1st Trimester
Any other DH's like this?
So DH and I were not planning on the BFP just yet... I had literally just stopped BC and have fertility problems in the family so we figured a few months at best years at most.. well now he changes the subject when I try to talk about it with him. I'm 7weeks along and we are not telling 'people' till after the first tri. I know he is excited but I wish he would just talk to me about it. He told me not to go "baby crazy" till October... Ummm its July! I'm already crazy ;-)
Any other odd DH behavior out there?
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Re: Any other DH's like this?
We were really excited and couldn't stop talking about it when I was pg in the winter, they we found out about the MMC at the first appt. This time DH is not talking about it at all, I think it's just him trying not to get too excited again.
This is how my husband was when I was pregnant with my DS. He would always start kicking at 5 am so I would press my belly against DH back and wake him up every morning. It was such a cool thing to share with him and definetly helped him feel more connected.
We were trying for about 6 months before my BFP. I was so so so excited to tell DH, and I didn't get the reaction I was hoping for. He also didn't want to talk about it for 2 or 3 weeks at all. I was very sad and disappointed. He's completely changed now, and even asked for "baby stuff" for his birthday, which is next week.
I think it takes men a little more time for the news to sink in, especially if you weren't expecting your BFP so soon. Maybe finding a baby book written for men for him to read? DH reads his maybe once a week, and then tells me things he's learned.
When I told my DH we were pregnant I showed him the test stick & he said it didn't look pregnant. I told him to go upstairs & read the directions for the test because that plus sign means pregnant. Two days later I figured I'd have more HGH & possibly a darker plus sign so I tested again & showed it to him. He said it still looked light to him. I explained that light or dark, it's a plus sign instead of just 1 line. Then today he asked me what day I was supposed to get my period. I told him Monday. He looked surprised & said, "That's good since today is Thursday." I just laughed at him & shook my head. His response was, "Well I guess the Dr. will tell us for sure."
He's excited & interested when I talk about our pregnancy, making plans for the baby & what to expect in the next few weeks. But, I get the feeling that it hasn't quite sinked in yet & he doesn't want to be too excited in case something goes wrong since it's so early.
DS1 born June 2008 | m/c at 9w March 2011 | DS2 born April 2012
I would just give him time for it to really sink in. Seeing the little one at the first U/S and then telling everyone will make it more real for him.
I know it is hard when he is not sharing your excitement though. Maybe confide in one friend that you know will be there to talk all about it with you.
Same here - I just got my BFP but my DH isn't talking about it or anything. I too think that he is just trying not to get excited since I've had m/c's
Make a pregnancy ticker
My husband did the same thing until the 12-week ultrasound when it actually looked like a baby and we started telling everyone. Now he's totally into it! (picking out onsies, nursery decor, and baby names) I just talked to a couple close friends and my mom (that already knew) until he was ready. I think it's just hard for them because it doesn't feel like it's "real" until then, and they don't want to get too attached yet just in case. Ours happened really fast too, so there was also a period of shock before getting used to the idea of a real life baby on the way!