potential of three. 3) I have baby fever (already). LOL. Thoughts are appreciated! Thanks!
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Re: Did you plan 2 under 2?
I don't know exactly what convinced us, I just new I wanted to try again. DD and DS are 14 months apart, and #3 will be 15 months behind DS.
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Yes, we planned it before my first was even conceived for a number of reasons:
-I didnt want to work full time until my kids were in school full time, but I also didnt want to take an extended leave from the workforce either.
-I'm not a huge fan of the newborn phase. I would never want to get spoiled with an older, independent child then start all over again.
-Get diapers/teething/sleepless nights out of the way quicker.
-I'm able to get my body back instead of losing the baby weight/getting toned again and starting all over again.
We planned it. DH is six years older than his sibling and he wished they were closer, so he wanted them close. I didn't have a preference one way or the other.
Our LOs are 19 mos apart and I love it! It's hard sometimes but so great overall!
DD#1 and DS are 19 months apart and we planned it. We LOVE having them close together and they play very well together now. They are in the same "stages" and like many of the same things (even though one prefers Disney Princesses and the other is a "Cars" fan, they sit through the other's preferences pretty well).
We had wanted 2u2 again, but God had other plans for us and we have been through a lot. DD#2 and this baby will be 26 months apart and we are thrilled!
We wanted 4 kids and we wanted to be done having kids by the time I am 35 (I will be 35 one month before this baby is due).
Yes and no. I had extreme baby fever almost right away after I had DD. We basically just stopped preventing...so I guess you could say it was more planned than not!
The plan was to wait until DD was on to TTC. However, had we waited until now I think we probably would have kept on waiting! DD is a handful, and you just don't realize what you're in for when they're just 3 months old and you're thinking about a second.
So really, I'm glad it happened the way it did. It's been work so far, but it's definitely not as hard as I anticipated.
We planned it due to our ages.... I'm 40 and dh will be 44 in Oct. He already has a 12 year old son from his first marriage. We wanted kids right away and knew we'd have to have them close together so I'd be done before being in my 40s.
My advice would be to maybe wait until your baby is at least 11 or 12 months to get pregnant. It's hard being pregnant with a toddler, but a non-walking toddler would suck even more. I know people have done it and kudos to them, but the fact that ds could walk and get things for himself helped tremendously when I got big and then when baby came. Mine are 22.5 months apart and I think it worked out great for us.
My first didn't start walking until he was 18 months which meant the little one was 5 months already. It really wasn't that bad. Frustrating at times, but totally doable.
Totally planned it for several reasons:
-I wanted to be done by the time I was 30 with kids. No particular reason on why that age, it just works for DH and me.
-We didn't want to be completely out of baby stage to just jump right back in. Right now we are used to doing diapers, washing bottles, naps etc. I think if we got out of "baby stage" we wouldn't go back.
-I didn't want to get my body back in shape to where I was before to just get pregnant again. This just worked for me. Now I can concentrate after #2 is born on excersise and then have a doctor fix what I couldnt' get back anyhow.
We know that we want a 'bigger' family. We hope to have 4, maybe 5, kids.
I was 28 when DS was born and will be 30 when this one is born. DH is 3 years older than me. We also want to be done having kids before DH is 40. (We are actually shooting for him to be 36-37, but we'll see how that works out.)
We knew that we wanted them closer in age (about 18-24 months apart) because I didn't want a big age gap, like I had with my younger brother. I am 7 years older than him and we weren't that close growing up. I have hopes that our kids will enjoy having built-in playmates that will be interested in some of the same things at the same time.
Plus I want to just be done with diapers when we are done. I don't want to see the fabulous light of not having diapers and then have to go back to it.
We felt ready pretty early on in Maddie's life. We didn't use protection after she was around 3 months old or so. I got pregnant right before her 1st birthday, when she started to nurse less.
This, almost exactly. My age isn't going to be a problem at all, because I'm only 23 (24 in sept) but DH is 31 and doesn't want to be an "old dad" as he puts it. It isn't a big upset in anyone's life. You're still in the "baby" swing of things. for me DS will still be too young to really be jealous. And they will be "into" similar things and toys for a long time. I like the spacing we're about to have, 20 months, but if I can get it a little closer (like 18 months or so) next time, that would be perfect to me.