I was not going to tell anyone other than family until after my 12 week appt/ultrasound.
Well, I no longer have to seeing as my MIL blared all over facebook last night that she is getting another grandchild. Glad she is excited but pretty upset that we dont get to tell the rest of family and friends ourselves. Grr,,.
Re: MIL outed me on FB
I would contact her right now and have her take it down. I would be pissed!
We told our parents last time when I was 4.5 weeks. VERY early but we couldn't hold in our excitement. That very day I walk into the room and my dad is telling extended relatives...like cousins I haven't even seen in 10 years. It was ridiculous.
I'm 6 weeks right now and none of our family knows for this reason alone.
Beta #1: 268 (16dpo) ~ Progesterone 54 ~ Beta #2: 541 (18dpo)
I don't get why they can't just keep their traps shut! It's not their news-- it's ours. MIL did manage to keep it off facebook (although she *only* told a few of her close friends in real life.... as if that makes it okay). But the other day I looked on her FB & saw, "Can't wait for little Brooks or Caitlin to get here!"
1) Get our child's potential name off of facebook. We mentioned it to our parents & have talked about it with a few close friends & on the bump boards. That's OUR news to tell.
2) You spelled Katelynn wrong. I get that it's a correct spelling, but she's trying to be all 'grandmother of the year'-- and the 'lynn' is after her middle name!
I'm sorry you are upset.
My theory is that telling one person (even if you ask them to keep it quiet) is the same as telling the world. Once you let the cat out of the bag, imo, you should just expect everyone to know.
FWIW, when I was pregnant with J., we had to tell SIL almost immediately after we got our BFP due to needing to order bridesmaids dresses for her wedding. We asked her to keep it to herself. She did. However, I wouldn't have been upset if the news had gotten out.
We had told someone. And news of a pregnancy is hard for people to keep to themselves. That's why we aren't telling anyone with this one for a long time.
Oh man sorry to hear that.
My MIL did the same thing last time to us at 6 weeks which is why we have not told any of DH's family this time around. He wants to see how long we can go without telling them.
My whole family and close friends all know.
I hope they are not mad once they find out but it is the 9th grand baby so don't think it is a big deal.
That's my fear with my MIL, but so far so good, I think. I'd be livid (and she'd be hearing it from me and my husband).
I think you should be able to trust the people you tell, if we find out we can't trust them, lesson learned. Next, time they'll be the last to know.
When we broke the news, we specifically asked the FB blabbers not to post anything about it. I told them that I have co-workers as friends on FB and I'm not notifying work until we're safely into the second trimester. They have all respected my wishes so far.
As far as my mom and MIL go, they've told anyone and everyone that will listen. I don't care if family and friends know so that's not an issue, but I really don't like the added attention.
You should return the favor and "out" her on FB.
JK, but the thought does make me giggle a little.