TTC after 35
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It's over
After a long and tearful discussion, our TTC journey has come to an end. I was given the wrong test results in regards to my husband's sperm analysis. As it turns out, he has a zero sperm count. My husband and I have talked about it at length and have decided that donor sperm just isn't an option for us so this marks the end of our very short TTC experience.
I wish all of you the very best of luck and I hope all of you wonderful women get your BFP's very soon.
Thanks again for all of the information.
-- Shannon
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Re: It's over
Shannon,
I am so sorry to hear this. I am sure you will be sad for a while - there is always a necessary grieving time. I just wanted to suggest you put something in the back of your mind for later (if you wish) - there are many ways to make a family. Of course, some people don't want to go the non-traditional route, and this is a personal choice. But here in S.F., I would say half of all families are not the "traditional" ones, and they are as loved and loveable as any other family.
Also, you may want to check in with the "Azoospermia" check-in on the Infertility boards. I've lurked over there when awaiting our semen analysis, and those ladies accomplish some amazing things. Have you looked into meds to treat this condition?
Most of all I just want to wish you the best and to take good care of yourself during this hard time.
me (36): Hypothyroid (on Levothroid), low vit. d, borderline/high fsh (day 3: between 7-10) (day 10: 13 during CCCT), AFC: 14
dh (31): awesome (minus one sample with agglutination)
Diagnosis:possible DOR and/or unexplained + elevated NK cells + MTHFR (C677T - one copy)
MAY 2011 - FEB 2012 - 3 injectable IUI's with numerous cancellations due to high TSH levels
MAY 2012 - onto IVF/ICSI (Antagonist Protocol) on BCP and Folgard (3 week delay - cyst - boooo) 5/21 start stims 5/30 ER 11R 8M 3F 6/2 3DT of 3 6/12 Beta #1 83 | 6/14 Beta #2 196 | 6/21 Beta #3 3818 | 6/28 Beta #4 22,213 | 7/2 1st U/S - 2 on board! 8/24 CVS reveals that we have a boy AND a girl on board!
Healthy baby boy and girl born in February, 2013 at 38 weeks and 2 days!
You have all my sympathy, and of course you should make the decision that feels right for you. But like solarflare above, I just want to plant another seed, just in case. Even though I don't know what your reasons are for not wanting to use donor sperm, I can kind of understand because I am uncomfortable with donor eggs -- not just the expense, but also because I just don't like the idea of looking at a future child and wondering what is my husband, what's the donor, and what's, well, not me. Weirdly enough, though, I find I'm kind of ok with the idea of donor embryos, with which I would get to be pregnant with my adopted child who is genetically related neither to me nor to my husband. I don't know if that makes sense, but it's something my DH and I are contemplating if our IVF cycle doesn't work. (It's also far cheaper than either donor eggs or actual adoption).
However, if you've made a decision you want to stick with, of course that's what you need to do, without listening to any of us who haven't taken your courageous step chattering at you.
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5 cycles of Clomid with satisfactory response=BFN's
Fibroid removal Nov2010
IUI Clomid #1 Feb 2011...BFN..damn it!
IUI Inject's #2 Apr 2011...CANCELLED...low estradiol
IUI Inject's #3 June 2011...BFN
IUI Inject's #4 Sept2011...BFFN
Lap Dec 2011...severe endo..cyst removed..some remains...
IVF#1 Apr 2012 ....cancelled due to over suppression
IVF#2 July 2012....6 follies...only 1 retrieved....BFFN
surgery suggested to move ovary to an better placement but....we moved two time zones away and are financially and emotionally empty
History of ENDO and ovarian cysts, currently have 1 Myoma on left ovary - but it's shrinking, yea! Clomid 100mg since Jan 2011, trigger 4/5, 1st IUI 4/7, 1 mature follie, progesterone = BFN
SHG 5/2 = all clear
IUI#2 on Mother's Day 5/8, no trigger, 2 mature follies, progesterone = BFN
My Ovulation Chart
I am so very sorry to hear this. I know this must have been a difficult decision. Take the time to grieve properly and then see how you feel. Maybe you will stick with your decision, maybe you will one day start looking at other options. Just keep an open mind and an open heart.
I'm a single-mom-to-be and before I ever started down this journey I had to take the time to grieve the loss of having a child with a a husband in a loving marriage. It was tough, but going through it made it easier for me to open my heart to other options.
Best of luck to you!
TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
DE IVF #3 1/14 ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d
DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!
K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days
SAIF/PAIF Welcome
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Totally agree with this...sending you lots of love...hoping that you will be able to find some comfort and also another resolution to the situation...xo
3/11 Clomid-Ovidrel-IUI #1-progesterone= BFN.
5/11 Femara-Bravelle-Ovidrel-IUI#2-progesterone=BFN.
6/11 Femara-Ovidrel-IUI#3-progesterone=BFP!
Beta #1 7/1: 39. Beta #2 7/5: 301 U/S 7/19 - saw HB!!
EDD 3/12/12
DD born 3/5/12
Baby #2 Beta #1 12/16: 439. Beta #2 12/18: 1240
EDD 8/22/15