It's not like it's a huge issue right now, especially since we don't know whether or not this LO is a boy or girl...BUT...
We have shared our girl name with people that ask because it's the only one that's decided on. It wasn't well received by a few, and I kinda bit my tongue about it.
Well, we are sharing the names as soon as we decide and as soon as know about the boy/girl thing, and I have decided that I am going to start telling people that give rude responses FLAT OUT that their comments are rude and insensitive! If they have the nerve to be that rude then I can have the nerve to tell them just how rude they are!
Anyone else with me on this?
Re: S/O names, getting flack for your choice
Yeah, I saw that, and I thought this topic was large enough to stand alone in its own thread. I am really curious to know how everyone feels about it.
Calvin is one of many on our list of boy names! It's my dad's middle name, so I am hoping that fact alone will shut a few people up if we use it somewhere in a boy's name.
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When people would ask about DD's name when I was pg with her, I would tell them that I would tell them, but they had to swear not to say anything negative at all. That the only opinion I was interested in hearing was "Oh that's so pretty" so if they couldn't promise to say that I wouldn't tell them. Everyone agreed and we told our name and it was lovely!
EXCEPT - for FIL. He asked about names and I rattled off our shortened list and when I said "Delilah" (which was my favorite) he made some "yuck" sound. I never told DH. If DH knew his Dad "yucked" the name, he probably wouldn't have agreed to Delilah!
DMoney will be a kickass big sister
I love Delilah! DH likes a few other names a little more, so I had to bump it down on our list. The girl name in question for us is Vera ("Veeera") Katherine. We got flack for it on both sides of the family, and that's just tough. If we ever have a daughter, that will ber her name and that's all there is to it.
I like your idea though, Janimal, of warning those who really want to know. It's certainly something to think about when sharing!
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i've dealt with a negative comments about our name choice.. no one has come right out and said anything to our faces but my friend wasn't in love with it at first. but like i told her, that will be this baby's name if he is in fact a boy, so you better get used to it. she said its grown on her now and she loves it.. something she wouldn't say if she didn't really mean it.
i'm okay with people not liking our name because its not that common.. but being rude is unacceptable i think. if its not your style, that's fine.. but if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.
Calvin is adorable! Are you going to call him Cal? I love NN. We have had a bit of this problem, but I don't care. Gordon for a boy, which was my Meme's maiden name, and Evelyn for a girl. We know Gordon is a bit out of the ordinary, but that is exactly why we like it!
Wth is with people? Hadley, Vera is a beautiful name! I've gotten weird faces when I've told people our girl's name choice and then I'll add that it incorporates my late grandmother's name (which is true). That seems to shut them up.
Well, we haven't totally decided on whether or not to use it...we just can't settle on one boy name, but I do have a cousin on that side of the family that goes by Cal, so we would use the entire name.
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We are not telling a soul until after the baby is born! Just don't want to deal with people's crap. Esp since our girl name is a little unusual.
This is, of course, as long as DH can keep the secret! I'm starting to have my doubts. We work at the same place and agreed not to tell anyone that I'm pg until 2nd tri. Well, he's already told 5 people!!! Arg. Hopefully they all keep their mouths shut
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We don't have a boy's name picked out, but we decided on our girl's name the day I found out I was pregnant: Katherine Rose, with Kate as a nickname. I share it with people who ask, but I've never been one to care too much about what others think. I've only gotten positive responses as it is a classic name (or people fear me, ha).
My mother named me after a member of her family who had a Russian name, but she used the American version. I thank her every day for doing that. I thought about maybe doing a Russian name, but hearing my husband try to pronounce the ones I like made me change my mind.
If she starts again, remind her that he had her fun naming kids, or at least imagine you said that to her.