Baby Names
Are these initials inappropriate?
We are due with a "surprise" baby in September. The girl's name is Norah Ann, which is great. However, we really like Ben for a boy. That's great, except my husband really wants to use the middle name James after his step-dad who is wonderful. Ben James is fine, but his first and middle initials would be BJ. We obviously don't plan on calling him by his initials and you don't typically use your first and middle initials alone, right?
Do you think it is mean to give a little boy a name that contain the initials BJ?
I asked family and friends, but they are either too old to really get what I'm talking about or they are being too nice with their answers. I'd rather hear from strangers. 
BE HONEST!
Thank you for your help!
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Re: Are these initials inappropriate?
I think if there are two names you like and are trying to decide between, you should choose the other one. But if Ben is your absolute favorite name, then it's not THAT big of a deal. I think it's a good enough reason to sway you in a different direction, but not a good enough reason to give up your all time favorite name.
Would it be possible to use the stepfather's MN or LN instead of James? I do like the sentiments of using his name, and I don't think you should change that.
I know some people really like the initials BJ, and go by those. So when I hear BJ, I think more of BJ from M*A*S*H or a kid in my neighborhood growing up name BJ.
Of course, I do see the teasing potential, but I'm not sure if that kills the name for me. If Ben is hands-down your favorite boy name, and it is really important to use James, I'd probably still use it.
Our daughter's first and middle initials are MF, but we loved the names involved.
Unless you are going to call your son BJ, then I think you are fine. If you are CALLING him BJ, then I would say rethink it. If you are simply using a name that would be 3 initials, and BJ are the first 2, you are fine. I play with words and letters and admit I'm a total grammar geek, and I never really think about initials when I hear a full name.
If DH and I have a girl, one of our names has the initials MEH. "meh..." Like, "I don't care..." No big deal to us.
In reference to names, the thought of BJ meaning something sexual doesn't cross my mind. I went to school with several boys that went by BJ, and I'm pretty sure I have a distant cousin named BJ. And wasn't there a Barney character named BJ?
It's not a big deal at all. Especially if you aren't going to call him by his initials.
I have a friend named Barbra Jean, she has pretty much gone by BJ her entire life. I'm not going to lie and say no one has ever made any comments about it, but nothing serious.
If you like those two names, go for it!
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