Yea...so not happening!
I was talking to her about what to name LO, and of course she hates the name that i love, but idc...me and DH will decide. I love my mother, but she had her kids and named us what she wanted and now its my turn. But my mother is insisting that i let my 21yr old sister pick LOs middle name because Mother let Aunt pick my sister's middle name! Well that was her choice...it went down like this:
(text msg convo)
Me: "Sister did not have a say in DS's name, and she will not with this one"
Mother: "Well she didnt have a say because YOU didnt let her, ya think????????"
Me: "Exactly, Sister will have kids of her own one day and then it will be her turn to name them"
Mother: "Well you better remember how selfish you are being in case you ever want to name her kids, especially since she is your only sister!"
Me: "Oh im sorry, i didnt realize that not letting Sister name the child that me and my husband created, i am carrying, and we will be raising is selfish! Sister lives in massachussetts and will hardly see LO so why is she entitled to anything?!" (i am in florida)
She didnt reply...WTF??? I dont want to name my sisters future kids, they will be HER kids! Next my mother will be asking me to let Sister chose how to go about vaxing DD!
*Note, When my family came down to visit (they live 6hrs away, Sister lives several states away from us all), Sister decided that she was going back to college early instead of visiting with me, DS, and DH...and i owe her something...NO!
Sorry this got so long...just venting
Re: My mother wants my SISTER to name LO?
I hate that crap!
My sister gave my mom a name "suggestion" for my baby. Mazzy Hannah.
I told my mom that's not going to happen in a million years. Not only is that a horrible name, I would never let my sister choose MY CHILD's name.
Wtf are people thinking??
Hmm, thanks but no thanks, mom, for trying to force the weird "tradition" onto your daughters.
Does she have any idea how absurd that is? I don't know very many parents who would consent to letting anyone else name their kids.
Hopefully her lack of response is the end of it.
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This!!
I had a similar issue when DH and I were picking out our LO's name. His parents, his grandmother, grandmother's sister, and my sister and mother were all convinced that they even had half a say in what we named LO. His grandmother's sister actually announced at our baby shower that had LO been a girl, she'd have been the one to name her... which resulted in me immediately responding with "No... we didn't like the name, sorry. If it'd been a girl, we'd have still picked out our own name" in front of everyone. What in the world is with family members that gives them the idea that they have any right to actually name a child that they didn't help create?
So there's this boy. He kinda stole my heart. He calls me "Mom"
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This made me laugh. I am a firm believer that if you want to name something, get your own kids, or puppy.
Even if your sister lived right next door and was your absolute BFF, she still wouldn't have the right to name your child. That is crazy cakes. Your mom's weird, lol, no offense.
The only sibling we would have to name the child is DH's brother and since we both can't stand him, this would never happen.
Ok - I agree with you. That's totally odd.
Although our son't middle name will be my brother's name, because he is awesome. But certainly not because he asked!
DMoney will be a kickass big sister
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Your mom sounds like she's totally nuts. It's ridiculous of her to even suggest a thing.
However, your response to her was pretty immature as well. I would have just stuck to your very first response, and then left it at that. A simple "This is OUR child, WE will be picking the name" should suffice.
This. Is this the first time she's mentioned the idea of siblings picking the middle name, or was this something she always told you that she did with your names and wanted you to continue? Sounds like she's trying to start a tradition. Either way, there's no reason to get upset because she has no control whatsoever. Just roll your eyes and say "no, mom, I'm not doing that." To the "well, I hope you know how selfish you're being" comment, just tell her "I am only interested in naming my own children." Repeat as necessary.