Hi everyone! I typically lurk over on the TTC board, but I got my BFP this past week. Yah! A little about me: I'm 28 and I live in Florida with my awesome DH. Steve (the DH) is active duty Air Force and we should only be in Florida for another year or so. I plan on doing a home birth with a midwife and the whole nine yards.
Now my vent...I've been talking to my mom the past couple of days and she is the least supportive person in the world. She is pretty unsupportive of a lot of my decisions, but now it's full force since "a child is involved." Apparently, a CNM isn't good enough, I really need to see a doctor, I absolutely need a sonogram to "see if there are any problems and to get a picture," my pre natal vitamins are "crazy hippy stuff," and cloth diapers are ridiculous. There is so much more, but no one needs to hear it all. :-)
Yeah. Sorry about that. I just really needed to get that off my chest, since I have no friends here and while my DH is hugely supportive...it's nice to know that I'm not alone in this. It really makes me question my decisions when my own mom things nothing is good enough. Deep down I know that I'm making the best decisions for my family, but it would be nice to have a little support. If you don't like the things that I choose to do, just keep it to yourself. And I'm done.
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Pregnancy & childbirth can bring up a lot of uncomfortable control issues between mothers and daughters, sorry to say. I'm still working through all of these myself, 3 years after giving birth to DD.
Ultimately, you just have to stay strong and not let your mother question yourself. And you have to be prepared to distance yourself from her a little if she continues to be hurtful and refuses to accept you as an adult capable of making her own decisions. I hope it doesn't come to that for you, but realize that you can only control your reactions. Unfortunately, my mother could not be present for DD's birth because of how adamantly opposed she was to my birth plan and to this day, she still doesn't understand why she was left out of such a momentous occasion. It makes me really sad.
I'm sorry your mother is not supportive of your choices.
There are resources out there that you could try to share, but not sure if it would help or if she would be willing to read it.
I just wanted to add: cloth diapering is soooo worth it!
Just have your mom run a little math comparison:
Cost of diapers for one child from birth to potty training v. cost of cloth diapers.
Pretty much any way you swing it, that left hand side will be bigger. By far. Let alone if you have more kids and reuse the diapers!