1st Trimester
Hiding pregnancy from friends who ask
Before we got married, we told people we were going to start trying right away (when we were asked). Now, I wish I hadn't said anything. I'm pregnant (only 5 weeks along) and my friends keep asking if I'm pregnant yet. We don't want to tell anyone other than our parents until the end of the 1st trimester since this is our first, but I can only say "I don't know" for so long. Any ideas?
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Re: Hiding pregnancy from friends who ask
I know - it's so hard to lie about it. I had to do this just yesterday when someone asked when we were having children. Just say that you aren't pregnant yet - point blank.
I also have to say that I think it is so unbelievably rude that people ask those things. It can be really hurtful to someone who is maybe having fertility issues and whatnot...
I have a friend who is dealing with this right now. She did tell me, but she hasn't told anyone else besides her parents. Our friends are baby crazed and very excited for people to start having babies. They keep asking and she's been forced to lie. She's anxious to get through the first trimester and be able to share the news, but she'll just have to keep lying to them until then. Good luck! I hope the time goes fast for you.
"Sorry, nothing to report on the baby front"
Followed by (if they keep pushing)...
"As soon as there is baby news, we'll let you know!"
its hard but they are just excited for you. I told any of my close friends who asked (this is my 2nd pregnancy). I was surprised how many asked me- didn't see me drinking
Personally, i cant keep it from close close people in my life. if anything happened I would need them to be there.
so i guess to some it seems rude, but not so much in my world.
I've had no problem lying to people who ask, I normally say something like "nope, not yet!" (even in church lol). I know they're friends and they're only asking because they care, but it's not their business until my hubby & I choose to tell them.
I'm sure I'll have a lot of people saying "oooh, you lied!" but it doesn't matter, we're going to announce it when we're comfortable...it's our news to tell!
Good luck in whatever you decide to do...just make sure it's on your time, not other people's.
BFP #1 5/5/2011, EDD 1/12/2012
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I also used a vague non-answer like "I'll definately let you know as soon as there's something to tell". And it made me uncomfortable to be forced into the position of having to say that. I do think it's rude to ask somebody, even if you know they are trying...they will let you know any updates when they wish. Pushing is just pushy.