Yes, I am going there! My DH has been deployed for most of this pregnancy but is due to come home very soon - NOT soon enough - but in time for him to see my whale of a belly. Due to his job we haven't been able to communicate in the past couple of weeks - and even when we were - it was hit and miss - but I know for a fact we are both anxious to DTD.
However, with my HUGE belly I am afraid that it's going to be uncomfortable for me and feel different for him? If that makes sense.
So I am hoping that some of you ladies who are still "having fun" in your 3rd tri can tell me some of the more comfortable positions for you. I know that it will probably be something he and I will just have to experiment with BUT Im hoping we can at least have ONE comfortable position for the first time so we're not spending a lot of time working on finding the perfect one at first.
So tell me - what works and what doesnt! Thanks in advance!
Re: TMI - Let's talk about sex ....
Being on top physically feels best for me, but I totally hate my body so I don't really like it. Doggy-style works, but I like to put a pillow under my boobs (to allow room for tummy) and lay down flat (almost) with my legs together, he enters from behind... this is his favorite. I have to warn you though, I have a high sex drive for a pregnant woman but nothing makes me feel unsexy like sex does. It's kinda like a reminder of how big and uncomfortable you are, but you don't realize it until you're doing it. Also, way too much vaginal secretions, it's like a slip and slide, not very sexy. I've found that the only thing that makes me feel sexy is giving him oral (my face doesn't look preggo!) so we usually start out with that. I'm sorry if this is TMI but you asked. Hope it helps
I was feeling it too last night. I hadn't been desirous of sex in well over a month, but damn I wanted it last night. I initiated (I think DH thinks he can break me somethnig, so there is not initiating from him during pregnancy) and he was into it and we start tussling...AND THEN the baby started moving a lot and totally freaked DH out and the moment was gone. So we watched the History Channel and went to bed.
Ha... yeah that's another nice thing about doggie style. DH has no access to the belly that way. During foreplay he started rubbing the belly and it almost ruined my horny... redirected him to the boobies. We're still figuring these things out....
Oh, married life...isn't it grand? I can definitely empathize...
Thank you ladies so so much! With this information I am ready to get back "into the game" - it's been way too long. haha
Someone mentioned how DH would rub their belly as "foreplay" and it kinda was a turn off - I can honestly say I know what you mean. Before DH left - I wasn't VERY far along but he would rub my stomach afterwards and kiss it - and while I think it's the sweetest thing ever - it also kinda weirded me out. Thankfully he would do it afterwards
Thanks for the advice that nipple stimulation causes contractions - my boobs have always been his favorite sexual asset that I have - so I will have to find a nice way to tell him "no no" haha.
I am pretty nervous though - I have to admit. Im sure some of you ladies have husbands that go away on jobs, so maybe you know what Im talking about - but when you've not seen eachother for so many months - you get these little butterflies in your stomach and you get so "highschool-ish" about sex. Of course, everytime he's been gone and we come home and the clothes start to hit the floor - the butterflies fly away. This time though - I am anxious to see how he reacts to this huge stomach.
Anyway If anyone has anymore advice - please feel free to share! You can never be too prepapred for something like this - and Thank you again for those of you who shared!
Hey there,
I say ditto on the doggy-style. We have done it with me kinda on my side (using my snoogle pillow for support, of all things), but it still mashes my tummy a bit, so I don't like it as much.
Also, maybe somebody else brought this up already, I didn't read through every response, but despite being in the mood more than usual, I actually have more trouble getting lubricated on my own, so we've realized that it really helps to have some lubricant on-hand, just in case. I bought some that's water-based, free of weird chemicals, vegan, etc, just to make sure I'm not exposing Bebop to anything extra-funky (actually I have no idea if that stuff could even reach him- I doubt it, but just to be safe.)
Sorry if that's tmi, just something to consider, because it changed sort of all of a sudden for me.
Good luck!