Because it's late and I always loved unsolicited 0-3 mom's when I was in 3rd tri (sarcasm.) but seriously, I have to share.
I had myself scared to death of delivery, seriously. I had a c/s with DD1 so I had no idea what to expect. I didn't discover the bump until I got pregnant with DD2 and hearing everyone talk about the god awful things that were going to happen to my vagina scared the sh!t out of me. I almost scheduled a repeat c/s because of it.
But, I had a VBAC. And I have good news, it's not necessarily going to be that bad! Obviously, everyone is different, but, I pushed for 32 minutes. I had no tears or cuts, so therefore no stitches. I was up out of bed, walking around 20 minutes after I gave birth (and I had an epi. But never lost feeling in my legs.) I was sitting on my bed an hour later saying how it was so not as bad as I thought. I was sore, sure, but my arms hurt worse from pulling while I was pushing then my vagina. My crazy heavy bleeding was much less by the time I left the hospital, and stopped completely at 3 weeks PP. I had sex (against the rules) at 3 weeks PP and it didn't hurt. Now at 5 weeks PP, I've been having sex every day and it's absolutely amazing. OH, and I've never had a hemorrhoid in my life and was seriously afraid I would get one from pushing, but I didn't have that issue either.
You might be totally opposite from me but I wish I had read a story like this when I was still pregnant. It's nice to know it's not always the end of the world. haha.
Re: Your vagina is not doomed!
My FI likes to make jokes about what the damage will be down there. I've heard many OBs say that it goes back to the way it was before. I know FI is just teasing, but it still bothers me a bit. I'm hoping to heal quickly and not have to wait six weeks for sex :P
I'm curious how long it takes for the tummy skin to snap back, too.
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My tummy skin took about a month to firm up. At first it's like jello. I had no tears (well, 1 tiny internal stitch that she almost didn't do), no stretch marks, and very little pain involved in general with labor (especially after a wonderful epidural!). My experience was totally awesome and I hope you all get as great of an experience. Oh, and my vag is just fine
YAYYY!!!
Thanks for sharing. There IS hope! hahaha
Typical...
Exactly!
Married since 06/19/2004|Anna born 11/19/2006|Charles born 11/1/11
Double undergrad graduation May 2011| Me: Psychology, DH: Communication| A long journey!
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Yes. I am aware that it's because of the risk of infection.
For me, sex>risk of infection. So, I guess I just don't care. haha.
Baby #4; 7/7/2018
My second was a VBAC as well, and I did end up with about 7 stitches, which was not nearly as bad as I thought it would be. I was a little incontinent for a week or so after delivery, but that was it. I would get a little twinge of pain every so often where my stitches were-not even during sex-more hormonal with my period. My third baby is due in three days, hoping everything stretches easier this time-my abs sure have, so hopefully the critical areas will too Gotta say, peeing a little when I'd cough or laugh was way better than feeling like my guts were going to spill onto the floor after the c section.