DH and I weren't the first in our group, a close friend of our's got pregnant about 6 months before we did with her boyfriend. We are however the first to be having our second. What about you - are you the first in your group of friends (or family) to have a baby?
Re: Are you the first of your friends to have a baby?
No, we are the last of our friends and family to have kids. Well, I am anyway. My husband has a daughter from a previous marriage. But together, we are the last. Several of my friends had babies right out of high school. All of our siblings (with the exception of DH's brother, who is single) have children. And all of our friends have children. Our closest friends are pregnant currently and due at the end of August so we are super excited. I was afraid that by the time we had children, everybody would be done. So excited that my sister is pregnant and due in a couple weeks and my sister in law is pregnant and due 5 days after me!
It's been interesting, DH continues to jetski and go on boating adventures w/his boys while I mention things I can't do or just don't go out with them at all. Reality is going to hit big time in a few months when we're going to birthing classes and really getting ready for baby, topsy turvy when baby is home!!
It will be "No DH, you can't go snowmobiling this weekend and leave me w/a newborn, don't think so!"
We're the first in our group of friends to have kids and this is our 2nd. It's tough. We get a babysitter when we can, but often they make plans to go out the day of... We can't go out last minute like that. And for whatever activity we're doing that night, we have to add $30-$50 onto it to pay for the sitter-- sometimes it's just not worth it.
THIS FOR us too. I'm lucky to have my mom watch them most of the time but still I dont like to take advantage or stress over how they are with the sitter. So I guess we'll eventually find new friends or they'll come around.
DS born via unplanned C-section at 40w6d
Why not? Everyone deserves their own time.
Certainly not every weekend, but if it were me, I wouldn't complain about him going every once in a while.
Besides, the day will come when you want to get out of the house for an extended length of time, and it will be nice to have 'credits' built up to cash in with DH and make him be the one to stay at home.
A Little Bird and a Monkey Butt