My first vent ever (re: team green)
FyshWyfe
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Ok, I've been on these forums for about 2 1/2 years and have never written a vent post, but I'm going to now. And b/c someone is bound to say it, I know nobody is entitled to a shower/sprinkle and you should be grateful for anything you get, yada yada yada.
The ladies at my job were talking about throwing me a small shower, but when I told them we weren't finding out the sex they decided to postpone it till 8 weeks after the baby is due. You know, so they'll know what to get me. So I went to Target the other day and bought all the stuff we need. It just kind of bugs me that they made a big deal out of throwing me a shower (they're the type that want to throw a Friday afternoon luncheon for any occasion) but are waiting till baby gets here so they can buy clothes. And we are stocked up on clothes till at least 6-9 months. What I really needed were a Boppy, nipples/pacis, and crib sheets.
So, ya, that's my vent. Flame away if you wish.
Re: My first vent ever (re: team green)
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I hear ya! We were team green with DS too (and this one). When a family member wanted to throw me a shower they suggested waiting until after DS came so (like you) they could know what they needed to get. UM...it was my 1st and I needed EVERYTHING! I kindly said that I would rather have the shower beforehand so that I didnt have to worry about taking care of a baby during my shower!
That stinks that people only want to get "boy or girl" stuff. Take back the clothes they get you for gift cards and use it for diapers later!
Ya, I totally don't get it. The thing I've heard the most is, "I could never do that, I need to be prepared. How can you be ready if you don't know the sex?" WTH? I'm having a baby, and the baby's needs don't change based on its sex.
Plus, we're cloth diapering so I can't even tell them to buy me diapers. ::grumble grumble::
That was the other suggestion at my office. They wanted to do a diapers and wipes party.... One of the men in the office actually gave me some fuzzi bunz though, then I had to explain what cloth diapers were to a bunch of ladies who rolled their eyes and said "you can just use them as burp cloths" when I said the gift was cloth diapers.
I've gotten that response too. Except thankfully we're second-timers so I don't hear any more of those comments about how CDing sounds great till your baby actually gets here and then you'll give it up. I have a comeback for that one now.
So, hey, any ideas on what I can ask for for an older baby? I know we need a new highchair. Any other suggestions?
Can't you talk to them about it? There's so much that you need for those first few weeks. Is it your first?
That's very frustrating..especially 8 weeks til after the baby is due..wtf.
That being said, in Canada, I would say showers are often held after the baby is born..and for some reason most people I know are Team Green, so that's a lot of peoples situations. We are Team Green, having a shower after for baby, so we had to go out and buy everything ourselves. People mostly give baby clothes though for baby gifts I find..so it's not really a huge deal to me.
I do get where you are coming from though, when showers are always thrown beforehand and you are sort of expecting to get everything you need. Bummer
Well THAT sucks! I, too, am team Green. My work is excited about throwing me a shower. They know how to buy neutral things. They also look at that thing online...ooohh...what is it called? uhm..my REGISTRY!
My sis seems to be the only one giving me grief about not being able to shop for me because she doesn't know what it is. OMG! how EVER did people do it before USs were commonplace (not THAT long ago!!!!)
She got me a bouncy and a diaper bag. How HARD was that?
I really need what everyone needs. Essentials! Diapers, wipes, toiletries, plain Ts and onsies! I mean....those are as neutral as you can get.
I'd be venting too!
Just a minor flaming from me. The gesture of the party is what should matter, not what comes in the wrapping paper and gift bags. But then I'm one of those "I was in the bed making this baby not you, so I should be the one at Target making the baby necessity purchases anyway" kinda people.
Whenever the party happens, I hope you have a great time and really enjoy the company of all those who attend.