I'm a FTM, and have 3 weeks left of my pregnancy. To date, I barely feel connected to LO. I feel huge and look forward to getting my body back to how it was before. We didn't want to know the sex so we haven't been calling LO by a real name. I've been truly blessed so far... No MS, no major complaints except for swollen feet and some heartburn over the past few weeks. Don't get me wrong, when I have the u/s I'm fascinated that LO has developed so much from the first u/s and that soon s/he will be here.
Is anyone else in the same boat? I'm hoping when LO arrives I'll feel more connected and nurturing. I'm not depressed at all. I guess I'm more the type to be connected once we meet.
Re: Does anyone not feel connected to LO?
You're not alone, I've felt similar all pregnancy and I believe Katie4325 (or whatever those numbers are) did too, up until her little man was born.
Dont worry, you will. I think most FTM have that feeling even with the following pregnancies. Once you see the baby it will click and you will be fine. I was like that with my first but once i held it it completely changed and i love him more then life. I too have not fully connected with the LO but i know once she arrives i will get the same connection i had with my son. Dont worry
You're not alone.
I feel the same way. I love LO and have had a pretty easy pregnancy.
However, due to a past history, I'm scared to get too attached until I see a happy, healthy, living, breathing baby.
Some people fall in love from the time their pregnant, for others it's more of a bonding experience, either is fine.
Yup, I did. I love him to pieces now. I still am not a "sit and stare in awe" type mom. When he is sleeping I am sleeping or getting stuff done. But, we do think he's a keeper )
Really though, a good chunk of the time I was pregnant I worried I wouldn't like him. Then, I just decided to get over it. As soon as I found out something was wrong, I went into super protective mom mode (think Sarah Palin and the mama grizzly--I hate her, but she is right).
When he was born, it was pretty much the same. I knew I'd spend the rest of my life making sure he was loved, cared for, and protected.
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This.
I could have easily written the above post myself.
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*stepping out of lurkdom*
I am a second time mom (38 weeks) and I felt just like you with my first. Although for me, that motherly love didn't kick in until he was a couple months old. I think I was just overwhelmed by all the new responsibilities. I talked to my doctor (through a mess of tears because I felt so guilty) and was diagnosed with PPD. I didn't want to hurt him or myself, I just felt like I was babysitting an infant that belonged to someone else. My son is now almost 3 and I can assure you there isn't anything I wouldn't do for him. Sometimes my breath gets caught in my throat because I am overwhelmed by love for him.
With this pregnancy, I feel much more connected. I think it's because I now know first hand what this is starting- an amazing little person.
I just wanted to give a different perspective to you and anyone else who feels the same way. It isn't always instant love and there is no shame in asking for help if you need it.
*creeps back into the shadows*
We are team green and I have had similar feelings. I am not the kind of person that cries at u/s. I loved every time we got to hear the heartbeat, but still this baby has never felt completely "real".
But, I have faith that as soon as I have this LO in my arms all of those feelings will go away!
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