DH & I CANNOT agree :-( Please help!!!
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DH has insomnia issues. He also takes meds for ADHD (stimulant) that probably affect his sleep too. He takes a rx sleeping pill at night, but it doesn't always work. In these cases, if he wakes up / is woken up, he can be up for 1-3 hrs before getting back to sleep. Makes him a complete SOB to live with.
DD#2 has never been a good sleeper. She has always cried out at least 1-2 times per night (in her sleep or awake, not sure). Anyway, she has only recently started falling back asleep on her own without my help.
Her canine? teeth have been hell, so I started giving her kid's advil at bedtime.
Well, I am *pretty* sure her teeth aren't an issue any longer and her night time crying is just her-being-her KWIM?
Anyway, DH wants me to keep giving her the advil at bedtime....in his mind, she's crying in pain and feels it helps her sleep...therefore helping him sleep.
I do NOT like giving her advil at all....let alone every night indefinitely.....
It's causing major stress & resentments. He feels I am putting DD#2 before him and his needs for sleep yadda yadda yadda.
But, I don't think it's healty to take ibuprofin every day...and I think DD has to learn to outgrow this nighttime crying on her own KWIM? She was going back to sleep after maybe 5 minutes...now, the minute she cries, he's bitching at me to go give her more advil :-(
Any suggestions?
Re: DH & I CANNOT agree :-( Please help!!!
YES! My thoughts exactly. I don't think it's safe / healthy for a 28lb little body to have ibuprofin in it every day :-(
Isn't this part of being a parent? Stop giving the ibu and work on her sleeping. Your H should get some earplugs, white noise machine or move to another part of the house. It kind of sounds like your H thinks popping a pill will solve everything. I am not anti-pill, but it sounds like you think she doesn't need medicine, so why give it to her?
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He sounds like he is being a child. She doesn't need it everyday. She is probably going through a sleeping phase. My daughter has this happen to her where she will have trouble sleeping.
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An adult shouldn't have advil every day much less a toddler, so tell your DH that you will not continue doing that and you don't care how much sleep he loses.
DD experiences sleep regression after every illness/teething incident. It's tempting to medicate for every cry after they've been sick, but I think you're doing the right thing.
I have no advice for you DH. Can you make him sleep in the living room?
As someone with ADHD(currently unmedicated) and sleep issues(also unmedicated), I can say that your H is wrong and being selfish. That's me putting it nicely.
Seriously, you can't give kids pain meds in perpetuity.
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